Ga**** Posted February 20 I known for a long time im a domme of some sort, but the classics never fit me. Not long ago i was pushed by a sub into some very hardcore deg/hum on them and i felt absolutely awful after. Violated to be quite honest. Finding out im likely a pleasure dom (possibly a switch to service top/other) has made things make a lot more sense. Finding out theres a softer BDSM has been new, and nice.
Qu**** Posted February 20 Author 13 minutes ago, Gatadata said: I known for a long time im a domme of some sort, but the classics never fit me. Not long ago i was pushed by a sub into some very hardcore deg/hum on them and i felt absolutely awful after. Violated to be quite honest. Finding out im likely a pleasure dom (possibly a switch to service top/other) has made things make a lot more sense. Finding out theres a softer BDSM has been new, and nice. I totally understand hun. I'm so sorry you were put in that situation 🫂❤️. Discovering the pleasure side of domme was such a wonderful thing for me too, especially since the deg/hum part is what is most popularized. Control can be gentle, and domination can be kind.
Ro**** Posted February 23 Hello there! I am brand new here and I'm pretty sure I've been experiencing bad Domme behaviors. It was all about control and not caretaking. I knkw there are different types of relationships and kinks, but maybe coming from a newby, these people just didn't understand lingo or they experienced it differently? I definitely would love a caring domme/switch type relationship. Im a very strong personality and definitely am more dominant in real life, so if I could find someone to take care of me in that sense or be comfortable to finally let go would be amazing.
Ba**** Posted February 23 10 hours ago, RooAries said: Hello there! I am brand new here and I'm pretty sure I've been experiencing bad Domme behaviors. It was all about control and not caretaking. I knkw there are different types of relationships and kinks, but maybe coming from a newby, these people just didn't understand lingo or they experienced it differently? I definitely would love a caring domme/switch type relationship. Im a very strong personality and definitely am more dominant in real life, so if I could find someone to take care of me in that sense or be comfortable to finally let go would be amazing. Sounds less like bad behavior and more like just mismatched expectations Also if you are the new one, maybe don’t throw random lingo you half understand at people Some words can have different meanings depending on context
Ba**** Posted February 24 I find submissive entitlement is a real thing. I’m not sure whether it was around before social media started touting buzz phrases like “the submissive holds all the power really” etc without context or accuracy, but I have noticed fellow submissives approac hing me and almost demanding I Domme them because it’s ✨What they want✨ I can’t offer any advice to end it, but I can offer understanding and a shoulder. Not all subs are like that.
Ba**** Posted February 24 2 hours ago, BackRubsNBruises said: I find submissive entitlement is a real thing. I’m not sure whether it was around before social media started touting buzz phrases like “the submissive holds all the power really” etc without context or accuracy, but I have noticed fellow submissives approac hing me and almost demanding I Domme them because it’s ✨What they want✨ I can’t offer any advice to end it, but I can offer understanding and a shoulder. Not all subs are like that. Oh that has been a thing for longer, it’s just more “in your face” now with social media “Back in the day” submissives where still more open to share red flags, safety tips and general information with each other, while doms used to have more of a “trade secret” mentality
Deleted Member Posted March 8 That's cos many ignore the limits. I don't even know if some read bio's as even if I say I'm not looking for a m/s dynamic most men will send me dms with that in mind. Call me master, who is your daddy bullsh*t.. its really sad as its 2026 and we can't even respect each other boundaries..
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