No**** Posted January 23 Have you ever blindly met up and hooked up with someone wether you like them or not ? How do u make sure such a crazy idea is safe
ja**** Posted January 23 I did a few times after my divorce. I’m kind of a nut for background checks and meeting in public places fist but sometimes I’d just “go for it”. If you are unsure and want to play it safe, let somebody know where you are and let them know you’ll be checking in.
Te**** Posted January 23 It’s all about your outlook on the situation I’ve had plenty of girls meet up and had hot open minded fun with people and some friends that open minded enough too share with them and individuals
Bo**** Posted January 23 I once went to meet 3 top guys. Kinda crazy but turned out to be a fantastic filthy gangbang. I took a bag of sexy knickers and sex toys. And weapons. Some serious pepper spray and a 2ft stainless steel shoehorn. When I arrived I annexed a part of the room by the window checking to be sure I could open it. Declared 'this is going to be my area, so all my stuff is in one place' Big smile. Then proceeded to put the weapons at the top of my bag so I could grab them if needed. As it turned out the 3 men didn't have any intention of harming me. They just wanted a horny little fuckdoll to share and use all night. It was fantastic. This is not advice. I don't suggest anyone does the same as I did. But I do believe that sometimes you have to take risks if you want to really experience amazing things. Calculated risks. With the understanding it could go wrong and if it does, how to survive.
sw**** Posted January 23 Ask for proof of STD test results with ALL tests being done. This has become a non-negotiable for me.
At**** Posted January 23 Do your checks, do some calls and verify that you are talking to who you think you are talking to. It's all about laying out expectations and sticking to them. Always carry some sort of means to defend yourself. You must always remain cautious, but as long as everything is transparent it's fine. Public place for initial meet before anything private, a hotel is a good idea because of the amount of cameras that are everywhere but the rooms. Provides a small level of security over going to a random house cause it's more difficult to get away with pulling anything way shady. Text people you trust who know where you will be. Besides that there is a big psychological barrier that needs to be crossed if you have any anxiety about it, but on the other side it's absolute wonderful
fc**** Posted January 23 I have mostly been pleasantly surprised, but I do ask for a kiss to gauge the response. If they can't even manage one kiss, red flag
Po**** Posted January 23 You don’t. That’s the whole point. If you were to make it completely safe that would destroy the thrill of it. All that being said AtoB1113 said everything that you can do to lessen the risk of something truly awful happening. But if it were to be made absolutely safe then it wouldn’t be the same. It would be mundane.
Ki**** Posted January 23 I must admit…. A young delusional White girl I met off this app… It was safe cause I controlled the meeting time and place. And plus I’m a Bug Black Nigga, and she was a little white gurl!
ea**** Posted January 23 Exchange pics of drivers licenses, send it to your trusted friend, and get down to it
Fr**** Posted January 23 Yes, I did. It resulted in a surprise fisting session but remained a one-time meeting. It was safe, because I controlled the time and place. It was safe for her, because we agreed on stop words, wishes and absolute borders that were to be respected.
Et**** Posted January 23 I run there first and last name through the sex offenders database, which is a free service and I take a picture of their license and I send it to a cloud server in case anything happens
ba**** Posted January 23 Busy hotel room with an elevator and a front desk that any unexpected guests need to be approved to come up. Taking a shower together is not a bad idea either to establish trust and it helps break the awkwardness feeling right from the jump.
Hi**** Posted January 23 After my divorce finalized a few months ago, I made the choice to move forward with ethical non-monogamy, I decided that I would test regularly and insist that future partners were also tested, it’s more of a vetting process upfront but once you’ve established a “bubble” of safe tested partners it’s no different than a monogamous relationship from the STI/STD perspective. As far as unwanted pregnancy goes, I ha a vasectomy after my 3rd kid, so that is now a non-issue as well.
Hu**** Posted January 23 Did it once, would love to do it again. If you are interested let me know and we can figure out the details.
ey**** Posted January 23 9 hours ago, Nonnahs said: Have you ever blindly met up and hooked up with someone wether you like them or not ? How do u make sure such a crazy idea is safe No. My head says I would like to. But, I don't know if I genuinely would if the opportunity presented. You have to kinda accept that a blind hook up like this carries a lot of risk and it is a case of accepting the risk level. It might be of course that you have a safe contact who waits nearby. i.e. if you meet someone in a hotel, they're in the lobby - in someone's house, they're outside, etc. but that does rely on someone being available it also does little to mitigate STD risks - in which case the best thing there is to use protection.
de**** Posted January 23 Have a non lethal weapon, that’s key in case you have to run. Park under a streetlamp or in a very visible place. Carry condoms, just in case they want to go raw. Share you’re location with a trusted friend along with a face pic of the person if available. All other comments are also good advice in this thread. Have fun and feel free to reach out of you have any questions.
Ca**** Posted January 24 I was always present when my gf met. She only usually met regular bulls and not randoms , however on the odd occasion she did meet some she had just met or was having trials for potential new bulls my presence helped safety , hotels help as there are people around
ha**** Posted January 25 Crazy I meet new ones in random places. Half the time I don’t get their name and don’t give mine. Most of them I think back on and laugh. But always a great time. Have to put alil excitement in your life.
Js**** Posted January 25 Instincts. You either listen to them or you don't and if you don't you are gonna learn to tune in real fast. Knowing yourself well helps. Some are very excited from the risk. Certain cues for me are language used and reactions received throughout engagement. Your body will respond to the vibrations and signal to you safety or danger haha. And it may not be just the physical body that is at risk. I've gone against them and found later those interactions weren't nearly as fulfilling in their experience as ones where I felt good vibes.
ra**** Posted January 25 Pure instinct… holding out until you don’t… I also tell myself at some point life is not meant to be safe. Sometimes you have to do the scary thing to have the fun thing happen.
To**** Posted January 26 Yes. When I was younger, I did that. A few times😉 Blind meetups, impulse driven decisions, that mix of adrenaline and not really knowing who you’re walking toward. There is a thrill in it...the uncertainty, the edge, the sense of being untethered But there’s also risk. Not just physical risk... emotional, psychological, energetic. You don’t see that part clearly until you’ve lived it a bit What changed for me wasn’t ***. It was experience As you learn yourself, as you understand desire and consequences better, quick intensity starts to feel… inefficient. Short lived highs don’t compare to controlled depth. You begin to value choice over chaos, intention over impulse Safety, for me, isn’t about killing excitement. It’s about owning it. Knowing who I’m meeting. Setting the tone. Creating structure. Taking control of variables instead of leaving them to chance That’s where the real power is…. Anyone can chase a moment. But the kind of connection that lingers, the kind that makes someone feel held, seen, and deeply affected ,that comes from patience, boundaries, and presence. These days, I don’t rush into anything blindly… Not because I’m cautious… but because I prefer to decide exactly how things unfold… And that, in my experience, is far more intoxicating than chance ever was…
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