Threesomes in LTR

[Ky****]

What’s your experience been having group sex while in a committed relationship? (Aka not poly)

How did it affect your relationship? How do you deal with jealousy?

We’re new to this so we’d love to hear your thoughts!

[go****]

respectfully, don't throw random shots at poly relationships because those are just as "committed" as mono ones. just because you don't understand the specifics doesn't give you the leeway to put down their dynamics

[No****]

It actually comes to how your trust is. 😇

[He****]

So this is one I can speak to as a guy. I actually set up a threesome with one of my friends with my wife MFM. We have been married for 24 years so when it happened we've already been married for over 20 years and there was a lot of trust. I would say there really is no cookie cutter answer for something like this because it definitely depends on your relationship Dynamics with the one you're with and frankly he really don't know how one or the other will react until it actually happens. I am not the jealous type and I'm very secure in my own manhood etc so I was never worried about my wife falling for the guy or anything like that and yes even with all that there were a couple times where I did feel some jealousy but overall I will honestly say without a doubt it was actually very very good for my relationship. I actually paid more attention to her than I had in years and it brought us closer together and I would say my experience was probably the best case scenario you could get out of something like that. But like I said, every relationship is different and the Dynamics are different depending on who the person is to because if it's somebody that you already know that's joining with you you may not be jealous of that person or you may have more tendencies to be jealous of that person so there's a lot of variables there I guess is what I'm trying to say..

[Deleted Member]

We just went and did it at a kinky party. You don't really get to know people and when you get back to your everyday life's it's just an experience you share. And as a bi sexualls we recommend a person who's also bi so everyone wants everyone. And yes you do sometimes get jealous but just talk about it.

[RichardBlack61]

First time was strange but that’s why I can’t stop 😈

[Ba****]

The main thing prior to starting is to make sure guidelines are set. Then remain in constant communication throughout. Theres nothing worse than thinking you know what the other person is thinking and it turns out to not be correct. Don't stop communication either because feelings change over time. Thats really the main things.

[ph****]

Several threesomes with an ex boyfriend is all. mmf's and ffm's

[me****]

I'm new to this experience and looking forward to a kinky couple using me sexually behind close doors

[Ku****]

One time I had a 3some with my partner and a full blown lesbian. I didnt like it. But then we got a girl that was into both of us. It was so much better. I didnt feel jealous one bit!

[jo****]

The most important part of the spectrum of “the lifestyle” is tied together with the best part of it all, communication. Walk through all of the things that you might experience and ask each other candidly if you are okay with it. Get wild. Think of things you’d never expect “what if he has a 22” penis?” “What if he has a micro penis?” “What if she smells like a horse stall?” “What if it’s perfect and we want to do it again?” “What if he invites us to his gang bang?”
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Ask the questions; discuss the answers

[Wr****]

Honestly and complete open communication is imperative. That’s who my fiance and I started out and that’s how we still are. We tell each other everything, how we feel, what we feel, why we feel it.
If anyone is ever uncomfortable ( happened maybe twice in 2 years) then we stop right there and evaluate why, and what the solution is. Don’t let anything stew, if you feel something say something.

[Ka****]

It can work, it can not work, and cause problems. The best way to do it, in my opinion, is if it's a dude... let the dudes work it out. If there's no contact between the extra dude and chick... then the guys can just bro it out and primary dude just invites extra dude to share. No direct contact between extra dude and chick... no need for jealousy or potential trust issues, and all you're left with is the fun and the experience. Vice versa with chicks. Again, just my opinion and my experience. Everyone is different, but that's how it worked for me.

[Ki****]

My playmate is submissive and was reluctant to bring another woman into our bed. I made the arrangements and surprised her, yes at first she had the jealous feeling but after we had a long discussion and now it is part of our regular life. I've even arranged another man to join us on occasion.

[an****]

It’s not for the weak at all. Deff before even doing it, both partners need to openly discuss things, lay down the rules of what is and what is not going to be allowed. If either is even the slightly jealous kind I suggest to not even give this another thought. What sounds like fun can and mot likely ruin the relationship if there are any feelings hurt.

[wo****]

I haven’t done this either with a committed partner or separately while in a committed relationship. The former because of selfishness, ego, and concerns about the negative impact it might have on the relationship. The latter because my ex-wife would not have approved one the one hand, and because I don’t believe in cheating on the other.

[wa****]

Let it happen naturally don’t put any pressure enjoy the moment

[De****]

Welcome to something new. Just so you know non-monogamous and polyamorous individuals can still be in committed relationships. I feel that clarification is important based on how the question was structured. There’s no real room for jealousy in parties of 3 or more. Jealousy is more of a conditionally monogamous trait than something to “deal with” in a group sex or non-monogamous setting. With that said if I go to a play party with my partner and either one of us gets even a little bit jealous still going through with it is extremely unhealthy. Jealousy is a product of insecurity and ***. You can’t really have a good time unless you understand why you are jealous and absolve it. Now if it’s the type of jealousy where someone is not getting enough attention in a scene you’ll need to make adjusting so everyone is having fun. Negotiations are really important before hand where you and your partner(s) understand what is ok and what is not before consenting to anything which can be fun in itself as you explore. Stay curious and respect each other’s boundaries.

[Te****]

Having a bi lady join us just makes a perfect fit. M'lady is pansexual I love the ladies, works great for us sort of meats(pun intended) all our needs, most of our wants and increases our connection between us. I would say the most important thing is no secrets tell your partner everything and have fun

[Sq****]

If you have to -deal- with jealousy then it's probably not for you. You're wired for it or you're not. Either direction is okay. But forcing yourself or your partner to 'deal' with it is going to go very, very poorly.

[Cu****]

Jealousy is going to happen - don't dismiss is and face the feelings, be open and discuss them - be able to talk them through

[Vi****]

It’s all about building up the trust before you introduce a third .. it’s about appreciating and acknowledging your partners desires and willing to do it for him or her.. if the test is deep and your partner knows that you are solely committed to her/him, bringing in a third only spices things up

[Deleted Member]

Very very fun! The excitement of a new person! The thrill of hunting around! But also the struggle to find a normal person that's sex driven and down to hangout if hard ..

[al****]

Didn’t work out that well my SO got jealous, broke up and moved out because I “spent more time on her than me” .
I didn’t think it was a problem after watching them go at each other all day. Who’s got the timer out? The other chick ended up staying so it all worked out. Other times I’ve had decent luck and nobody got jelly and everyone enjoyed it.

[kr****]

Don’t do it. The women usually benefits from getting plowed by someone else and if she’s the one who mentions having threesomes she’s for the streets.