Punishments and Task

[Vo****]

I have always heard about punishments and tasks within Dom-Sub relationships but I havent practiced then as much. I build strong bonds with my subs but I have been wondering if I should incorporate this dynamic more.

What tasks would you guys suggest and what woukd appropriate punishments be?

[Se****]

Personally I’d ask your sub(s). The community could give you a raft of ideas and every single one could be wholly inappropriate for your relationship/dynamic. Ask them what they want/need, think about what you want/need then work out the most appropriate ways to incorporate it.

I am also a huge believer in the punishment fitting the “crime” - over punishing someone, I believe, leads to them wondering why they’re even bothering and over time builds up resentment (or worse still feeling coerced into completing a task because the punishment for not doing so is so horrendous). I don’t know about other subs but for me, knowing I’ve failed or disappointed someone is often (not always) enough of a punishment in itself.

But for the love of everything, make sure you clearly discuss punishments, what constitutes requiring a punishment and what is appropriate/off limits.

[Sq****]

Incorporate it if the sub wants it in their boundaries or is willing, otherwise... No.

[Ot****]

If you’ve gotten along this far without them, stop and ask yourself why you want to add them now?

Everyone has a different idea of what these things are, and I’ll share my definitions. You’re free to choose your own.

A task is a discreet activity (meaning it has a clear beginning and end, can be measured, etc) that your submissive partner does for you. Either as a one-time or recurring task. For example, this could be that you want a selfie with a good morning message every day. Or that they are to send you a picture of their bed made every weekend & holiday morning. Or they must drink 1.5 liters of water every day.

Tasks are different than protocols because protocols dictate how one behaves. Tasks are something that some one does.

Punishments are something that I use to absolve my submissive partners of the burden of guilt when they’ve committed an offense within our dynamic. That could be violating a protocol, missing a task, disrespecting me, etc. They should always fit the “crime” as it were and it’s important that they are NOT things that the submissive partner enjoys. I do not believe in giving punishments when the submissive does not feel remorse, the best remedy there is release, but I also don’t use punishments as a form of correction.

What do I mean by this? A submissive who forgets to capitalize Sir in a text message will be given a correction. They must write 100 lines, in cursive, “I must always remember to capitalize Sir’s title”. That’s a correction. A submissive who doesn’t hand me something with both hands will be sent to do the task over again. That’s a correction.

One who disrespected me and comes to me in tears about over her actions and shows true remorse will get a punishment. That punishment will be something that they do not enjoy. Do not confuse play with punishments, lest you fall into the traps for funishments and I leave that space to the brat’s and their tamers.

Now I ask you to stop and think about how you might want to use Punishments or Tasks in your dynamic and how they will enrich (or detract) from your style of dominance.

Good luck.

[wa****]

The worst punishment was my very bad sub on an old outdoor fake grass mat kneeling holding books as a weight.
30 mins she realized her error