Scissoring

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Absolute garbage 😂

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18 hours ago, NexumSange said:

 

Eh, just seems like a question to be asked in a search engine.. library.. doctor's office.. or lesbian friends, but I guess none of those were available.

Nothing wrong with being curious, but also, caution for porn fodder requests 🤷🏻‍♂️☠️

Can you imagine booking a doctors appointment, “yes Dr i appreciate you have genuinely sick people to attend to but I was just wondering if you could tell me if people actually do scissoring?”

or popping down the library,  “Excuse me can you direct me to the section on realistic sexual techniques and a comparison to those displayed in modern pornography.?”

Can’t imagine what I was thinking for posing such a question in forum of a fetish site?!

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Nexum Sage & Aranhis come on get a grip 😂 you makin fools out of yourselfs. Absolutley valid question on a fetisch/kink Forum

Thanks to everyone else answering seriously, very interessting read.

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46 minutes ago, fallen_angel1 said:

Absolutley valid question on a fetisch/kink Forum

Go on then, I let the previous comment from@hornpipe slide but I'll bite.

 

Would you care to explain to the forum what about the act of scissoring (and how it may or may not be common or "get required results") relates to fetishes as the question was phrased i.e. without further context to include for example a voyeurism aspect, and specifically why this otherwise perfectly vanilla sexual act belongs in a forum for BDSM/kink?

 

You don't actually need to answer. There are enough of us here who know which way this will go and despair at how the subject content of forum topics has of late turned largely to irrelevant dross which could be discussed on any dime-a-dozen website. 

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18 minutes ago, Aranhis said:

Go on then, I let the previous comment from@hornpipe slide but I'll bite.

 

Would you care to explain to the forum what about the act of scissoring (and how it may or may not be common or "get required results") relates to fetishes as the question was phrased i.e. without further context to include for example a voyeurism aspect, and specifically why this otherwise perfectly vanilla sexual act belongs in a forum for BDSM/kink?

 

You don't actually need to answer. There are enough of us here who know which way this will go and despair at how the subject content of forum topics has of late turned largely to irrelevant dross which could be discussed on any dime-a-dozen website. 

All i say: we are all here for a common reason: sexual curiosity.

That whole paragraph won't save you now. No need to over explaon an contextualize everything. If you don't like the question, keep on scrolling.
Have a good one.

[AKA_Copper]

When a man asks a woman/women that they dont know about her experiences with hetero/lesbian sex, it's generally not about harmless curiosity. It's often trying to turn something personal into something for their own imagination. The issue isn’t talking about sex in general, it’s the context behind why you're asking and what you expect to get out of it and often that will be objectification. Instead of seeing a queer relationship as a real relationship with emotions, connection, and depth, the OP has focussed on a specific act. Which in turn reduces something meaningful to a fantasy rather than respecting it as someone’s real life.
The reality is that scissoring is just one possible sexual act between women and as others have already said, not something all lesbian couples do. But in mainstream hetero porn culture, it’s often exaggerated and presented as the defining act of lesbian sex. Because of that, it’s become a common fetishised image for heterosexual men. So when a man jumps straight to asking about it, it usually feels that your motivation is to reference a porn category for your own entertainment. That’s where it starts to feel less like a genuine question and more like a fantasy being projected onto someone which is why, OP, you've received the comments you have.
On top of that, these kinds of questions sometimes carry assumptions, like there has to be a “male” role involved or that the relationship somehow revolves around men’s perspectives. That subtly centres men in a relationship/act that literally doesn’t involve them.
If someone genuinely wants to understand LGBTQ+ experiences, there are so many books, podcasts, and creators who talk openly about these topics in spaces where that sharing is voluntary. That’s a lot more respectful than asking strangers about intimate details whether this is a fetish site or not (scisssoring is neither a kink nor a fetish which is another reason yiu've received the comments you have). At the end of the day, if the question centres your curiosity more than another persons comfort, it’s probably crossing a line.
I mean, if you're generally seeking to learn about things outside of your personal experience, I'll be expecting your next forum post to be about sexual acts that only men engage in with other men 😉

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14 minutes ago, AKA_Copper said:

When a man asks a woman/women that they dont know about her experiences with hetero/lesbian sex, it's generally not about harmless curiosity. It's often trying to turn something personal into something for their own imagination. The issue isn’t talking about sex in general, it’s the context behind why you're asking and what you expect to get out of it and often that will be objectification. Instead of seeing a queer relationship as a real relationship with emotions, connection, and depth, the OP has focussed on a specific act. Which in turn reduces something meaningful to a fantasy rather than respecting it as someone’s real life.
The reality is that scissoring is just one possible sexual act between women and as others have already said, not something all lesbian couples do. But in mainstream hetero porn culture, it’s often exaggerated and presented as the defining act of lesbian sex. Because of that, it’s become a common fetishised image for heterosexual men. So when a man jumps straight to asking about it, it usually feels that your motivation is to reference a porn category for your own entertainment. That’s where it starts to feel less like a genuine question and more like a fantasy being projected onto someone which is why, OP, you've received the comments you have.
On top of that, these kinds of questions sometimes carry assumptions, like there has to be a “male” role involved or that the relationship somehow revolves around men’s perspectives. That subtly centres men in a relationship/act that literally doesn’t involve them.
If someone genuinely wants to understand LGBTQ+ experiences, there are so many books, podcasts, and creators who talk openly about these topics in spaces where that sharing is voluntary. That’s a lot more respectful than asking strangers about intimate details whether this is a fetish site or not (scisssoring is neither a kink nor a fetish which is another reason yiu've received the comments you have). At the end of the day, if the question centres your curiosity more than another persons comfort, it’s probably crossing a line.
I mean, if you're generally seeking to learn about things outside of your personal experience, I'll be expecting your next forum post to be about sexual acts that only men engage in with other men 😉

You guys must be all real fun at parties...
Writing whole books about the obvious - i gotta add: some people like to be objectified, this topic def. IS related to kink.

I am ephazizing, if this question makes you uncomfy, ignore it, scroll further, go on with your life as you like it and let other people explore and enjoy what they like. It also makes me uncomfy reading topics here about smelling farts, so what? I go on with my buisness.
Wish you a great one aswell 🤍 I am out of here, unfollowing now

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51 minutes ago, AKA_Copper said:

When a man asks a woman/women that they dont know about her experiences with hetero/lesbian sex, it's generally not about harmless curiosity. It's often trying to turn something personal into something for their own imagination. The issue isn’t talking about sex in general, it’s the context behind why you're asking and what you expect to get out of it and often that will be objectification. Instead of seeing a queer relationship as a real relationship with emotions, connection, and depth, the OP has focussed on a specific act. Which in turn reduces something meaningful to a fantasy rather than respecting it as someone’s real life.
The reality is that scissoring is just one possible sexual act between women and as others have already said, not something all lesbian couples do. But in mainstream hetero porn culture, it’s often exaggerated and presented as the defining act of lesbian sex. Because of that, it’s become a common fetishised image for heterosexual men. So when a man jumps straight to asking about it, it usually feels that your motivation is to reference a porn category for your own entertainment. That’s where it starts to feel less like a genuine question and more like a fantasy being projected onto someone which is why, OP, you've received the comments you have.
On top of that, these kinds of questions sometimes carry assumptions, like there has to be a “male” role involved or that the relationship somehow revolves around men’s perspectives. That subtly centres men in a relationship/act that literally doesn’t involve them.
If someone genuinely wants to understand LGBTQ+ experiences, there are so many books, podcasts, and creators who talk openly about these topics in spaces where that sharing is voluntary. That’s a lot more respectful than asking strangers about intimate details whether this is a fetish site or not (scisssoring is neither a kink nor a fetish which is another reason yiu've received the comments you have). At the end of the day, if the question centres your curiosity more than another persons comfort, it’s probably crossing a line.
I mean, if you're generally seeking to learn about things outside of your personal experience, I'll be expecting your next forum post to be about sexual acts that only men engage in with other men 😉

I personally, as a bi female do not share your same perspective. My female straight friends ask me questions like this out of simple curiosity. Does that make their motivations/curiosity about the fetishisms or could it be that the OP does have a simple curiosity? We can assume motives, and it could be about fetishisms...but even then...his question was not lude. He did not require that anyone respond. And honestly, I often have curiosity myself about gay relationships, even though, I myself am not gay. Does this make my motives/curiosity fretish or perverse or does it make me a curious human being?

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3 hours ago, fallen_angel1 said:

Nexum Sage & Aranhis come on get a grip 😂 you makin fools out of yourselfs. Absolutley valid question on a fetisch/kink Forum

Thanks to everyone else answering seriously, very interessting read.

I think Aranhis and My comments are just as valid as anyone else's.
What's more, I've been respectful, truthful, forthcoming, and intelligent in my responses and completely devoid of insult or sarcasm - which you AND OP haven't managed to do.
Implying my (Or Aranhis') responses aren't serious because they differ from Your view / raise legitimate concern, awareness to aspects in these forums which are less than savoury AND unfortunately commonplace, is abrupt, myopic, dismissive, and unproductive.

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4 hours ago, AKA_Copper said:

When a man asks a woman/women that they dont know about her experiences with hetero/lesbian sex, it's generally not about harmless curiosity. It's often trying to turn something personal into something for their own imagination. The issue isn’t talking about sex in general, it’s the context behind why you're asking and what you expect to get out of it and often that will be objectification. Instead of seeing a queer relationship as a real relationship with emotions, connection, and depth, the OP has focussed on a specific act. Which in turn reduces something meaningful to a fantasy rather than respecting it as someone’s real life.
The reality is that scissoring is just one possible sexual act between women and as others have already said, not something all lesbian couples do. But in mainstream hetero porn culture, it’s often exaggerated and presented as the defining act of lesbian sex. Because of that, it’s become a common fetishised image for heterosexual men. So when a man jumps straight to asking about it, it usually feels that your motivation is to reference a porn category for your own entertainment. That’s where it starts to feel less like a genuine question and more like a fantasy being projected onto someone which is why, OP, you've received the comments you have.
On top of that, these kinds of questions sometimes carry assumptions, like there has to be a “male” role involved or that the relationship somehow revolves around men’s perspectives. That subtly centres men in a relationship/act that literally doesn’t involve them.
If someone genuinely wants to understand LGBTQ+ experiences, there are so many books, podcasts, and creators who talk openly about these topics in spaces where that sharing is voluntary. That’s a lot more respectful than asking strangers about intimate details whether this is a fetish site or not (scisssoring is neither a kink nor a fetish which is another reason yiu've received the comments you have). At the end of the day, if the question centres your curiosity more than another persons comfort, it’s probably crossing a line.
I mean, if you're generally seeking to learn about things outside of your personal experience, I'll be expecting your next forum post to be about sexual acts that only men engage in with other men 😉

You make a lot of assumptions in your comment. I was told by a female bisexual friend that she enjoyed scissoring, I was surprised as I didn’t think this was a real thing outside of pornography. So I thought I would ask a group of people who might know about this. I’m not going to the library or reading a book. And any internet search I might do on the subject is only going to return porn.
I wanted to ask real people what they do. I wanted genuine replies so I can get a genuine insight into life experiences. It is possible to be inquisitive without fetishising something. It is possible to learn about something without that something being all about me

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43 minutes ago, hornpipe said:

I wanted to ask real people what they do. I wanted genuine replies so I can get a genuine insight into life experiences. It is possible to be inquisitive without fetishising something. It is possible to learn about something without that something being all about me

These are all valid reasons, but this also highlights exactly why some people including myself here found the question warranted flagging in this location - you literally explain here that there is no fetish connection to your enquiry.

 

You might not be a wrong 'un (and I don't believe you are), but scroll through the forums and you'll find most posts of this nature do not come from altruistic/educational motivations. 

 

As I thought I had been clear enough about early in this thread I made no presumption about your reason for posting the OP which does not mean a discussion should not still be had around those reasons when we all have a responsibility to keep FET safe, and was curious to learn what reasons there could be.

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5 hours ago, fallen_angel1 said:

All i say: we are all here for a common reason: sexual curiosity.

That whole paragraph won't save you now. No need to over explaon an contextualize everything. If you don't like the question, keep on scrolling.
Have a good one.

So, to sum up...

 

i) You are here because of sexual curiosity and therefore assume that everyone else must be (spoiler: we are not), 

 

ii) You cannot, as asked, explain how the OP connects to BDSM, kink, or fetishes, preferring to dodge and deflect instead, and

 

iii) You suggest that if somebody doesn't like a question they should keep scrolling yet take issue with and respond to me putting a couple of questions out there.

 

You have a good one too, wherever you are.

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@hornpipe There's a Fet article here... without assumption, prejudice, agenda or anything I think you may find it interesting/relevant. If not, no worries.

 

https://www.fetish.com/magazine/bdsm/tribbing-and-tribadism/