Brat taming

[Sh****]

My take would be to have consequences for each thing they do wrong, dont tell them, and start the next session with the consequence/punishment-surprise brat, now we start your goal and then I get to properly train you.

I’ve punished a Sub by bringing their favourite foods, and eating it in front of them, and if they really want some then they will have to do something that they really don’t like doing.

[Ta****]

That’s right. There’s something going on with guys nowadays. Is there something in the water, air or food? What’s going on? Too many guys going soft, feminine that women naturally are against it.

[Fi****]

I think the issue is how you frame it. „Soft dom” vs. „actually dominant” isn’t really an either/or. Dominance, is leadership within the dynamic, and that can be strict, playful, or caring depending on the moment. With brats, communication is often indirect. Testing and provoking can be part of the play. What usually matters more are clear boundaries and agreed-upon consequences.. not surprise punishments or trying to choose between two labels

[wb****]

Babygirlbabbie has given you the best suggestions. I completely agree with her.

Before you begin to enter into any 24/7 dynamic all involved have to establish their basic wants and needs.

You need to be able to tell her your wants and needs. She needs to also communicate this to you. You can’t go into any relationship with only part of the information. Think of as putting together a piece of furniture; you can have all the parts and tools but without the instructions it’s never going to be complete. Communicating wants and needs are the instruction.

I also agree with the Justin555 all healthy relationships have both giving 100%.

To address the statement “choosing either to be a soft dom to an actual dominant.” Here a secret from a sub, the type of Dom you call yourself is completely irrelevant. What matters is that you take care of yourself so you can take care of her.

(IMO) The only “actual” Dom is a person who is able to leads with respect, understanding, and kindness.

Get insights from Dom’s in a dynamic is always going to be healthier insight then someone who is still looking.

[To****]

Brats can be fun, but they can also confuse people who are new to the dynamic

One thing I learned is this: being a soft Dom and being dominant aren’t opposites. Real dominance is knowing when to be calm and caring, and when to be firm and hold the line. You don’t switch personalities, you hold the frame

With brats, a lot of the resistance is part of the game. But communication still has to exist somewhere. If she never tells you what she actually needs or enjoys, then you’re left guessing, and that’s where frustration starts

From my side, I usually make it clear early on. Playful resistance is fine, silence and mind reading isn’t. A brat can push a Dom a little, but she still has to trust him enough to communicate outside the scene

Balance comes from structure. Clear expectations, clear boundaries, and moments where you talk like normal humans instead of Dom/sub. When that part works, the brat energy stops feeling like contradiction and starts feeling like chemistry

[Ba****]

Yo quick question
I left a comment here a little over a day ago, now the question is; was is it quietly removed by moderator or ryanrave19, or is it somehow still stuck in the system??
I got no notification about any guideline ***s or the removal itself, so it would be great to understand what happened to prevent any repeat or duplicate issues

[FE****]

15 minutes ago, Barthold said:

Yo quick question
I left a comment here a little over a day ago, now the question is; was is it quietly removed by moderator or ryanrave19, or is it somehow still stuck in the system??
I got no notification about any guideline ***s or the removal itself, so it would be great to understand what happened to prevent any repeat or duplicate issues

It's been escalated to management pending review.

To clear up a misconception, the OP can't remove others' comments.

[Co****]

As always, communication is key. She may not know or be able to say what she wants, but she should be able to give you feedback.
Perhaps you need to try the “hard Dom” route and then sit down and talk about what did/did not work for each of you. And try being more permissive/soft and talk about how that works. In that way you should be able to discover what you each enjoy and are comfortable with.

[Ed****]

Before communication there should be rapport, if you are serious about being a dom- of some sort, and you need to realise there are good dom and bad dom, at the same time there are good sub and bad sub.

Bratty sub might have their own intention but if you build the trust enough they will let you know their likes. Alternatively, I had tried to dump a sub, because they were too bratty, but before that you need to ask yourself did you actually set up a proper framework for them, to follow? Or you just let them go over your own well being.

Being a dom, requires lots of inner work for yourself, as your sub (or any women or partner) will test you without they even realise that. So you having a stable, and strong core is very important, and you need to think in a way that, sub should be there for your pleasure.

I wasn’t always like that, I was very soft but then realise it’s not what they want after all. After I built some structure they actually told me all about their past experience, with another dom etc, so be firm and set up some structures, inside and outside of bedroom, if they don’t follow? Reduce the attention and interaction.