Does anyone like brat taming anymore?

[4R****]

Why would any brat want to be tamed? If you tame something the you change it to the extent that it no longer is…….. A feral cat that’s tamed is no longer feral. A ferocios dog that’s tamed is no longer ferocious, so it follows that a brat that is tamed is no longer a brat. So I’d much rather HANDLE a Brat rather than Tame them.

I love playing with brats, they’re great fun and, as long as they do it right and don’t take things too far, the banter and the connection can be incredibly rewarding. Handling a brat takes skill, foresight and a great deal of upward eye-rolls, head shakes and “FFS’s”.
 

As someone said earlier bratting has to be consensual and the boundaries have to be negotiated first so that neither party oversteps. Once that agreement is made, the brat is free to brat and the brat handler is free to react in whatever way they see gotas long as it’s within negotiated limits.
 

I enjoy that connection, a bratting allows me to be creative and respond in deliciously sadistic ways - so why on earth would I want to tame the brat? Noooooooo I want to handle them, put them in their place and remind them who’s boss, but I wouldn’t want to tame them at all! 
 

Brats (who are bratting properly) are playful, not offensive but there are limits and the line has to be drawn in advance because a brat will want to brat up to it, but never cross it as that would ruin the game. 

[BruiseWayne]

5 hours ago, BlondageDoll said:

Yes, exactly this. I was doing it wrong, exposing people to my bratting who had not consented to experience that. Fortunately with the guidance of more experienced kinksters I learned that calling myself a brat is not a free pass for being rude to people. Save it for the bedroom folks. Or if you're going to do it at an event make sure it's only your consenting partner who is on the receiving end.

It's good to see you learned and grew from the experience. Too many people these days and ESPECIALLY in this lifestyle aren't capable of that kind of self reflection or being able to admit that something they're doing isn't 1000% awesome ALL the time. 

 

So good on you for recognizing you had a bad behavior that needed to be dealt with and you made the necessary changes.

[Sq****]

No. I don't bother with it, personally. I've had one too many utilize it to be abusive guised as bratty outside of established and communicated boundaries.

[my****]

Does any… yes there’s always someone into what you’re into. Do I personally, no. I get nothing out of brat taming. It’s so much effort and when they behave it’s fleeting. It’s like starting over every session. So clearly not for me.

[sw****]

I personally love a bratty girl, I would say if they don't pick up on it right away. Use an emoji, and if they still don't get it then it's just not for them. Usually context applies and if they can't pick up on it they aren't looking for it

[li****]

The first time a sub of mine acted bratty to me I got so shocked that I almost didn't want to talk to him anymore. There are subs that will act more aggressive than their dominants and if you're going to do so, that's something that needs to be consented to as well.

[li****]

1 minute ago, liliththedivine said:

The first time a sub of mine acted bratty to me I got so shocked that I almost didn't want to talk to him anymore. There are subs that will act more aggressive than their dominants and if you're going to do so, that's something that needs to be consented to as well.

Just to answer your question, no, brats are a deal-breaker to me.

[ro****]

Brats are a huge turnoff, definitely a deal breaker!

[Qu****]

Imo brattiness exists in both kink and vanilla worlds in flirtation. I personally love brattiness since I'm considered a bratty Domme and regularly mix brattiness and humor into the mix.
Honestly, if any form of submissive was always super obedient, I feel that there wouldn't be any spark to the dynamic.

[Lo****]

I'll have to agree with others here. I'm not sure I've ever been into brat taming. But I'm sure there are some men out there that are into it? Possibly? I just never met anyone that was ACTUALLY into brat taming. Again, just my two cents here

[st****]

I do still like taming brats. And I do it in a way brats hate.

[Br****]

It's a weird one. Sometimes it's cute when it's "genuine", most of the times just becomes annoying

[le****]

If it’s out of the blue or public and wasn’t discussed prior I could see some annoyance. If I’m with a trusted partner and they decided to brat out in a scene? Well the tamer comes out and the brat gets what they wanted, to wrestle (figuratively and literally) and normally hog tied or suspended in a one rope situation.

[ca****]

So here’s the thing. As a sub you want the dynamic, but most female subs want that to flow naturally and feel the chemistry because stars align and you happen to run into someone you also find attractive. There is nothing wrong with wanting that. However this is real life and you have to deal with the era you were born into.

Dom side: just because a guy is a Dom doesn’t mean he’s always pushing for sex or looking to flirt or doesn’t care about strangers and acquaintances boundaries. In fact most Dom’s want to care for and protect their subs. “ I’m the only one allowed to hurt you.”

Put your flirting with these guys and you’re not their sub. Not yet anyway. So here’s a guy that was raised in this era of toxic cancer culture, and constantly being told consent consent consent. The guys you’re flirting with might really wanna be the tamer. But they have no clue if it’s OK to be the tamer. Because you don’t belong to them yet or you haven’t stated it.

Just like a little girl doesn’t want to be called baby girl or a good girl by some stranger on a forum without permission . You are trying to *** your brattiness onto them. No, it’s not a bad thing. But it puts him in an odd position. There was a time where even non-Dom would just put you in your place. But that ain’t now. A lot of weak men out there. That were just raised wrong.

I’m all for feminism but toxic femininity has eroded manliness. But there’s an easy fix. Like super stupid easy.

Most guys have no idea that you were flirting with them anyway . In five years from now, he’ll be like oh shit and write about it on some Reddit for him that he was totally clueless.

So you’re easy fixes when you’re talking to him and you feel it’s right that you wanna go from regular flirting to being a brat . Touch his arm or lack of sitting down , lock, eyes and say “ do you know what a brat is ? Because I can be a bit of a brat can you handle that ?”

Then it’s game on he’ll either accept the challenge or walk away or crawl away be funny if it kind of ran like shaggy and Scooby from a ghost lol. 😂
But you probably will be solved and you’ll end up having a lot more fun 

[le****]

I love putting a brat in the proper place when they are overly confident and bad💯♠️😈. I invite you to come over and see my newly completed brat/bdsm play room ❤️‍🔥. I have a few pictures on my profile young Lady

[wo****]

15 hours ago, kingofpeach said:

I try not to be insulting or degrading right off the bat. I usually just say something sarcastic, but I understand tone is hard to decipher over text. 😵‍💫

I don’t know the settings or if you are doing it to complete strangers or what. Food for thought related to what others have said about coming across like an asshole-
When men act like assholes towards other men they don’t know while in public, especially for no reason, they are taking the risk of getting smacked in the face. Men value respect, especially in public.

[Li****]

i love brat taming. 😇 try me 😈

[PT****]

preface it for sure

[si****]

It depends on the context of the conversation, eventho we are on kinky app some might like to talk normal at first to not be too pushy for sex or needy “thats how i like it personally “. Then step by step escalate ur bratty side and the man should escalate his dom side , and in real meet then its easy to spot if u r bratty or really pushing him away ,

[kinkymasterandrew]

Being bratty is fine if it's discussed first. It's like a dom ordering you around without discussing it first. From the dominant's perspective, since nothing was discussed, the dom doesn't have permission to do anything except take it like anyone else would in any context. That's how I see things.

[Vi****]

On 12/19/2025 at 5:09 AM, Kaserai said:

A lot of 'doms' especially here arent doms. They gives themselves labels they havent earned or even, in most case, researched. They think because they have the male genitalia theyre a dom. You'll find their 'punishments' or even 'funishments' are just s*x. Theyve no imagination to come up with a consequence and no power to en*** a consequence if you push back... Im very bratty, in rope I'll grab the rope or be sassy and the tops I play with think its hilarious and get creative with poking me so it tickles, tying tighter (safely) to create ***, moving knots to pressure points etc. I dare say get to events and meet people cause most 'doms' online are just boys who cant get laid on tinder and think it'll be easier in kink space :)

While true, this is wholly irrelevant to the topic. Whether he is a dom or a fake dom, bad behavior is bad behavior. "Brats" who brat 24/7, even when not in a dynamic are going to just come off as an asshole. Her behavior with strangers has nothing to do with his dom status. Everything you described about your bratty nature is in context of a scene or with a partner, OP is talking about being bratty to some random guy in Starbucks hoping to get his attention. These are two entirely different scenarios. 

[Vi****]

19 hours ago, simpysammm said:

Honestly as long as you’ve discussed that you’re a brat looking for a brat tamer and they’ve consented, you’ve spoken about limits and such - you shouldn’t have to sugar coat it, the right brat tamer will know you’re teasing and if they’re not in the mood for it they would communicate that.

Personally, I find that theres a lot of brats and not enough experienced brat tamers. I find most Doms are not into brat taming and they prefer obedience or instant submission. So it’s all about consent, communication and finding someone who is interested in brat taming.

Indeed, the problem here is that OP was talking about being bratty with random people, not having had prior conversations about it. This was just her style of flirting. What she was doing is no different than if my kink is *** and I walk up to a random woman in the grocery store and say "Hey, you dumb bitch, what's up?" (or whatever the preferred *** is)

[Ka****]

41 minutes ago, VirginiaGuy77 said:

While true, this is wholly irrelevant to the topic. Whether he is a dom or a fake dom, bad behavior is bad behavior. "Brats" who brat 24/7, even when not in a dynamic are going to just come off as an asshole. Her behavior with strangers has nothing to do with his dom status. Everything you described about your bratty nature is in context of a scene or with a partner, OP is talking about being bratty to some random guy in Starbucks hoping to get his attention. These are two entirely different scenarios. 

I disagree. She is confused as to why self proclaimed doms cant handle her, my post relates directly to my experience over the last 2 years on this site. Brats arent always a role as Ive stated in another post here, especially when stinks of entitlement and ego cone into it. She also puts in here she doesnt do it right away, so while her approach may be the issue in some cases does not remove my point nor give you the right to dismiss it. Especially as you are not a submissive female on this site navigating this issue. You might find it irrelevant that a lot of dom/mes here assign themselves roles and titles they have no understanding of nor have researched but an out of line brat who doesnt quite understand when they should engage with a dynamic can also be checked respectfully and quickly with a simple 'Ah, I wonder if this is your bratty nature ***king out here but let me get to know the person in charge of the brat before we play those games'. Dom/mes who cannot read that this person is probably new and reacting to labels the dom has assigned themselves and teach them a little etiquette would probably have moped perhaps shoulf pay forward the grace they had when they first started swimming in this pool.

[da****]

Yesterday at 10:01 AM, Cutthroatcat said:

It's a them issue and not you, you don't need to change a single thing about yourself. Continue to defy, the right one will know what to do with you.

It’s 100% her and she knows it.
I know all you hard up dudes wanna co-sign her bullshit and that’s okay too but to insult disrespect and berate someone for their initial opening messages or whatever she deems offensive or toxic was her exact words is just a power trip. There’s filters for everything on this site, how talk how fat how kinky etc,
If the shoe was on the other foot and you or me or any other actual MAN hurled degrading insults at harmless women trying to approach me or you/he whoever would get de platformed immediately.
And also, any human being that’s perpetuating this absolute utter insanity is just as fucking guilty of the criminal act against truth as well.

[ki****]

27 minutes ago, dapperdan2777 said:

It’s 100% her and she knows it.
I know all you hard up dudes wanna co-sign her bullshit and that’s okay too but to insult disrespect and berate someone for their initial opening messages or whatever she deems offensive or toxic was her exact words is just a power trip. There’s filters for everything on this site, how talk how fat how kinky etc,
If the shoe was on the other foot and you or me or any other actual MAN hurled degrading insults at harmless women trying to approach me or you/he whoever would get de platformed immediately.
And also, any human being that’s perpetuating this absolute utter insanity is just as fucking guilty of the criminal act against truth as well.

You liked my photos and tried doing me while I was asleep, and this is how you conduct yourself after a perceived rejection? Dude, chill the fuck out. You're just mad I didn't respond right away and threw a tantrum.