Things Nobody Told Me Before I Popped My Monogamous Kink Bubble

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4 hours ago, calgary533698 said:

After being in a marriage where anything outside the normal was met with shame, I’ve finally reached a place where I’m embracing the side of myself that has always been there. Allowing myself to be naturally submissive has been incredibly freeing, but has also been far more challenging than I expected. One thing I’ve learned quickly is that many people hear submissive and assume it means easy, desperate, or available. It doesn’t. Submission, at least for me, isn’t about saying yes to everyone. It’s about choosing the right person to trust. It’s something earned through consistency, respect, safety, and genuine connection. Ironically, the more secure I feel, the more naturally submissive I become.

What I’ve struggled with is being told that because I won’t rush into sex or because I set boundaries, I’m not really a sub or that I am a switch. Having boundaries doesn’t make someone less submissive, it makes them emotionally healthy. Saying no to someone I don’t trust doesn’t mean I secretly want to be in charge; it means I take submission seriously enough to reserve it for someone who deserves it.

You’re so right having boundaries doesn’t make you less of a sub, hope you have fun on your journey to finding someone who deserves it x

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Excellent insight

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I’ve found a lot of people will talk and make plans then disappear like our conversation is just gone mid conversation

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14 minutes ago, buffalo10695 said:

I’ve found a lot of people will talk and make plans then disappear like our conversation is just gone mid conversation

sometimes the system engineers have set up automated detection systems for bots that are pretending to be people and have sometimes stolen other people's pictures in our pretending to be real people whose conversations they've copied and are using with other people and a trip something in the alerts and they get their accounts deleted or banned