The Spanking need

[Mo****]

This may sound a little weird, but do other Doms—or even subs( get spanked in this scenario ) ever feel a genuine desire to spank someone?

As a Dom, I sometimes feel the urge to spank someone, degrade them, or exercise that kind of power. I’m not talking about sex itself—it’s more about the dynamic. Sometimes you can have sex without any of those needs , and it just doesn’t satisfy that particular need or have the same impact.

[De****]

You can in a punishing form.

[Mo****]

I can in any form to be honest with you if you have the person that they don't run away from the second spank ! Or they think what you just start it ! Is all of it

[De****]

13 minutes ago, Motyaze said:

I can in any form to be honest with you if you have the person that they don't run away from the second spank ! Or they think what you just start it ! Is all of it

Right! I'm just saying that is one way.

[su****]

I’m subby and I feel this urge time 2 to time time lol

[to****]

My ex man occasionally cuffed me and spanked me especially after I got a little moody with him

[Mo****]

3 hours ago, torontodanielle said:

My ex man occasionally cuffed me and spanked me especially after I got a little moody with him

And you didn't like it ?

[Ro****]

I do have a craving for a good spank now and then, though for me it would definitely lead to more. And I don't take it as a punishment, only funishment. My dynamics, not to be negative towards other who do differently

[to****]

I actually really enjoyed him cuffing and spanking me yes

[To****]

Maybe I’m the odd one here, but I always thought thats kind of the point of D/s😉😏

Its not really about the spanking itself. Its the desire for the dynamic, the response, the trust, the control… spanking is just one way of expressing it.

If I only wanted to spank someone, I’d buy a pillow🙃
The person and the connection is what gives it meaning…

[Mo****]

1 hour ago, RogueLynx said:

I do have a craving for a good spank now and then, though for me it would definitely lead to more. And I don't take it as a punishment, only funishment. My dynamics, not to be negative towards other who do differently

This is a perfect concept and the real sub should take it as you said- it's satisfying that you both earn from this beautiful dynamic !

[Mo****]

3 minutes ago, TomWhttt said:

Maybe I’m the odd one here, but I always thought thats kind of the point of D/s😉😏

Its not really about the spanking itself. Its the desire for the dynamic, the response, the trust, the control… spanking is just one way of expressing it.

If I only wanted to spank someone, I’d buy a pillow🙃
The person and the connection is what gives it meaning…

Everyone single one of us have a different view !believe me, a billow will not give you the feeling- the satisfaction! Yes it's the dynamic and the connection but also the action itself and the impact !

[Nikell]

The 2 men who spanked / beat me on different occasions both had me blow them as the grand finally .

[To****]

I think we are actually saying similar things from different angles. The action itself matters, but what gives it depth is the connection, the trust and the reaction of the person receiving it. Without that, it’s just a movement

[Fu****]

Being spanked is a way to subspace, spanking is a way to "domspace".

Its absolutely about wielding power and having trust in your decision on that power.

[Mi****]

This is exactly it for me too. It was never really about the ***, it's more of a conduit. What actually does something to me is watching how much control someone's willing to hand over, then getting the real version of them back, the squirming, the moaning, the whimpering they can't quite hold in. That reaction is what tells me I'm actually reaching something in them, not just going through motions. The part I take seriously though is that GENUINE and just REALLY INTO IT can look almost identical in the moment, learning to actually tell those two apart matters more to me than any technique does. And it's not contained to scenes either, sometimes it's just walking past her in the hallway and the urge is already there, which tells me it's less a switch and more just how I'm built.