Alcohol in Play

[be****]

I won’t play with anyone drinking. One-I’m an alcoholic and in recovery myself. & 2-it’s not safe in my opinion. If you want to play with my wife and I there is no alcohol involved. If that’s a deal breaker than o well. We ain’t meant to be than.

[Al****]

i think the play itself should be what intoxicates you.

[Vl****]

play should be done with a clear mind, this includes substances and emotional states

[sh****]

My ex-wife and I used to host swinger parties at our house my ex had to get buzzed and a lot of people always drink I'm not a drinker so I always did everything sober I enjoyed doing it sober because I was really experiencing it and had good memories but I don't have to have that liquid courage

[my****]

No play while drinking. If I wouldn’t get behind the wheel, I wouldn’t session. Now, in the event I had person in my world that was 24/7. I would have to re-evaluate my position. If I told her while drunk to give me head, is that a session? How about if we were both drunk. I don’t drink that often like a few times a year, but on that occasion I would have to come up with a code I followed. I’ll worry about it when I have someone 24/7 and when I have that first drink with them.

[al****]

Breaks the ice
All about respect

[Po****]

I personally don’t mix alcohol and any kind of sexual activity. Most laws have gotten to the point where you can’t consent if drunk. One of my friends had a nasty legal battle because his partner said she never would have done what they did while sober. He got taken to civil court and lost and he lost in criminal court and got 2 years. Thankfully not put on a list but after that, alcohol in system…no play time

[Ba****]

Well like you already eluded to, it depends
Like what you are doing, how you set it up and what state of mind you are at while doing it

It’s basically like driving a tractor on private property while under the influence
Not advisable but fun enough if you’re not too stupid about it, if everybody involved is aware and nobody is over doing it then the extra risk isn’t too much bigger
Especially in the example you have given, on one side breath play aka one of the few things where safety is an illusion regardless how sober you are and on the other end is foot worship which generally tends to have a quite low potential for physical harm while sober but now there is the credible risk of getting accidentally kicked in the face by a drunk person, which is quite the escalation in comparison

Alcohol isn’t really my thing but i operated „under the influence“ of what i‘ll just call „love and cuddle tablets“ in hopes of moving around censors before, but we kept it at some mild „bondage“(more of a box wrap then a actual tie) and some light resistance and impact play

I am also addicted to caffeine so i‘m never really „fully sober“ and even if i were i‘d quite often get high on my own brain during play

You just need to ask yourselves how far you are capable of going in you altered state, answer yourselves honestly and then aim to stop around three steps short of that, if you can do that you‘ll likely be fine

By the way the „you“ is mostly plural in this comment, this isn’t „good“ or even advisable as is so just one person spontaneously deciding to show up „elevated“ is way beyond just out of line

[Vy****]

For me personally it's not a big deal in low risk play, as long as ppl are still capable of consent and have control of their body, but there are a lot of asterisks to it.

For one, as a Switch it is a lot less of an issue if I had a couple drinks when I am the sub. It is honestly very relaxing and I like it, as long as I'm not *******/drunk to the point of feeling sick. Very different to beimg Dom where it gets irresponsible and unsafe very quickly.

For a biological male, whiskey d**k is also a factor. If your part in a session requires penetration wirh your little friend and you tend to not be able to do that under the influence, which is true for many, then that can be a problem.
It is for me, so depending on the situation I wouldn't be able to drink past a certain point if I still want to engage in such a session within a certain timeframe.

And ofc the obvious one is being a Dom in any higher risk play. It is completely irresponsible.
Because of my experience in medicine, ppl often ask me about clinic type stuff, so I make an extra point for that and similar types of play:
Under no circumstances should you put needles in ppl, engage in branding/cutting, administer large enemas, engage in breath play, set/remove permanent or temporary catheters or otherwise insert actual medical instruments into a persons body if you are *** in any way, the same goes for e-stim cause you may miss contact burns from overheating. Most of those tools are built under the assumption that the people using them know what they are doing, not for drunk ppl to go crazy. Medical concerns are always an issue but for the more extreme types of play especially so. It is hardly safe for most sober ppl. Doing that under the influence is a disaster waiting to happen for at least 20 potential reasons, just off the top of my head. Even the Sub should be reasonably sober, cause internal damage can be a serious risk if your body starts to not sense when something is wrong.

[ey****]

the text book answer : you shouldn't drink and play for a whole list of reasons included, but not limited to - it impairs judgement, doesn't lead to clear consent, can affect *** tolerance leading to more dangerous play, if it's the person 'doing' who is drunk it can impact accuracy (in both aim, and strength) and of course is high risk if doing anything like rope, electrics, etc.

Whilst, ideally, the recommended amount to drink is... nothing... like anything else, one or two wouldn't necessarily hurt so long as it's within everyone involved's risk profile.   

The kinda reality:

Drink and play happens. Particularly in events which rely on licensed bars to stay open.  This is where a lot of things like context and risk profile comes into play - for example who the other person is, how well you know each other, if you've played before - like - are you in an ongoing relationship/dynamic, is the activity one which carries low risk - so on, so forth.

Just of course to reremind that alcohol may affect your risk profile - a simple question of would I/they do this if we were sober - if no, then it's probably something to avoid. 

[Li****]

In the UK if anyone has had a drink of alcohol, you can't then do anything as it's considered R@pe. On either partner.

[sl****]

Interesting. The sex club is went to in NYC had a bring your own bar. Honestly I was so uncomfortable for my first time that I got really really drunk. My girl was sober and we had a great time. But as far as anything other than "regular" acts. Rope, breathing, any type of bandage or at risk play id say its a bad idea.

[Da****]

In established dynamics where you know each other very well then alcohol I suppose would be ok. I have never been drunk or drinking during a scene. I want to be certain that I am
In control of the situation and in control of myself as well to be certain I did not push my play partner (s) beyond their limits as some can become Jon verbal during play. That way I can read them and determine if they have had enough. That is just me though, I’m not comfortable unless I am totally sober.

[Sa****]

Totally uncomfortable sober

[Ed****]

Maybe once you know the person. But I do not advise any man to introduce alcohol into play. Not everyone is mentally sane and its a very easy and common way to catch a SA charge. Be safe and keep it sober.

[Ch****]

Some people in certain settings might need a drink or two to fully socialize in a setting like a party or club that can get intense/overwhelming. But it should never be too much that loses your awareness or discernment. If you or your partner get to that point without communicating prior, it’s best to end the interaction

[or****]

I love drinking and I like sex. The two combined together is euphoric to me because alcohol relaxes my body and makes it run hot, puts me in a state where things are slowed down so I can take my time to enjoy every little touch more vividly than I otherwise would, especially with a new partner. An "extreme kink" for me would be rope play, and although I can see how it could potentially be dangerous, I trust the other person to not accidentally go too far haha, the most inebriated I would allow them to go is being tipsy just to ensure they're still in a clear enough state of mind to respond to safewords.

[jh****]

In regards to my previous comment and reading everyone else's view on this I will redact my previous statement. I realize now that drink should not be introduced into play, one or two is fine but any more is going down a dangerous road.

[po****]

I believe drink shouldn't be involved in play. Prelude glass of wine perhaps. Play needs unadulterated consent, undoubtedly trust and above all control and awareness from both parties.

[OK****]

Idk I’m sure it’ll depend on the person but I think it could go off the rails anytime

[ha****]

You shouldn’t redact if it’s genuinely how you feel and it helps you get off I would make my consents clear before any drinking and have a partner that you know and can trust will keep you safe and take them to heart

[Ba****]

13 hours ago, Eddy4200 said:

Maybe once you know the person. But I do not advise any man to introduce alcohol into play. Not everyone is mentally sane and its a very easy and common way to catch a SA charge. Be safe and keep it sober.

Why only „any man“??
What has being „mentally sane“ to do with this?? And what does your head canon say about a woman bringing her own alcohol??