Porn addiction

[xl****]

I have no issue with someone who watches porn. If she sees something she wants to try. I hope she’s comfortable to tell me and we can.

[Dy****]

To me, a porn addiction is a cry that they have desires that are consuming them and have never been fulfilled. They may have kinks they watch, because they are too afraid to vocalize. Fill that void and watch how quickly the porn addiction goes away.

[Bi****]

My buddy was straight his whole life married a hot chick. They had four ***. They got divorced in 2020 and now he’s gay. I was asking him if he thinks he was always gay and he said no. It was definitely porn. Says he started watching the scenes but would find himself searching by guys names. It didn’t matter who the guy f**ked. Just that it was him. He said by the time he was in his late 30s he knew he wanted to suck a d**k. Anyway he blames porn at least for his new found infatuation with BBC

[fa****]

I am a person not addicted to porn. Though I've been addicted to a lot, and even though Ive watched porn, it pales to my imagination. But I understand addiction, so your question what my thoughts on people addicted to porn? My thoughts and hopes are that they remember that they are connected to the world. And not in a going to your job way, but in a how you show up no matter what you are doing way. As someone who has overcome and managed addiction, primarily but not limited to, food addiction, here's what I did:

Change one habit, add 5 habits. Replace a negative with a low key positive. If you can sit and be still a few minutes you can sit quietly and let your sacral and your third eye calm each other. Turn off the porn, chop wood, go for a walk, inhale some eucalyptus. Not for long. Set a timer, it's only 20 minutes of your time, after you can do whatever you want. But what happens if you shut it all down and breathe for 20 minutes with zero expectations. Stare at the horizon if it's too much to close your eyes. You will have to see what happens.

[ey****]

7 hours ago, Slim_79 said:

I think it becomes an addiction when it interferes with your everyday life to where you can not function without it.

but you can function without it.  

usually when people are hyperfocused on something to the point it becomes a distraction (be it porn or reading forums or reading football results of obscure leagues) it's a symptom of another neural condition, not an addiction.  

[Bi****]

My suggestion for anyone who cares. Turning off porn is extremely important. However, you can make your own porn. You can film yourself and your partner.

What you should try to avoid at all cost is watching another man f**k some girl while you masturbate. You are not thinking of the consequences. You are “getting off” while watching another man and another woman. When it comes time for you to actually find yourself in a warm clampy p**sy you are in trouble. You’re not turned on by you and a woman. You’ve never jerked off to that.

There’s tons of these guys. Only jerk off with another person even on the phone. Get off because of the interaction not watching others interact or that will become your turn on. I taught myself to get hard from myself. Works everytime.

[Ji****]

Very important question but with my respect all the answers are bullshit

[Mi****]

12 hours ago, Dyllan92 said:

To me, a porn addiction is a cry that they have desires that are consuming them and have never been fulfilled. They may have kinks they watch, because they are too afraid to vocalize. Fill that void and watch how quickly the porn addiction goes away.

This touches deep! That’s exactly what I’ve felt. Desires consume me that are not fulfilled. The problem ultimate problem though is that my desires are not realistic. Like having a threesome, being a bull for an attractive hotwife/gf, basically being with any attractive women. I know this is silly but I have had the desire to be a sort of sex god to women since I was a ***ager. Like I can’t do monogamy cause I will still pursue this desire, and that desire has been to be so attractive and hot to women that I’m the guy the come to when they are single but horny or are poly or a vixen, and so on. Really struggling with exactly what you said then, that the only way I come close to fulfilling my desires is through porn. Not being attractive to women is like living in a nightmare every waking second for me. All of this is very dumb, I know, but it’s the truth of my experience.

[Mi****]

13 hours ago, BigChanges said:

Men have rewired their brains to get off watching guys with big d**ks f**k chicks. Which does not include them at all. In my 20s I f**ked loads of married women and not one even thought of their man watching. I’ve been on this app a month and 4-5 guys have asked to watch me f**k their wives. It’s as obvious as can be what happened to men.

I agree. But also checkout my response to Dyllan92. Curious what you’d have to say

[Mi****]

13 hours ago, BigChanges said:

Men have rewired their brains to get off watching guys with big d**ks f**k chicks. Which does not include them at all. In my 20s I f**ked loads of married women and not one even thought of their man watching. I’ve been on this app a month and 4-5 guys have asked to watch me f**k their wives. It’s as obvious as can be what happened to men.

I agree. But also checkout my response to Dyllan92. Curious what you’d have to say

[Deleted Member]

I was addicted for a good 4/5 years. I don’t mind it if someone has it I know a few folk who are. I swapped it for engagement, between meets I would seek out cyber play mates to have discussions about kinks and watch each other play on video calls. I’m addicted to edging at the minute so maybe I just replaced one addiction with another. I haven’t watched porn I’m about 2 years but I do cyber play daily with friends

[Bi****]

Yea it doesn’t sound like you have a porn addiction in fact you are consuming yourself with a desire that includes you. The only problem with porn besides the obvious which may be a social shutdown one only comes from rewiring your brain to something that will do damage later.

If you are worried about pleasing women yourself well that’s great. Like I said. Learn to get turned on by things that include you. Porn can actually be a tool that helps as long as you’re not daily having an orgasm while watching another guy and another girl. This is why cucks are a thing now. Those guys taught themselves to love watching chicks get f@cked by big dicks on guys that aren’t you

[ha****]

Honesty I’m worried I am I masturbate a lot I used to do it with my ex and now I’m lonely I’ve just turned to porn all the time

[Bi****]

6 hours ago, harribow said:

Honesty I’m worried I am I masturbate a lot I used to do it with my ex and now I’m lonely I’ve just turned to porn all the time

You need to find someone you can masturbate with. Someone on the phone is good. If you masturbate to porn you will rewire your brain because you’re going to be thinking about the two on screen. Ideally if you have a friend or girl you met on here then you should be thinking about you and her.

I don’t want to act like a no it all I just happen to be lucky and I saw some things happen in my life to some friends of mine and it made so much sense. As I got older I realized this is actually probably the main problem in the world today. Sounds crazy but I would need to explain. Turn off porn and make sure whatever is getting you charged up includes you.

[Ba****]

8 hours ago, harribow said:

Honesty I’m worried I am I masturbate a lot I used to do it with my ex and now I’m lonely I’ve just turned to porn all the time

Could just be an outlet for a high drive

Try thinking about if you are doing it more out of habit then because you are in the mood
And if the former try skipping it
If you can’t then you may want to look for therapy

Yes excessive porn consumption can rewire your brain but so can explicit photography, erotic literature, “adult” games and your own perverted fantasies

The more of your own imagination you need the more effective the rewiring

It’s the “excessive consumption” part that is more of a problem than “porn”

[Deleted Member]

These replies are wild and most of them from a clearly uneducated stance.

[ha****]

Would you not take there advice ? Honestly I could use some more info on it wht do you reccomend

[Th****]

Dependency is a weakness.You're relying on that source.In some ways to control your sexual desires i do not allow anything to dictate to me.Necessarily how I want to feel at any given time

[sz****]

Its no different to other addictions, theres something missing that theyre trying to replace with a dopamine fix

[vi****]

How do you define addiction?

[Th****]

Some people out there define it as a form of slavery

[Ba****]

3 hours ago, san-bernardino19462 said:

Some people out there define it as a form of slavery

Really?? What people??

And try having a double espresso every 2hours you are awake for the next 3month and then stop
After that we can have a adult conversation about dependency being a weakness

[Ki****]

Better than smoking, as long as performers of age. I know people who can spend fortunes panning for gold, thrift stores, etc. The big questions are: Is it hurting others? Is it hurting you?

[Co****]

I think it depends on how you're defining addiction. And one of the key ways is that it's interfering with major parts of your life like your family, your work etc.. if it is interfering with your sex life with people then it's probably a good idea to correct to some degree

[b0****]

True porn addiction is life impacting. If you haven’t witnessed someone affected by it, you are lucky. It interferes with work and personal intimacy. Being surrounded by sexual content everywhere even places you wouldn’t think about as being a trigger makes it hard to kick.