50 SHADES OF FUCKERY

[Ju****]

I love this post. I wanted to scream ‘it’s about time this was addressed’. I’ve been in this Lifestyle 35 years. I’ve made loads of mistakes along the way and love to be able to share my experiences with others. I feel that I’m still learning and growing every day. I cannot imagine starting this journey now. In this day and age. The age of information and misinformation. Terribly confusing for someone new to the Lifestyle. I was trained Old Guard. Bratting didn’t used to be the thing it is now. (Although I’ve been known to brat myself without even realizing I’m doing it.

Anyway, thank you OP from my bottom of my heart. Never stop learning. Never stop TEACHING. Peace.

[sa****]

OMG this post is IT!!! I'm new to the community, always had an interest in the lifestyle but only just bad the courage to actively seek out knowledge and community. Coming forward on this was one of the hardest things I've ever done, it was the most *** feeling... but posts like yours GIVE ME HOPE, as well as validate everything I've experienced since crossing this threshold. I am so glad it's not sketchy to admit interest and lack of experience without sounding like an ass, so first and foremost, thank you so much for breaking this down.

Secondly, waaaaayyyyyy before i ever had the courage to be here, i actively spoke out about the 50 shades societal fixation, and how problematic it was. I didn't have the words for it like you did, but i always said i wonder how many first times this s**t ruined? How many people have been hurt or manipulated into this, now that it's "mainstream"... so many concerns. You put it so well, i just had to thank you! ❤️

[BD****]

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[pe****]

Thank you. This cannot be said enough. The worst thing to happen to the kink community in recent time has been those movies, at least in my opinion. So many misguided people have been hurt or accidentally hurt loved ones. Not to mention the monsters that siezed the opportunity to take advantage of the ***. May I also say. You can't be in a healthy kink dynamic if you haven't done the work on yourself first. Kink is not therapy. Using it like this is only damaging for all involved.

[fr****]

Well Said Mate’ You have a clear understanding of 50 shades and BDSM etiquette!!!

[Ro****]

Very much. Unfortunately, books that actually represent the lifestyle don't do so well so the harm continues.

[mb****]

This is so well put this comes up alot at our munch

[Lu****]

Well said!!

[wo****]

Can you share specifics about the stories women have sent you messages about? (Obviously removing anything that could identify someone and running it by the individuals to see if it’s ok with them).

With specifics about real life examples it could enlighten other men to recognize the concerning behaviors themselves. It would also help everyone to be better informed. With more specific and concrete information lots of us would be in a better position to offer helpful advice as to how women could respond to lessen the negative impact and also help their man to be more empathetic towards their female subs.

You have done a great service in bringing this topic to the table. I would love to see it taken to the next level by facilitating improved insight for people and potentially more helpful advice for others.

[Deleted Member]

Could just start and open with...

I’ll give you a place you can seek when times seem uncertain. In exchange all I ask is for you to correct me when I occasionally fail to make you feel better, harder, with more intent, a very certain amount of conviction that tells you only one thing that is going to happen next: submission, let me show you, not tell you..