Does it actually work?

[D_****]

44 minutes ago, richmond-hill146163 said:

I don’t know how it works a beautiful lady with oily tits photo block you cause you say I would love to touch those,this isn’t fb if you can’t be a bit kinky in your answers on a kinky dating app where else,hey here’s a picture of my cock but please don’t comment about it, or ill block you??

So if you comment on my pic thats one thing I will comment how and what my mind goes to when I see a pic, but would you walk up on the street to someone or a club at that and look at another person and say " Get on your knees like a good obedient little slut and suck my cock" " you will respond with Yes Sir"....

[Ni****]

Why would you speak to someone you don’t even know like that regardless of the site they’re on? I’d assume for a women it’s a clear indication of who to not waste your time on. I do love reading them though bc I’m like “Geezz dude, calm down”. It’s always stuff like “you ain’t ever experienced anything like me” or “wish you were ____ing me right now”. I find them hilarious so maybe they have a target audience just not the one they’re aiming for 🤣

[Sh****]

It works sometimes it doesn't. Most men rathe be used car salesmen than actually meet in the middle. Then again we are on a kink site. It should be easier to just spew vulgarity and see what happens but that's my assumption

[ri****]

There is another website won’t name it where you hook up that nite,so you don’t ask how was your week. How is your mom ,it’s I want to fuck,and your first reply is how do you like to fuck ,this is no excuse for being horrible but you can understand a bit?

[Deleted Member]

I did meet up with a girl and first message I said was dam I wanna *** you well u cumm well it came true

[Go****]

Nope, definitely not just you. Any lewd messages I receive are instantly blocked. 

I don’t care whether the sender feels they’re ‘tasteful’, ‘erotic’, or whatever else, there’s a specific forum for erotica, and enough information in my profile to be able to create a conversation that isn’t sexual. 
 

For me, personally, those kinds of messages only have the intended effect when they come from someone I’m already intimate with, otherwise it’s a massive turn off. 

[to****]

True ..

[di****]

Definitely depends on the vibe their profile gives off and what their bio says. Some people’s bios ask for it. Others want it to be kept respectful at the start. I try and take the hints where possible. But I feel apps like this anyway have a low success rate

[Bl****]

We’re not safe from catcalls even on the internet. 😭😭

[us****]

Besides the fact that those kinds of messages tell me that the sender doesn’t care about me as a person, it also doesn’t have the desired effect of turning me on at all.

You (you meaning the people who do this) have never talked to me, you don’t know what I like. Even if you see some kinks listed on my profile, you still don’t know how, when, and to what extent I like to engage in them. I’ve even had people include kinks in those messages that are clearly listed on my profile as limits. Which tells me that they didn’t even bother to look at my profile before deciding to send me such a lewd message.

My theory is that they just do it as a way to forcibly expose us to their fantasies. Like how some guys get off by whipping their dick out in public just to *** people to have to see it. It doesn’t cause every woman around to be overwhelmed with lust and the desire to fuck him. It’s just a way to fulfill his own fantasy without regard to the wants and desires of the people he’s trying to impress.

[ey****]

39 minutes ago, Shellzzz said:

Then again we are on a kink site. It should be easier to just spew vulgarity and see what happens but that's my assumption

Being on a kink site, consent is pretty much front and centre - and if you aren't sure if people would consent to word vomit in their inboxes, you don't fucking send it

 

[DirtyDaddyx]

I try to tailor my messages to the profile. Gauge the content, areas of interest and tone. I must admit that I wonder if it’s worth making the profile research and effort since off the cuff lewd messages made to profiles lacking in information (.. and hence guidance how to approach..) actually do elicit more responses in my experience.

However, that aside I still persist in bespoke messages where the profile gives enough information since I believe it to be the right thing to do.

From your perspective (or rather from everyone’s perspective), this site caters for a wide spectrum of interests so there is no one size fits all - for every 10 ladies liking a smooth approach there’s 10 liking a tough one.. or one with a foreign twist .. or one that’s humorous … or political … so please allow that when people first approach you, they are not familiar with you nor how to approach you, specifically …

Good luck

X

[si****]

Women I do or couples

[Tr****]

I personally don't mind it sometimes the more vulgar the better for me but I don't know that I like get turned on by it initially or anything but I do enjoy trying to come up with something even more obscene to beat whatever it is they just said you know tit for tat in the shock value area I guess which I mean if you go long enough I am sure eventually can become a turn on but then there are other days that I just want to be finessed

[ka****]

I hate when people do this because to me it shows they don't care what you consent to doing!! I don't care if it's a kink website or not, inappropriate messages or images shouldn't be sent to people you haven't asked permission beforehand!

[si****]

At least some Of us r not alone

[Se****]

Men, if you don't have explicit consent, please just don't send us lewd messages, how many "hey, rate my D" did I get here... ou calling me pet names or calling me "their"... Just don't, I'm not yours until I gave you my submission by myself and not interested in all of that until we're close enough... Until then, try to be reasonable...

[si****]

No, but.
It is still nice to hear
You can just block them, but me personally.I like it when I degrade me and talk down to me and say lewd thanks

[fr****]

I called out one guy and he said “I thought you were a slutty type of girl.” Like sluts deserve a good morning/hey how are you/whats up too

[Se****]

Maybe you do, but then you can give them consent in private or maybe in your bio, you do as you want, but if they do for me, I won't just block them, but also report them, ignoring another's consent is a grave fault, be it in a normal dating app or in a kink related app, and I don't give them consent and I don't want to have to see this in my inbox, nor should I ! You know, Dégradation is also my kink, but I want to have it with my partner, Dom or master, not some random guy whome I know nothing

[Mi****]

Women = send whatever you want to guys
Hot guys = send whatever you want to women
All other guys = doesn’t matter what you send you’re not getting a response either way

[La****]

3 minutes ago, MisterSatisfaction said:

Women = send whatever you want to guys
Hot guys = send whatever you want to women
All other guys = doesn’t matter what you send you’re not getting a response either way

I don't care if he looks like a god. If his opening message is gross, it's getting deleted.

[Se****]

Toxic hot guys are still toxic guys, so yeah, same procedure ! Block and report 😀

[cu****]

I feel the EXACT same way you do. I don’t respond either. It’s disgusting and disrespectful. It’s one thing to work your way up to that kind of conversation, but to just message women and talk like that is disturbing.

[Jonathanboyd]

It's my first choice because it was the only way for a woman to be actually interested in me when getting to know each other. No WOMAN HAS EVER GIVEN ME THE CHANCE IN HELL, without me being sexual. I have gotten a few hook ups and various failed talking stages, but I have been single for 5 years