Does it actually work?

[Deleted Member]

I’m curious if anyone actually likes when they receive lewd messages from total strangers? Specifically curious about if women who are attracted to men enjoy them, but anyone can chime in.

I have a theory that most men who send these kinds of vulgar messages only want a reaction but I’m curious if I’m in the minority of people who don’t appreciate it.

For any men who start out conversations with a lewd message, how often does that actually lead to a hookup online or irl? And why is that your first choice when approaching someone?

I just delete those messages so it’s not a problem but I’m curious about everyone’s opinions on the matter :3

Sorry if someone has already started this discussion! <3

[Ye****]

I normally ignore those…. Like wow you can’t even say hi lol and it’s most likely a copy and paste story they send…. I’m not a fan of

[ro****]

I like receiving them especially if the person is far away and real life meet up seems less likely. I have only sent them twice and each time on this site. I am new and thought the person might like it based off profile because they each said they want someone to take control among other stuff. One blocked me and one ignored me so I realized that is probably not a good way to flirt here.

[Ti****]

I’d say I agree that they are mainly looking for a reaction. And leading with those messages just announces that something like that is all they want. Honestly I figure those messages are usually met with eye rolls lol I’ve received some and I always think to myself that I like having actual conversations before anything

[fe****]

I don't know if it ever worked because I'll never try it I think it's ridiculous and anybody who does try it is a f****** dumbass sure you can be as freaky as you want to but don't be a f****** a****** you know that's where I stand on it maybe I'm the only one I don't know anyway there's my two cents

[Deleted Member]

I think most guys would hope to receive such messages but from experience I know most women do not appreciate those.

[se****]

No, I'm not a fan of someone opening a chat with something explicit.

[ju****]

I find them to be a complete turn off. And just sleazy and uncouth.

[Si****]

I personally think it's inappropriate and don't like receiving nor sending a lewd message to a stranger. There's a time and place for them but opening with one tells me you're not interested in me as a person at all.

[vv****]

No. Obviously we’re on a fet app so we ✨know✨ the subtext. Let’s see if there’s a genuine connection before we get into all the delicious filth. I’m old-fashioned though. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[theSir_ObservingU]

a sub once told me, the lewed messages for her are a gift. she knows immediately these people are not righ for her. its a quick and easy knowing they are just not worth answering back.

[Deleted Member]

When I have sent someone a more lewd and vulgar message I have never had a positive response. Now as a man I’d love to receive a lewd message from a total stranger sexy hot woman.
The words men use are visual words and not feeling or emotional words. When I’ve been horny it’s really a cry for emotional connection but men get to that emotional place after sex. That’s why I have always craved sex so much. Sex is great when done properly and with someone I love. But what’s fulfilling for me is the bonding that takes place after. Those sweet moments and cuddles and tender kisses is what makes it all worth it. Sex is the birthday cake. But the romance and intimacy and love I have for her are the candles.

[Ri****]

Knowing that a lot of the women on here get straight or rude messages here I sometimes send a tasteful erotic scene as a way of creating interest. I have started many interesting conversations with those, a couple of which have led to one on one meetings over coffee and at least one of which lead to an ongoing power exchange relationship.

[Deleted Member]

2 minutes ago, Triangle919Area said:

When I have sent someone a more lewd and vulgar message I have never had a positive response. Now as a man I’d love to receive a lewd message from a total stranger sexy hot woman.
The words men use are visual words and not feeling or emotional words. When I’ve been horny it’s really a cry for emotional connection but men get to that emotional place after sex. That’s why I have always craved sex so much. Sex is great when done properly and with someone I love. But what’s fulfilling for me is the bonding that takes place after. Those sweet moments and cuddles and tender kisses is what makes it all worth it. Sex is the birthday cake. But the romance and intimacy and love I have for her are the candles.

Definitely did not stay on topic with this comment. Tired and exhausted. Sry.

[D_****]

I delete messages that "go in for the kill" the 1st message so they dont get very far

[vv****]

2 minutes ago, D_87 said:

I delete messages that "go in for the kill" the 1st message so they dont get very far

Saaaaaame. 🚮

[ri****]

I don’t know how it works a beautiful lady with oily tits photo block you cause you say I would love to touch those,this isn’t fb if you can’t be a bit kinky in your answers on a kinky dating app where else,hey here’s a picture of my cock but please don’t comment about it, or ill block you??

[Ar****]

10 minutes ago, Triangle919Area said:

Now as a man I’d love to receive a lewd message from a total stranger sexy hot woman.
The words men use are visual words and not feeling or emotional words.

I'll always appreciate and be thankful for a comment where somebody opens up, so I hope you don't take what I'm about to say as an attack... but this reads as though all men feel the same way (would love such a message) and use visual words over the others you mention. Maybe a little less of the potentially inflammatory generalisation?

[AKA_Copper]

3 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

I'll always appreciate and be thankful for a comment where somebody opens up, so I hope you don't take what I'm about to say as an attack... but this reads as though all men feel the same way (would love such a message) and use visual words over the others you mention. Maybe a little less of the potentially inflammatory generalisation?

#NOTALLMEN??? 😂🤣😂
Sorry, I couldn't resist

[Deleted Member]

You’re not alone. I would expect the same respect as if they saw me on the sidewalk and started a conversation. And if they started one like that, I would beat them with my purse…though some may like that

[Deleted Member]

9 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

I'll always appreciate and be thankful for a comment where somebody opens up, so I hope you don't take what I'm about to say as an attack... but this reads as though all men feel the same way (would love such a message) and use visual words over the others you mention. Maybe a little less of the potentially inflammatory generalisation?

True. Good point. I’m tired today and the thoughts and words are not 100%. I definitely generally generalized. It true for me and likely at least one other man in the world. Obviously not for all. Thanks for making the effort to point it out without cussing me out.

[Ar****]

1 hour ago, Lilacs_and_Lust said:

I’m curious if anyone actually likes when they receive lewd messages from total strangers? Specifically curious about if women who are attracted to men enjoy them, but anyone can chime in.

It's not for me, if I were to get a lewd message from a stranger then I may reply but more out of curiosity to learn what made them do that rather than because I "liked" it. I mean, it's not exactly a basis for making a connection is it?

 

I'm not pretending I wouldn't have weaker moments or that I might not enjoy them with somebody I don't know well, but I definitely don't want that as a first message.

 

As a side-note, can I give a huge thank you for your note making it clear your question is open to all? I've noticed quite the trend of topics being posted recently (invariably by men) stating that only replies from women are welcome. I don't feel that should be allowed in a general forum and am sure most are only doing it to try to gather wank fodder; I was even considering creating a forum topic about the phenomenon. So your qualifier is very much appreciated. 

[Ar****]

7 minutes ago, AKA_Copper said:

#NOTALLMEN??? 😂🤣😂
Sorry, I couldn't resist

🤣🤣🤣 Shush you 😝

[Ar****]

5 minutes ago, Triangle919Area said:

True. Good point. I’m tired today and the thoughts and words are not 100%. I definitely generally generalized. It true for me and likely at least one other man in the world. Obviously not for all. Thanks for making the effort to point it out without cussing me out.

I feel that. I think it's probably true for a great many, in fairness. No worries either way and I hope you manage some good rest soon.

[Deleted Member]

I’m new here and have experienced a little bit of the leud and the kind. I get the point of this app, but I tend to give more responses to the ones that make an effort to chat for a moment before they go in for the kill.