Odd-1086 Posted February 28 I mean, in the sense that the things we do everyday that gives a us satisfaction and is tied to how we see ourselves. Im a service sub and I love being denied and pleasuring my female partner, cumming is a reward, but like me my partner sees being able to satisfy me as part of their self worth also. So everybody wants to please everybody. So how do we decide who's incharge of a TPE relationship.Does wanting to be a slave or a dominant mean that there is something wrong or do we just see the other person's needs as paramount and acceptable and tied to our self worth?
ey**** Posted February 28 Being submissive or Dominant shouldn't be at detriment to our own self worth
subjoe101 Posted February 28 It's all about perspective. There is nothing bad or wrong about a dominant wanting to please a submissive. In fact, I would argue that it is an exceptional relationship when this exists. The method in which she pleases him or achieves self worth is just different than in a traditional relationship. For example, many subs (including myself) love to be teased and denied, so putting the sub through an intense tease and deny session is enjoyable and exciting for the sub. Buying a sub a gift for his outstanding obedience and devotion is another example.  I am happiest and more productive when I am under the strict control of my wife and so her dominance is a gift to me in the same way that my submission is a gift to her.
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