Kink, lifestyle, and the Spectrum in-between

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I am realizing after many nights of contemplation, is not necissarily a kinky person for the sake of sexul expression. But instead a partner who prefers to go about our romantic relationship with me submitting to her in a lot of aspects. I am curious friends, what in that spectrum do your priotitize most? Does your preferences between the kinky and public spaces change? (Ie. A femdom wanting a partner to submit sexually. However typically in the relationship to be more dominating? The same would apply vise versa). Thanks!