Woman and Older Men

[Mi****]

@fluffyxbunny7 you took the words right out of my mouth!

[Mi****]

Mic drop!! You know what she said is totally true! Feel safer, they have more experience, in most cases

[Sa****]

12 hours ago, daddysgoodgirl08 said:

For me it’s a maturity thing. I’m 18 so I’m really young and most males around my age are boys not men. So far the majority of younger males that have contacted me on this app have wanted some form of sexual conversation without so much of a hi, or they just look at pictures, whilst the older males tend to ask questions about my profile and actually read it.

This!

[Sa****]

Maturity is probably the biggest part for me. my male friends are extremely immature, but also feeling protected in general, more life experiences, more respectful, calmer demeanor, it's almost like a sense of relief

[ha****]

I’ve always been interested in older men, but never had the opportunity or courage to engage with them. Now that I’m of the “older” age bracket, I find myself looking for men around my age because they have lived life and learned lessons that have matured them mentally and emotionally. However, I find it hard to connect with men in my age group because so many of them are hitting their “midlife crisis” stage and are chasing younger women to feel youthful again. There are so many of us maturing women that still have a lot to offer and still have active sex drives. We may not be as firm and fit as we once were, but we also offer experience and mental maturity. As a younger woman, I liked older men because I craved the feeling of safety, security, being taken care of emotionally and intimately, and knowing that I was “chosen” among all the other choices out there. Now that I’m older, I still want those same feelings, but age doesn’t factor into it as much as it used to.

Throughout the majority of my youth I had two long term relationships with men in my age bracket, both with E.D. Now, as a mature woman seeking a new life partner, the chance of me finding a mature partner with fully functioning equipment is rapidly declining. It’s really not fair that once our minds and emotional intelligence finally mature, our bodies start to fail us in one way or another.

I am finally starting to come to terms with and explore my kinky side and I’m inundated with messages from scammers, curious young men looking to “hook up” with an older woman, men who are just looking for “fun” or men who are incapable of focusing on developing a true connection with me and meeting up either because they are “busy” or are not comfortable with a woman who expects the same courtesy and respect that I provide to them.

[an****]

It is very much matching needs/wants. Same as all other situations or dynamics.

Think of it like wanting to appreciate the art in a museum or the exhibits at an aquarium and having a tour guide. Going with a group of inexperienced or uninterested friends may be fun but you're not really getting the full experience and you not feeling taken care of through that situation. You may ask a question and get a silly answer from your 'group', your tour guild will not do that.

In the early stages of sexuality (or each growth stage) seeking a partner that is going to respect your anxiety, respect your inexperience, care for you properly, and understand the emotional and physical demands, manifests as safety, protection, and security.

[fa****]

Maybe we need to examine why men my age are so obsessed with women the age of their daughters? Personally, I'd be happy to have any partner, but the fixation on youth is a little icky.

[ha****]

1 hour ago, fairborn58068 said:

Maybe we need to examine why men my age are so obsessed with women the age of their daughters? Personally, I'd be happy to have any partner, but the fixation on youth is a little icky.

Honestly, I think it’s a couple of things that probably have little to do with perversion. I think, like myself, men have a hard time accepting their age after a certain point. I definitely do not feel like I’m 53. I still feel like I’m in my 30s, but wiser. I am drawn to the energy & zest for life that younger people have because I feel like I’m still one of them. I’m still attracted to men my age or older though.

The second reason I believe for men is because it makes them feel desirable, admired, sexy & appreciated. The same reasons older women seek the company of younger men. How many of us have been through hell & back in our relationships over the years and just want to recapture those feelings of youth? The excitement for life, the nervousness of a first kiss, the mystery of newness. I think the older we get, the more we think about the end and we want to go back and appreciate all of the things we took for granted in our youth.

[an****]

23 hours ago, asheville512909 said:

The only ones I have seen in to older men is doing it for mon@y

Where do you find these people? I have never experienced this with any woman. I have dated +10 years younger and older and they have always been either paying more than fair or I'm making it a point to tell them not to pay for things. In my experience women these days are like really good about ***. Mostly they are looking for safety/respect/equal. Sorry that's not your experience.

[ne****]

It's only recently I realized I'm attracted to effeminate transgender women who identify as a woman.
Super young isn't ideal. Because of the difference in the level of maturity and self independence. Also, very young financially unstable partners. Have become off limits for me lately.
I live on a fixed monthly budget. Then add runaway inflation for the past 8 years. I find myself making tough financial choices for basic needs now. Whereas 8 years ago. I always had extra spending ***. So being financially dominant has become unrealistic in a relationship for me.
The point being, an attractive, effeminate, financially stable partner is more ideal for me. I can still pull my own weight. In a relationship where partners are contributing finances equally. Then financial stressors diminish for partners in the relationship.
Yes, a mature stable partner better matches with me. However, human heads and faces continue to grow throughout the entire lifespan.
Then it becomes even more difficult. For some birth women and most effeminate transgender women to retain an effeminate appearance. As they age throughout their lives.
So, my attraction for women near my age group diminishes over time. Perhaps this explains why younger women remain attractive for older men.
It's not that I want to have sex with women half my age. It's about wanting friendship with them and admiring their youthful vitality.
So perversion is a matter of perspective. That based on objective quantifiable evidence and feedback.
Manly appearance is not attractive for me. In this regard age is irrelevant. Younger female vitality somehow becomes ethereal for me.

[Ma****]

18 hours ago, fairborn58068 said:

Maybe we need to examine why men my age are so obsessed with women the age of their daughters? Personally, I'd be happy to have any partner, but the fixation on youth is a little icky.

So I am 50, my Goldilocks range is 35-40yo women. I would never bother with women in their 20s unless it’s a one off play date and I don’t have to consider actually having an intelligent conversation. I don’t want to deal with the insecurities and anxieties that most, not all, 20-something women have. A women in her mid 30s to early 40s knows what she wants, is usually financially independent and is still sexy af. Nothing perverted or icky about that.

[ba****]

It’s the maturity levels, and it makes you feel taken care of in every aspect. In and out of the bedroom! I’ve always been attracted to older men… before it was even allowed.

[su****]

On the flip side of that is attracted to the younger women. It's seems and I mean no offense by this. Most ladies over 40 seek to enjoy a good book and warm blanket. 25-35 like to get out of the house and have some fun. Under 25..... Way too much energy. That not a bad thing .... But my old butt gonna have a heart attack just keeping up with ya.

Again, no offense intended here. We are all at our own level of life. We are the masters of our own life .... Or not having one.

[pleasuredom4u00]

As an older man and pelasure/soft dom, what babygirl1656 says resonates with me. I truly love being caring, loving, amd attentive. I want my girl to feel safe and relaxed when she's with me. Can't get enough of this.

There's also the side of bringing experience in bed that a younger woman may not have had before. Seeing their face of pleasure from something new is an amazing feeling for me.

The downside is that it's expensive. I've yet to find one who is interested in the dynamic without it being about spoiling 🤷🏻‍♂️

And to surprise994836's point about too much energy: I f**king love it. I'm separated and feral

[Sy****]

I feel taken care of and protected, like I can let my guard down and actually relax. I can also trust my partner to make sound decisions for me if I am ever struggling to choose and he acts as a voice of reason for me in such moments.

[Ro****]

Lol if I go young chances at my age I'll end up with their mom.

[Sa****]

Tuesday at 02:12 AM, newberg20418 said:

It's only recently I realized I'm attracted to effeminate transgender women who identify as a woman.
Super young isn't ideal. Because of the difference in the level of maturity and self independence. Also, very young financially unstable partners. Have become off limits for me lately.
I live on a fixed monthly budget. Then add runaway inflation for the past 8 years. I find myself making tough financial choices for basic needs now. Whereas 8 years ago. I always had extra spending ***. So being financially dominant has become unrealistic in a relationship for me.
The point being, an attractive, effeminate, financially stable partner is more ideal for me. I can still pull my own weight. In a relationship where partners are contributing finances equally. Then financial stressors diminish for partners in the relationship.
Yes, a mature stable partner better matches with me. However, human heads and faces continue to grow throughout the entire lifespan.
Then it becomes even more difficult. For some birth women and most effeminate transgender women to retain an effeminate appearance. As they age throughout their lives.
So, my attraction for women near my age group diminishes over time. Perhaps this explains why younger women remain attractive for older men.
It's not that I want to have sex with women half my age. It's about wanting friendship with them and admiring their youthful vitality.
So perversion is a matter of perspective. That based on objective quantifiable evidence and feedback.
Manly appearance is not attractive for me. In this regard age is irrelevant. Younger female vitality somehow becomes ethereal for me.

So all women ur attracted to u mean?

[gr****]

I feel that older guys, 45 and up let's say, are a dime a dozen and any female can get one of these guys. And I say that because all you have to do is go on any type of dating site like this one and it seems to be 90% older men. And they're willing to take just about anybody it seems. Just my opinion.

[ne****]

9 hours ago, SassyGRUNGEgiRL26 said:

So all women ur attracted to u mean?

I don't understand your question

[Ma****]

3 hours ago, green-bay130555 said:

I feel that older guys, 45 and up let's say, are a dime a dozen and any female can get one of these guys. And I say that because all you have to do is go on any type of dating site like this one and it seems to be 90% older men. And they're willing to take just about anybody it seems. Just my opinion.

So thank you for your perspective, but I can very much tell you. I won’t “take anyone”. I am looking for peace and calm in my day to day life so I am very particular as to who I invest time with. I’ve done the self-work so there are many woman that wouldn’t give them my energy.

[li****]

I like Daddy Doms, so it's good that they look a bit older. It's the safety that gets me, being with someone who is more experienced and is willing to share that, or use that, it makes life more colorful.

[ne****]

17 hours ago, SassyGRUNGEgiRL26 said:

So all women ur attracted to u mean?

Yes, I'm attracted to all women
I feel like I sussed your unique sentence structure Sassy

[ne****]

Yesterday at 04:56 AM, creve-coeur88212 said:

Lol if I go young chances at my age I'll end up with their mom.

This sounds like a ZZ-Top song 🎵

[Sa****]

3 hours ago, newberg20418 said:

Yes, I'm attracted to all women
I feel like I sussed your unique sentence structure Sassy

Now that u mentioned that,it does seem written a little bit strange I see. Might have just been written as a thought in my head originally

[ge****]

It's because of Security we don't have to worry about the older men playing mind games vs the young ones