Prevalence of R@pe Fantasies in Women

[Oh****]

Research in human sexuality does show that some women report fantasies involving themes of dominance, submission, or “f@rced” scenarios, but this is not the same as wanting real-world sexual v1olence. Scholars often distinguish between “consensual non-consent fantasies” or “r@pe fantasies” in imagination versus actual desire for ***, which are fundamentally different phenomena (Joyal et al., 2015). In fantasy contexts, the imagined scenario typically includes implicit control, safety, or consent that is absent in real v1olence, and many participants describe the fantasy as involving power dynamics rather than harm. Studies suggest that between 30% and 60% of women report having had some form of f@rced-sex fantasy at least once, though definitions vary and frequency differs widely across individuals (Bivona & Critelli, 2009; Joyal et al., 2015). Many women never report such fantasies at all, and many who do experience them only rarely.
Psychologists generally interpret these fantasies through several frameworks. Some research links them to curiosity about power exchange, exploration of vulnerability in a safe mental context, cultural sexual scripts, or attempts to reconcile desire with social expectations about sexuality (Critelli & Bivona, 2008). Importantly, these fantasies do not predict victimization risk, moral character, or sexual preferences in real relationships, and they are not considered pathological by themselves. Sexual imagination often operates symbolically rather than literally, meaning the emotional meaning of a fantasy matters more than its surface content.

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What are your thoughts about the prevalence and interest?

[Sn****]

CNC / Freeuse is ther@peutic, esp for the ones who went through S/A

[Ki****]

I believe these statistics mean a portion of women have the capacity—a greater capacity to process complex emotional scenarios. This is probably a result of millennia at the hands of abusive patriarchy. In that way, I see these statistics as evidence of evolutionary development, maybe even a survival / coping mechanism. As you state, it’s the emotions, not the acts that stimulate.

[sc****]

My ex in London had r@pe fantasies and was quite vocal about it telling me how she wanted it to play out. It was quite different. I think it was more the thought of fucking a stranger that turned her on

[ok****]

I've been ***d. It wasn't sexy. I don't fantasize about it, and if I did, I would never tell anyone lest it be used as an excuse to violate me again.

[be****]

As someone who has survived SA, I have from time to time fantasized about consensual non consensual situations. That doesn’t mean to you want to be violated again. Sometimes it’s about rewriting the story. Fighting back instead of freezing- for example.

[Ho****]

Yes my last GF wanted us to rioe play r@pe scenarios where I would pin her down and fuck her while she screams NO! the whole time it is very controversial for me and it’s a fine line feeling secure while giving her what she wants.

[Ho****]

My newest girlfriend is into bondage, and I am learning how to tie knots to tie her up before I fuck her. Women are strange, and I do strange things for love.

[Th****]

I have a variety of these non-consensual fantasies, but most don't involve any harm. Simply just power imbalance, where strength and some phycology are used over me to "bend my will" to the partners desires. It also involves a lot of enthusiasm from my partner, meaning verbal and visually I can tell they want me a LOT and for me that is a turn on because I suffer from low self esteem 😅 so them being desperate, less in the sense of begging but being ***ful, to have me is pleasing. Though yes, begging is nice too just a while different vibe and scene then.

[Vi****]

There are many different reasons to have these whether it is trauma based or the feeling of complete ***d submission. The main thing is communication, boundaries trust in use of a safe word, understanding of what to do if there’s a trigger and going into it gradually especially with anyone new or trying it out. Also men have this fantasy too it’s just a little more difficult to play out if your a larger masc and wanting to sub. Side note doms can have their own boundaries what they are willing to do and lines they won’t cross.

[ra****]

i think the ONLY reason we as women fantasize about r@pe is because of either sexual trauma that they experienced or simply because it’s SO common in sexual spaces these days to have a cnc kink or to see r@pe fantasy porn and just like anything else if you consume it enough you’ll eventually start to wonder about it for yourself

[Deleted Member]

I am into this type of non consensual roleplay sex. I like role playing this

[ok****]

I understand it's ther@peutic for some women. I'm just afraid of the predators who will use a fantasy as an excuse to hurt someone.

[Pa****]

3 minutes ago, okayannie said:

I understand it's the***utic for some women. I'm just afraid of the predators who will use a fantasy as an excuse to hurt someone.

I guess that’s where careful discussion and vetting the potential partner comes in? Hopefully, that would expose the predator beforehand.

[Go****]

4 hours ago, SnkBteMontreal said:

CNC / Freeuse is ther@peutic, esp for the ones who went through S/A

This statement is far too generalised. It’s like saying one p@ink1ller works for all people in ***. 
 

Every person will experience recovery differently, depending on their particular trauma, stage of processing, and individual psychological makeup. Nobody should partake in either Free use and CNC lightly, particularly people who’ve experienced trauma. 

[mr****]

Here a thought isn’t it odd only woman fantasize about consentual r$$p I just found out about it recently when a gf told me about it I thought wow what happened to you was my first thought and yes she had been asulted but I didn’t ask further questions even though I was very curious why that might trigger a fantasy but I did it for her and kinda liked it thought the role play was fun and exciting

[ki****]

Theres many reasons why women have such fantasies. In many cases, as others have stated, it can be a coping mechanism for actual trauma theyve experienced but Id like to add that even if you havent experienced it in your life, youre not a bad person for having those fantasies. From my experience it can also stem from wanting to be desired/chosen/pursued, low self esteem/believeing you "deserve" it, or other psychological factors like that.

[Sl****]

A friend of mine (not a member of any kink platform) who’s been physically violated on a number of occasions lives on edge today as a little, pet and degradee. She lays out clear boundaries between CNC* and *** of those limits which play out as the underlying intent when the degrader is in the moment + afterwards.

Between herself + partner(s) she’s hyper aware of whether there’s an intent to go beyond boundaries, even with emotions.
I find the original topic parallels my own kinks / fantasies of race play* as myself being a willing degradee of such. In my experiences, a partner who’s willing to take the mantel as a degrader typically is also hyper aware as the giver in always-private encounters in which she makes doubly certain that I am convinced that when she dives in as the aggressor or the degrader, that I know that in her heart, she doesn’t harbor real vibes against me or my heritage.
( * = CNC became a moniker for “r@pe play” as a way to soften the harsh + very clear *** of a person’s body. “Race play” still has no moniker yet kinksters are far too swift to condemn & castigate any personal private pursuit of such fantasy as welcoming or condoning “racism.”)

Before any such encounters begin, make certain that the sub is reassured that they have full control of every play scene. Ask the sub that should you as the degrader/perpetrator have any inkling that things might be too intense, that you say the safe word as a question to make certain that you’re giving your sub what they seek.

And what’s very important too is that you know your role after the scenario finishes, that you give your sub every damn thing that they expect regarding whatever after care that they want. The sub is always the priority before, during and after.

Finally, once engaging in a scenario, you as the aggressor should maintain and respect all boundaries and limits. If you become unsure or suspicious that your sub has lost their presence, pause the scene to check in since these scenarios can become very intense. A safe word can be missed and CNC can easily cross over to *** of law.

[Sl****]

1 minute ago, Slave2WhiteWomen said:

A friend of mine (not a member of any kink platform) who’s been physically violated on a number of occasions lives on edge today as a little, pet and degradee. She lays out clear boundaries between CNC* and *** of those limits which play out as the underlying intent when the degrader is in the moment + afterwards.

Between herself + partner(s) she’s hyper aware of whether there’s an intent to go beyond boundaries, even with emotions.
I find the original topic parallels my own kinks / fantasies of race play* as myself being a willing degradee of such. In my experiences, a partner who’s willing to take the mantel as a degrader typically is also hyper aware as the giver in always-private encounters in which she makes doubly certain that I am convinced that when she dives in as the aggressor or the degrader, that I know that in her heart, she doesn’t harbor real vibes against me or my heritage.
( * = CNC became a moniker for “r@pe play” as a way to soften the harsh + very clear *** of a person’s body. “Race play” still has no moniker yet kinksters are far too swift to condemn & castigate any personal private pursuit of such fantasy as welcoming or condoning “racism.”)

Before any such encounters begin, make certain that the sub is reassured that they have full control of every play scene. Ask the sub that should you as the degrader/perpetrator have any inkling that things might be too intense, that you say the safe word as a question to make certain that you’re giving your sub what they seek.

And what’s very important too is that you know your role after the scenario finishes, that you give your sub every damn thing that they expect regarding whatever after care that they want. The sub is always the priority before, during and after.

Finally, once engaging in a scenario, you as the aggressor should maintain and respect all boundaries and limits. If you become unsure or suspicious that your sub has lost their presence, pause the scene to check in since these scenarios can become very intense. A safe word can be missed and CNC can easily cross over to *** of law.

I just saw censor symbols.
*** = Vi01ation. 😉

[ey****]

i often don't trust some of the stats, often from small sample sizes and also... whether this is "I want to do this" versus "I thought about this maybe once" both carrying the same weight.

But, like, non-consensual fantasies in general are common between all genders to some degrees the old "tie me down and do what you want to me", obviously a little less extreme.  

[cl****]

I also don't know about those studies, but I would say broadly women experience unconsented sexualised *** on the daily at different levels. Sometimes fantasies are a way to gain control over the harm that has been done to them.

I personally dont do anything play involving CNC because I tend to stay away from trauma re-enactment scenarios

[Ma****]

My ex told me she wanted me to start things as she slept but I couldn't do it because it made me feel like a *** hound. Even with permission I couldn't bring myself to do it. I guess I was raised different Maybe. Or I just had too much respect for to bring myself to do it I honestly don't know I just know I couldn't do it even with the permission that just made me feel like I was doing something seriously wrong