Da**** Posted 10 hours ago Author Update: I have been in contact with her today. Her job has had her doing 16 hour days revamping a location.. she has been training new staff and will be moving to her own store in the near future. What was to be a 2 week job of traning a new manager shifted on her suddenly to a bottom up retrain and restarting do to failing to meet standards by previous management.. damn even typing that made me tired..but the question is still valid, not for this situation but in general.. I agree with a number who have answered. Communication is important so are having realistic expectations especially in a D/S relationship. The question is out there.. let's keep the discussion going.. how can such situations be minimized? How do you open the topic of priorities? Not just in an ldr situation but any relationship where cohabitation is not currently in the cards.
ey**** Posted 8 hours ago 1 hour ago, Dash121 said: Update: I have been in contact with her today. Her job has had her doing 16 hour days revamping a location.. she has been training new staff and will be moving to her own store in the near future. yep, that'll explain it 1 hour ago, Dash121 said: How do you open the topic of priorities? Not just in an ldr situation but any relationship where cohabitation is not currently in the cards. carefully because it can come across entitled and needy. Like her job is currently demanding more of her attention for now - but also it's her job that, well, pays the bills. If you decided to end because you're not a priority, then, she needs to pay her bills. If she pushes back on her job then - yeah, career stagnation and so forth. The time demands won't be permanent.
Da**** Posted 7 hours ago Author Well said.. she pays her bills and it is her career.. she wants to transfer closer next year, but she has to put in the time first...and I admit I have higher communication expectations then any previous partner in and out of the lifestyle.. so I know that is also taking getting used to
an**** Posted 6 hours ago Im struggling with unmedicated adhd or something of the like and if something or someone isnt right in front of me, i can forget they exist. I dont know if thats her deal but i thought i should throw that random piece of useless info out there. I forgot about my aloe vera plant for like a year and god help anything that ends up in a box in storage
Es**** Posted 5 hours ago 1 hour ago, anonfor2day said: Im struggling with unmedicated adhd or something of the like and if something or someone isnt right in front of me, i can forget they exist. I dont know if thats her deal but i thought i should throw that random piece of useless info out there. I forgot about my aloe vera plant for like a year and god help anything that ends up in a box in storage That 100% sounds like ADHD we often struggle with a variation of object permanence. It's not so much we forget it exists. But that we forget it needs us. Lol
vv**** Posted 3 hours ago It could be communication burnout. I also have unmedicated ADHD and while sometimes I just reply to texts in my head instead of actually replying, I also get completely burned out by staying in constant contact. I don’t know if that’s an ADHD specific thing or just introverted behavior or what but it definitely happens and I’ll feel bad about disappearing for a few days.
cu**** Posted 1 hour ago I’m really bad at that… I always put partners first… and I get obsessive and attached quickly. I have no advice, other than to try to be forgiving, and try not to stress
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