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Our Naughty Guide to Erotic Spanking

Getting a spanking doesn't have to be actual *** unless of course, you like it like that. Here's our erotic spanking guide for both newbies or seasoned kinksters.
 

More than one way to getting a spanking

There are many ways to spank an ass. I'll admit it, in my D/s relationship and the BDSM lifestyle, I love impact play. Nothing gets me hotter than feeling someone or something smacking agains my ass, legs, back, and even my face. Getting a spanking is violent, intimate, and relaxing, all at the same time.

While impact play can involve many scenarios and body parts, my personal favourite - and the one most common in and outside of the kinky world - is erotic spanking. For some people, the idea conjures up old memories from childhood. For others, like me, you're nodding your head and either your palm is twitching or your butt is wiggling, depending on where you fall on the spanking spectrum.

If you think that getting a spanking is just a few swats on the ass during rough sex, think again. Erotic Spanking can be done in multiple ways for multiple reasons.

Getting a spanking. Woman and erotic spanking
Getting a spanking. Image: Vintage - Days of Magic via Flickr Creative Commons license 
 

Erotic spanking for rough sex

Ever seen those bumper stickers that say “If you're going to ride my ass, at least pull my hair”? I love that one! It epitomises rough sex. This might be the best way to spank an ass. All that's left is some smacks to my ass.

Getting a spanking with a few light taps on the flank or something a bit rougher is what most people probably think of when they first consider erotic spanking. It's an addition to any sexual encounter - assuming your partner is into it, of course. My Dominant loves to do it because he says I clench around his cock with each smack. Sounds like a good reason to me.
 

Funishment spanking

Now this is something that's both fun and a punishment, but only in a wink-wink, nudge-nudge kind of way. Typically, the bottom does something “bad” in a playful way, knowing the end result will be a spanking. This may or may not be combined with role play. The top gets the opportunity to “punish” their partner while the spanko gets to fulfil a need.

In strict power exchange relationships, I'm not a major fan of this type of spanking - it's much easier just to say you need one or to ask for one. But when you're feeling playful or if you don't have a strict power exchange dynamic, it's one way to get what you both want.
 


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Punishment spanking

Speaking as a submissive, this one is not fun. Some rule has been broken or agreement violated, and the consequence is a spanking. Punishment spankings aren't commonly used with masochists or anyone who loves spankings but speaking as a spanko who's received one, they aren't the same thing at all.

I see them used most for non-masochists and people who really don't enjoy them. They're a great deterrent to continued misbehaviour - especially since it's hard to get in trouble when you can't even sit down for a day or so.
 

Therapy spanking

In my relationship, we call these “resets.” They occur most commonly when a bottom or submissive gets stressed, freaked out, or overly cranky and needs to be re-centered. When done right, this kind of spanking brings about an emotional release.  Learn why submissive punishment can be a good thing.

For me, it's tears, but sometimes, it's just plain old screaming. Either way, when he's done, my head is a little quieter, my emotions are calmer, and I'm back to my usual self. For a top or Dominant who enjoys giving spankings or inflicting ***, it's possible that giving a spanking could be a reset for them, as well.
 

Implements of ass destruction

Sure, the most common way to getting a spanking an ass is by hand, and to me, nothing feels better. But there are so many more options: paddles and belts come to mind. If you're into ***, marks, or just impact play in general, there are also canes, floggers, whips, and riding crops. If you can smack it across an ass, and your partner lets you, it can be used in a spanking.
 

Erotic spanking aftercare

In any scenario, aftercare is very important. Even if it's a few light taps on the ass during sex, it's a good idea to make sure there's no lasting damage done or to give a few cuddles before you get a sandwich or fall asleep. With therapy spankings that may result in a big release of emotion. However, with punishment spankings that are done to cause ***, you definitely need aftercare - hugs, water, soothing touches, whatever helps you both feel better after an intense session.


Kayla Lords is a freelance writer, sex blogger, and a masochistic babygirl living the 24/7 D/s life. Follow her on her website or on Twitter @Kaylalords.

 

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