Limits (or lack thereof)

[Ba****]

1 hour ago, GeekyLARPerBWC said:

I don't have any limits.....none at all.......because I point blank refuse to touch ANYONE in any manner that is not 1000% purely platonic!

Many vanilla people seem to think that the BDSM community is filled with predators and people who failed at dating mentally healthy individuals.......judging by the comments those vanillas seem to be correct 🤨

Dude you just said you had no limits, doubled down and then stated non-platonic touch as a hard limit

[Ta****]

Immediately NO! Is my reaction to that. I am too informed about safety, how people make assumptions {wrongly} and need for mental health to accept or trust someone that assumes they know my limits. I'm certainly not cut out to trust someone easily nor quickly. In my experience it's naive. Every time I've called someone on that bombastic claim when put to the test - they certainly do have limits. Once outside of their limited experience & imaginings : they have limits😈

[un****]

That I can agree on but this is probably a common issue now 😔 sad enough to say

[Ry****]

I agree, I think the whole point of kink is that there are boundaries and that you understand yours (and more importantly) others boundaries. Saying you have no limits is obviously and blatantly dishonest.

[hu****]

It’s always “none” until you find one though, if your unaware you can’t have any 🤔

[Ba****]

15 hours ago, hull257497 said:

It’s always “none” until you find one though, if your unaware you can’t have any 🤔

Yeah, but even a quick search of "BDSM kink list" will give you hundreds of lists that have A LOT of kinks on them. Maybe it's just me, but I feel luke everyone that wants to have a relationship with BDSM in it should look up a list and take note of what they like and don't like, at the least.

[ey****]

16 hours ago, hull257497 said:

It’s always “none” until you find one though, if your unaware you can’t have any 🤔

I would question why someone is coming into kink and stating "no limits" with a lack of prior understanding.

[Pe****]

17 hours ago, hull257497 said:

It’s always “none” until you find one though, if your unaware you can’t have any 🤔

Yikes, dude! I mean, *** and **** are two kinda common limits. No shame! But definitely see #1.

[Pe****]

February 20, GeekyLARPerBWC said:

I don't have any limits.....none at all.......because I point blank refuse to touch ANYONE in any manner that is not 1000% purely platonic!

Many vanilla people seem to think that the BDSM community is filled with predators and people who failed at dating mentally healthy individuals.......judging by the comments those vanillas seem to be correct 🤨

Now THAT is kink!! 😅❤️

[Da****]

16 hours ago, BabyBoyNate said:

Yeah, but even a quick search of "BDSM kink list" will give you hundreds of lists that have A LOT of kinks on them. Maybe it's just me, but I feel luke everyone that wants to have a relationship with BDSM in it should look up a list and take note of what they like and don't like, at the least.

I gree and there are many that have a glossary to help with terms a person my not understand...is it too much to ask people to have a little bit of knowledge to what they are getting into?

[sz****]

Thats a warning, from subs and doms, everyone has limits, and safe words are a necessity

[Ma****]

I think they are trying to attract as many peopleas possible. There is always one limit that someone won't go to

[Ro****]

Yes, I read it as not only new, but also haven’t done the research before stepping into it, which is a flag. I want someone who has done reading/classes/learning on things like communication, how to swing a whip safely, which kinds of candles you can and can’t drip onto skin, etc., as starting with no knowledge can be unsafe.

[Ba****]

2 hours ago, Rosethorn6 said:

Yes, I read it as not only new, but also haven’t done the research before stepping into it, which is a flag. I want someone who has done reading/classes/learning on things like communication, how to swing a whip safely, which kinds of candles you can and can’t drip onto skin, etc., as starting with no knowledge can be unsafe.

Well I’ve been active for almost 20years now and there are still plenty of thing i haven’t tried, so there surely are things i don’t like the idea of that i could like if i tried and thing i don’t know i‘m not into because the fantasy sounds nice in my head, and, while i don’t know about classes, reading and self-reflection isn’t gonna do much in this case

Whips ain‘t all that complicated, it’s basically just 3-5pictures, 1-3paragraphs and a lot of practice
Also you can cause second degree burns with the „safe“ candles and there are ways to use most types of candles safely if you know their melting point and take appropriate precautions
And i‘m not sure about you but i only needed my book knowledge for these particular examples once, most people i played with had their limits in the „safe“ range, so yes education is important but usually not more than just conversation

Ps starting with someone who knows that they lack knowledge is way safer than starting with someone who thinks they already know everything, in general only one of them is open learning from negative feedback while the other tends to collect the experience to „justify“ their position