Porn addiction

[Mu****]

Wednesday at 11:19 AM, BigChanges said:

My suggestion for anyone who cares. Turning off porn is extremely important. However, you can make your own porn. You can film yourself and your partner.

What you should try to avoid at all cost is watching another man f**k some girl while you masturbate. You are not thinking of the consequences. You are “getting off” while watching another man and another woman. When it comes time for you to actually find yourself in a warm clampy p**sy you are in trouble. You’re not turned on by you and a woman. You’ve never jerked off to that.

There’s tons of these guys. Only jerk off with another person even on the phone. Get off because of the interaction not watching others interact or that will become your turn on. I taught myself to get hard from myself. Works everytime.

What came first... the chicken... or the egg? At what point are we literally upside down floating in space on a giant rock?

[ha****]

I’m trying hard rn not to making a new rule im only doing it with somone else who’s horny no more porn

[Ba****]

2 hours ago, harribow said:

I’m trying hard rn not to making a new rule im only doing it with somone else who’s horny no more porn

Good luck

And if you can’t, seek help

[Ca****]

I was addicted to porn and it is what started my enjoyment for chastity. I guess im expressing my kink more often but it has helped drastically cut down my porn watching. It's not for everyone but I've found it to help me very well

[Bi****]

I think this is one of those topics that benefits from a little nuance.

Porn itself isn’t inherently good or bad for everyone, but like many things, it can become unhealthy when it starts interfering with someone’s relationships, daily life, or ability to connect with real people. At that point it’s less about the content itself and more about the underlying behavior and coping habits.

What I try to keep in mind is that people often turn to things like porn for stress relief, loneliness, curiosity, or exploration. When it becomes excessive, it can sometimes be a signal that something else in their life needs attention or balance.

I don’t think judgment helps much in those situations. Encouraging honest conversations, self-awareness, and healthier boundaries probably does more good than shaming someone for struggling with it.

Like a lot of things related to sexuality, I think the healthiest approach is when people are able to be honest with themselves and make choices that support their well-being and their relationships.

[Mi****]

..... um...... ok, what if we like porn, can turn it on and enjoy (porn n plots dont mesh, but some try bless their hearts). Or on that same note go hang with friends, garden, walk my doggos, run errands, have my full day without it at all.... like I feel this subject gets stigmatized and real muddly really fast. If someone appreciates pornography they get labeled as sick errands somthin.......

Sex is waaaaay better irl anyway 😉 but finding partners and having a relationship/s isnt for everyone tho. Be more Sex-positive people, and dont shame because others struggle.

[Ba****]

4 hours ago, MiniUlq69 said:

..... um...... ok, what if we like porn, can turn it on and enjoy (porn n plots dont mesh, but some try bless their hearts). Or on that same note go hang with friends, garden, walk my doggos, run errands, have my full day without it at all.... like I feel this subject gets stigmatized and real muddly really fast. If someone appreciates pornography they get labeled as sick errands somthin.......

Sex is waaaaay better irl anyway 😉 but finding partners and having a relationship/s isnt for everyone tho. Be more Sex-positive people, and dont shame because others struggle.

Well there is a wide and diverse range of what people mean when they say „porn“, from 1)outright asexual depictions of just nudity over 2)deep stories that just also include explicit scenes of intimacy down to 3)the stereotypical depictions of just people engaging in sexual acts, and yeah in category 3) you‘ll at best find the „so bad it’s good“ hilariously stupid „trash entertainment“ but your assertion that „porn n plot dont mesh“ basically disqualifies most porn meant for women from being porn since most of that is in category 2) which almost has to have compelling characters to effectively function and has the same negative effects for overconsumption and addiction

I‘m not trying to directly call you out here it’s just too common for people to overlook the female side of this topic since while it would be easy to spot a guy watching a gangbang video on his phone at first glance, if you see a woman reading „smut“ you’ll have to already know more than just the title and synopsis of the book to understand what she is doing
And calling it „erotica“ instead of porn tends to give some of them a sense of smug superiority somehow, because you know reading a book about being plowed by a minotaur or knotted by a werewolf is so much more „high brow“ than watching gangbang compilations or stepsis got stuck in a washing maschine again

Ps category 1) is just here as a example of thing „not actually meant to be porn“ that get misclassified by the more „repressed/puritan“ elements of society(and overly horny t.e.e.n.s^^)

[Mi****]

...... 🤔 very well stated and valid..... dang, you actually just blew my mind, id completely thrown 2 out, your right...... you make a very convincing argument.

[wa****]

Im woman and I enjoy everyday porn. I think im addicted a bit

[Da****]

I agree with BigPittsburghJock89... amongst most qualified mental health professionals porn addiction isn't really an addiction per se but rather a symptom of other underlying mental health issues... however I feel the same can be said about most addictions in general. One thing I will say is that as someone who is about 85% sure he is neurodivergent, somewhere fairly strongly on the AuADHD spectrum I believe I definitely had a strong porn addiction...it was my first addiction and it had all the sign... like I seriously felt something change in my brain and I was like uh oh...haha...and then I was off to the races...this led to a lot of inner turmoil due to my PED which I experienced at a time where their wasn't a lot of discussion on the topic...but it did motivate me to explore kink and whatnot..so I guess it wasn't all bad....so we as a society definitely need to continue to promote self awareness.. anyway I basically I said all of that to say that for me it was definitely an emotional regulator, a way to alleviate boredom and a huge source of dopamine (which is all connected to dopamine)which NDs already have problems with stabilizing. Alright I stepped off the soap box and picked the lent from my naval. Very interesting topic.

[mi****]

If I'm not sexy enough and good enough in bed that you have to watch porn to get off when your with me is a total turn off and you'd be cut of immediately. I have enough experience and beauty to be able to satisfy my partner ❤️

[Ba****]

9 hours ago, midknightdreamer said:

If I'm not sexy enough and good enough in bed that you have to watch porn to get off when your with me is a total turn off and you'd be cut of immediately. I have enough experience and beauty to be able to satisfy my partner ❤️

You know that this exact sentiment is the main reason nonconsensual chastity is common even in vanilla relationships, right??

Imagine yourself having a partner with a 2-3times higher sex drive than you
Would you really want them to bother you every time they feel like quickly rubbing one out?? How long until you yourself tell them to please f**k themself??

[vi****]

8 hours ago, Barthold said:

You know that this exact sentiment is the main reason nonconsensual chastity is common even in vanilla relationships, right??

Imagine yourself having a partner with a 2-3times higher sex drive than you
Would you really want them to bother you every time they feel like quickly rubbing one out?? How long until you yourself tell them to please f**k themself??

Suprisingly valid point man
+1

[BlueGrace]

I love porn and so do my partners. It’s great to get ideas from. People can become addicted to many things. As long as it doesn’t interrupt my peace or my partners’ peace, I don’t care about someone’s porn addiction. Not my pond, not my ducks.

[co****]

My partner and I love porn. Take turns selecting new categories