sk**** Posted 15 hours ago In the instances I've experienced the straight world in this way I learned (women) are not supposed to ask, not supposed to say fuck yes if a man asks directly (this means he must be Bad), not supposed to discuss desires immediately on the freaking app designed for that purpose, and not supposed to share logistics of sex or have std discussions after having determined mutual sexual interest. They shouldn't be frank about not wanting a relationship, or matter-of-fact about being a slut or nonmonogamous. They should just be kind of blurry and vague about having sexual desire of their own because sex is something men do to women.
as**** Posted 12 hours ago The difference, I think, is the person, the approach, and the interpreted level of threat. Most women aren't down for casual sex, though some are. Women are simply people who view and react to sexual prospects differently. You must understand the individual because there is no equation to perform to get the response you want. You must connect and excessive emotional intelligence to determine which individuals have stricter sexual preferences and which ones have looser. Also, you can't forget that 25% of women are beat by men, and you can't exactly tell which men are the beaters or not. So there is a threat level that women need to consider as well, especially if they don't know you very well, or they interpret you as not being able to deliver what they want
as**** Posted 12 hours ago 3 hours ago, skdndnd said: In the instances I've experienced the straight world in this way I learned (women) are not supposed to ask, not supposed to say fuck yes if a man asks directly (this means he must be Bad), not supposed to discuss desires immediately on the freaking app designed for that purpose, and not supposed to share logistics of sex or have std discussions after having determined mutual sexual interest. They shouldn't be frank about not wanting a relationship, or matter-of-fact about being a slut or nonmonogamous. They should just be kind of blurry and vague about having sexual desire of their own because sex is something men do to women. You said a powerful thing when you said, "sex is something men do to women"
ey**** Posted 11 hours ago It's not really double standards Because it's different people with different boundaries/expectations if these hypothetical friends who propositioned you for sex had been asked by you instead of vice versa they'd have likely said yes because they were up for sex with you.
yo**** Posted 2 hours ago I understand that people have different views on relationships and personal choices, but I don’t agree that casual sex is always okay. For me, sex carries emotional and psychological significance, and separating it completely from commitment can lead to unintended consequences like emotional confusion, attachment issues, or feeling unfulfilled. I also think it can sometimes reduce intimacy to something purely physical, which takes away from the deeper connection that many people ultimately want, especially us spicy folk. I believe that being more intentional about who you share that level of closeness with can lead to healthier and more meaningful relationships in the long run.
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