Do you comment… positive or negative?

[jo****]

If we are in public and you look good, I will say so. If you look bad, I will likely comment on something I like (your shoes or your nails or something). It can be awkward but that is part of the social contract.
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If you are online and you look good: same result. We should all build each other up.
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If you are online and look like a truck ran you over, I might still make the awkward, “love that shirt” comment, but will usually just move on.
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Generally speaking, we should use the power of this (and any) forum to support each other and make the community better.

[23****]

Always positive in my opinion,,why negative only negative is pitty

[Le****]

My parents instilled in me “if you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” The only exception I make is to correct misinformation.

[fe****]

I grew up being bullied at school and at home. It takes me forever to find a pic I feel is worthy to be posted now. If I comment on someone's pic its always positive. If I come across a pic that I don't like and can't find something nice to say about it I keep scrolling and keep the negative thought to myself. I never want to be the person that made someone feel bad about themselves.

[Ta****]

I was always told "if you have nothing nice to say then say nothing" & i have gone through life using this because there is way too much spitefulness, nastyness & blatant disrespect towards others in general but on a platform such as this where the community is supposed to be so inclusive & non judgemental this kind of behaviour is part of what is wrong within the community.
People need to stop & think before commenting, messaging, saying things & remember we are all on our own journeys & dont need the negativity.
People post for their own reasons on their own page so if its something you dont like just scroll on past!!!

[ma****]

People are different, it's just important to accept God's creation and look at the other qualities than appearance alone.
When people react and act, always remember it's not because of you..rather it's unfinished business and upbringing that they display

[Lu****]

I always post positively on online stuff. I tend to avoid those posting negatively because I find that kind of stuff brushes off on people and I don't need that.

In person though! I do say mean things, but a lot of things would have to happen. Like how long I have known the person, can they take a joke and other small factors. I can express myself better in person and even though if I say a negative thing. I can express I'm joking. It's just friendly banter to between friends. Of course I would never joke or be mean to anyone that I didn't know on a personal level.

I try to give everyone a fair chance! But I prefer talking versus swiping. Let's me know if this is a person I can even talk to. 😁

[Se****]

25 minutes ago, feral_pet said:

I grew up being bullied at school and at home. It takes me forever to find a pic I feel is worthy to be posted now. If I comment on someone's pic its always positive. If I come across a pic that I don't like and can't find something nice to say about it I keep scrolling and keep the negative thought to myself. I never want to be the person that made someone feel bad about themselves.

Yeah I was bullied too (sorry you experienced it) and despite what people may believe given how many pics I post there are 10 times as many that didn’t make the cut due to the flaws I’ve seen in them.

I believe in the keep scrolling method - everyone is attractive to someone in some way and just because they aren’t attractive to me doesn’t mean I need to be rude or offensive x

[al****]

Some people like being nasty for the sake of it. I actually had a random dude DM me with a message that said, “Hi Ugly Fat pig bitch., you’re mine now.” I just laughed because it was ridiculous. He wanted a negative reaction and the fact that I laughed at him instead of cowering or getting mad really ***ed him off. I sometimes wonder if they enjoy the attention like the little bullies in the school yard. Just ignore them. Stay happy and it will *** them off. That’s what they are trying to do, ruin your day to make themselves feel better.

But pertaining to your actual question. I never respond positively or negatively to anyone’s photos. I don’t want to invite a return comment. I’m also of the school of, “to each their own”
There is only one time I’ve ever commented on a picture here and it was because the dude kept posting the same picture of the tip of his tool sticking from the leg of his boxers like 20 times a day. My whole feed was nothing but his pecker tip., it got annoying. I think I said,” can you stop posting this please?” Finally I just blocked him and that solved the problem

[Sc****]

If I post a comment it's nice and genuine I can't stand it when people just post shit to be mean

[Cr****]

Why waste time being mean?!
Nobody wins!

[G-RaveDad66]

I’m sorry that happened 😔. Definitely not the point of these sites. I hope you didn’t let it ruin your day. Everybody has different *** and nobody needs it pointed out. I hope you have a great weekend. 🫶

[sm****]

I never comment to any pictures, never seen the point in being negative to anyone's posted pictures, if they post a topic that Im interested in, have experience in ill add the odd comment from my viewpoint or experience.   I can't see the point in being negative or argumentative if someone says something i don't like, i just ignore it and move on.  If i have commented on a subject it means something to me, otherwise i find a lot of things superficial and let it disappear in to the internet forgotten zone.

 

Being mean and negative for the sake of something, just shows you a persons character and forget them.

Edited 2 hours ago by smeagol

[sm****]

When i read negative comments on any post I read, i also see an ego, and sometimes it show's an individuals lack of social morals/etiquette and inexperience/immaturity in social interactions.

[jo****]

Im a very positive person. I do interact and im positive where it calls for it.

[Ta****]

I will only say something positive. If someone is brave enough to post something, you should never make them feel *** and say something negative.

[PL****]

The psychologically behind bullies is often the individual is insecure or has been bullied themselves. Bullying is literally a power need that hasn't been met. This does not excuse the bullying behavior, but does help explain it a bit. Obviously, it is much more complicated than that simple explanation. However, the point is to say, their behavior is their own. It's not okay, it should never be accepted, but we can try to understand it. Positive comments are what everyone should post or nothing at all, but shoulda, woulda, coulda...

[Daddybrains]

I “heart” photos based on a combination of attraction and the effort or courage it took to make and post the photo (does not require both). I comment, positively, when something really strikes me or when I’m in lust. I don’t leave negative comments on photos.

People who leave negative comments might be playing psychological games, or might be servicing their own kinks / psyches. Sometimes it’s “negging” - a trick used by pick-up artists to get a woman to try to impress you. Sometimes it’s an appeal to what they think is your opposite-of-praise kink, to try to throw you into some kind of subspace. Sometimes it’s their own sadism or their own misogyny.

A musician friend used to say: make your art for you; once you start making it for the fans you’ve sold out. Whatev - sometimes it’s all about the fans ;-) Ignore the haters as their trash-talk is just about them not about you.

[Ne****]

I am intensely aware to NOT comment on others' physicality, regardless what I personally think (about it/them...)

I also rarely engage in selfies and such for approval, accolades, self-esteem etcetera. I recognise when I need/want an ego boost, what's behind it and so forth, and keep any attention received at arm's length, as it isn't real - the effects most assuredly are be they pos or neg - but the weight of others' OPINIONS <-!! isn't and shouldn't be heavier than our own and our desire to be seen, feel good things like pride, confidence, body affirmity, acceptance, and so on.

The psychology of commenting negatively online can have to do with a person's insecurities, feelings of inadequacy, AND a need to assert dominance.

We can only speculate why •this• person said •that• without having them to answer and respond HONESTLY. [Typically, folks who are these ways and engage in auch behaviours, aren't honest with THEMSELVES/Don't know how to be/and or errantly think more highly of themselves + their world view and beliefs + may be secretly struggling _____ though none of this is justification for behaving terribly!!!!

"When I hurt, (I want them) to hurt."
"I don't like or understand the look of 'this', therefore I must Tell Them and Everybody I can just how much I dislike 'this'" which translates to *YOU* being awful, ugly, wrong, Abomination!!! (my favourite ridiculosity!!)

Good on You, OP, for recognising your own issues, and being proactive in getting your needs regarding self-image and such met. This and places like it can be super great at times for getting that hit of dopamine [you doing with it what you like, appropriating thar input wherever in your mind you need to.]
However, if you're wanting purity.. True, unconditional, genuine approval or acceptance, especially for your physical form, this might not be the best to get that or build esteem.

There will always exist pos and neg, toxic and non-toxic. Choose your battlegrounds wisely.

[sm****]

the other side of commenting, online "most people hide behind that online persona" and the internet anonymity, egos think there are no r/l consequences to their actions, can say what they do to offend.  One reason i only take online interactions as face value.  Meeting and interacting in the scene in a real world situation, people tend to be more diplomatic/understanding and courteous.  You get a bad rep in the real life scene world you get shunned and for good reason.

[Ne****]

12 minutes ago, smeagol said:

the other side of commenting, online "most people hide behind that online persona" and the internet anonymity, egos think there are no r/l consequences to their actions, can say what they do to offend.  One reason i only take online interactions as face value.  Meeting and interacting in the scene in a real world situation, people tend to be more diplomatic/understanding and courteous.  You get a bad rep in the real life scene world you get shunned and for good reason.

...DEHUMANIZING. It dehumanizes people and that makes it easier for people to insult, fire off, feel superior etc.

[Fr****]

If I take the effort to comment, it will be positive and possibly naughty. If I have negative emotions with regards to your post, I rather not respond.