Couples with males who are non participating

[Im****]

Im seeing a large number of women who are in open relationships with men who apparently don’t want any part of it. Though im having trouble believing this im more open minded to hearing your experiences on this matter and or opinions.

[Os****]

Very interesting topic!

[Sl****]

I’m seeing someone but my situation is different. I can’t get a woody because of my prostate. She has a FWB and I encourage her to enjoy anything she desires after her ex betrayed her heart.
I want every woman - really, every person regardless of gender - who practices kindness to make the best out of every encounter, without any judgment malice or anger. Men, y’all gotta kick your pride and jealousy to the curb. Women esp moms keep sacrificing of themselves regularly. They’re the everyday heroes in daily society and family life. They’re so willing to be loyal. We have to earn their loyalty and trust.

[Im****]

1 minute ago, Slave2WhiteWomen said:

I’m seeing someone but my situation is different. I can’t get a woody because of my prostate. She has a FWB and I encourage her to enjoy anything she desires after her ex betrayed her heart.
I want every woman - really, every person regardless of gender - who practices kindness to make the best out of every encounter, without any judgment malice or anger. Men, y’all gotta kick your pride and jealousy to the curb. Women esp moms keep sacrificing of themselves regularly. They’re the everyday heroes in daily society and family life. They’re so willing to be loyal. We have to earn their loyalty and trust.

Understandable, this isn’t necessarily about pride or deceit just curious of different dynamics or reasons that would call for this and I appreciate your insight and respect you greatly for your choices 🙂‍↕️🙏✨

[li****]

Do you mean a one-sided open relationship where the man isn't even allowed to watch?

[Im****]

33 minutes ago, liliththedivine said:

Do you mean a one-sided open relationship where the man isn't even allowed to watch?

I suppose that could be one example but I’m asking for examples and why not tryna fixate on one dynamic or lack of

[wo****]

Even if both the woman and man explained their side of things you still won’t know what is accurate as it can involve delicate and personal matters. If you saying men who “apparently” want no part of it… suggests you are getting the info from the woman only, you still might not have the accurate info. If by “seeing” a large number of women who are… means you are sexually involved with them, well you are in high demand. What they share is likely going to run through the typical human filter of minimizing wrong on their behalf, if any even exists to begin with.
As for in general, it could be anything. The men could be doing the same thing with women, and relationships take work to maintain.
My experience has been more with women secretly stepping out, with women whose husbands are chuckholes, and with women in relationships when both were swingers. I have never asked and they have never said. I dealt with logistics seeing women who were sneaking around but never wanted to understand specifics about their relationships either.
I would be curious if statistical information was presented, but it would be off of self reporting. It may point to a trend and could provide possible insight but all of the underlying details of the study need to be examined. Social science studies are often very flawed.

[Im****]

2 minutes ago, woburn169344 said:

Even if both the woman and man explained their side of things you still won’t know what is accurate as it can involve delicate and personal matters. If you saying men who “apparently” want no part of it… suggests you are getting the info from the woman only, you still might not have the accurate info. If by “seeing” a large number of women who are… means you are sexually involved with them, well you are in high demand. What they share is likely going to run through the typical human filter of minimizing wrong on their behalf, if any even exists to begin with.
As for in general, it could be anything. The men could be doing the same thing with women, and relationships take work to maintain.
My experience has been more with women secretly stepping out, with women whose husbands are chuckholes, and with women in relationships when both were swingers. I have never asked and they have never said. I dealt with logistics seeing women who were sneaking around but never wanted to understand specifics about their relationships either.
I would be curious if statistical information was presented, but it would be off of self reporting. It may point to a trend and could provide possible insight but all of the underlying details of the study need to be examined. Social science studies are often very flawed.

I feel you. Very technical and I appreciate your insight

[he****]

Here’s our relationship: we are very open. My wife goes out, I don’t play solo often. Not a cuckold situation, it’s a hot wife/stag-vixen situation.
Why? Because she’s a chick, early 40’s, MILF, she has the pick of the litter from 20’s -50’s.

I’m 50 and even though I still have an athletic body and don’t have horns growing out of my face, there’s not a lot of women who are not actually into the guy being attached. So I’ve accepted that my super hot wife can get all the dick and when the opportunity presents itself for me then I’m free to take it.

Hope that is clear as mud.

[Im****]

1 hour ago, henry-ashley-2006 said:

Here’s our relationship: we are very open. My wife goes out, I don’t play solo often. Not a cuckold situation, it’s a hot wife/stag-vixen situation.
Why? Because she’s a chick, early 40’s, MILF, she has the pick of the litter from 20’s -50’s.

I’m 50 and even though I still have an athletic body and don’t have horns growing out of my face, there’s not a lot of women who are not actually into the guy being attached. So I’ve accepted that my super hot wife can get all the dick and when the opportunity presents itself for me then I’m free to take it.

Hope that is clear as mud.

Sure. But why is everyone taking this so personal, geez.

[co****]

2 hours ago, henry-ashley-2006 said:

Here’s our relationship: we are very open. My wife goes out, I don’t play solo often. Not a cuckold situation, it’s a hot wife/stag-vixen situation.
Why? Because she’s a chick, early 40’s, MILF, she has the pick of the litter from 20’s -50’s.

I’m 50 and even though I still have an athletic body and don’t have horns growing out of my face, there’s not a lot of women who are not actually into the guy being attached. So I’ve accepted that my super hot wife can get all the dick and when the opportunity presents itself for me then I’m free to take it.

Hope that is clear as mud.

She is beautiful bro

[Wi****]

Most open relationships I've been introduced to, it's almost entirely only beneficial for the woman.
Women have an easier time finding sex/partners.

[li****]

9 hours ago, ImjustJake said:

I suppose that could be one example but I’m asking for examples and why not tryna fixate on one dynamic or lack of

I have experienced talking with cuckolds. Usually they aren't very successful with their search cause they approach with their kink, which obviously isn't the best foundation for a relationship. Heard from several people that arrangements like this rarely work, because the woman has a different idea of how the relationship should look like, as in with no intention of including the cuck in her affairs with other men.
I personally stay away from cuckolds because they are rarely truly submissive. They want to control the dynamic and have a "fun" girlfriend that will put a performance for their own excitement.

[ey****]

I think there are a lot of reasons/possibilities

1) Cuckold

2) the man has some form of impotence problems but is happy for his partner to get laid elsewhere

3) likes the idea of an open relationship, but doesn't like the idea of rejection/failure

4) Actually, has enough things he can do/enjoy while his wife is out with other people

5) Possibly less common these days.  He's gay. 

[Frenchies]

Sorry to disappoint you all !
We met about 18 months ago and married last month.
The big surprise has been to learn that before we met she served a dom during her student days. When asked if she regretted the experience, her reply was that she learnt to obey and reckoned submission is natural. After a few days she even admitted having fantasies about 'strangers' (she'd had a couple of glasses of wine though). How does a husband cope with that ? Firstly accepting his wife isn't so innocent and secondly having to either refuse or agree that she has her own needs.
In our case she decides, not necessarily involving me but not wanting to have any secrets.

[sardonicus87]

Wait, what's even the question here? Do you mean that the men don't want any part of being open in general, or that they specifically don't want to take part in the relationships the wife has with other people?

Not everyone who is open wants to date couples or date as a couple, and it cuts both ways. Open doesn't mean you have to do everything together. If I were to meet anyone (haven't in 10 years and doesn't look like I ever will), my wife would prefer to not have to talk to them at all. There's actually a lot of women that feel the same way. Hell, I've often even seen women in open relationships that refuse to date men who are in open relationships (the open relationship woman wanting to only date men who are single).

My wife and I are in an open marriage and neither of us as individuals wants to date couples, and neither of us wants to date as a couple... and this at least didn't used to be seen as weird or off.

But apparently, many couples don't get that, and even get offended and entitled when you don't want both of them.

There's many ways of being open/ENM and honestly, I am exhausted with this unicorn hunting or "you must be into both of us or you're closed-minded/bad" crap. Not all open/ENM has to involve "group participation" of the whole couple.

[Gothicclover]

I've noticed when the men let their women have sex with other people and they dont join is because they just prefer to see their women fucking another man. So the woman gets the experience of someone else without their partner trying to take over. Because sometimes they tend to take over and not let the other man do much with his woman. That's just my experience.

[sardonicus87]

Also should be noted, some people just aren't into some things and there's no reason why. Some people like things just because they like them and others don't just because they don't and it doesn't mean anything or say anything about them other than they just are or aren't.

Not everyone likes or dislikes the same things for the same reasons. Not sure why you can't believe it, it's literally in your face and you see it. Just because you like or want something a certain way or for certain reasons, doesn't mean others have to like them the same way or the same reasons.

Different people are different and there's not one way for anything. Like questions of "what do X group want?"... the answer is always "depends on the specific individual, people aren't homogeneous".

[Frenchies]

Totally agree with 'gothicclover'