Going back

[jinxed]

19 hours ago, anotherusername said:

 

I encourage you to be together as much as possible during your abstinence and be as affectionate and *** and romantic as you can be to each other. I have a strict no boinking for at least a week and a few dates policy myself, but I don't have anything against non-sexual intimacy and it's a real good way to get to know someone. Two weeks without seeing each other isn't going to build the same tension 🥵😫🤣 I am happy for you.

Agreed. I've experienced this once so far, a former partner wanted to first get to know me properly before we'd have sex. We waited for a month until I just couldn't wait any longer and every cuddle session before the release did not only build tension, but allowed our bodies to find a common rhythm somehow. So when we finally had sex, it was pretty amazing! Much more intimate than any other "first time" I'd had. So your policy has quite some benefits to it, I'm sure. 

[an****]

8 hours ago, jinxed said:

Agreed. I've experienced this once so far, a former partner wanted to first get to know me properly before we'd have sex. We waited for a month until I just couldn't wait any longer and every cuddle session before the release did not only build tension, but allowed our bodies to find a common rhythm somehow. So when we finally had sex, it was pretty amazing! Much more intimate than any other "first time" I'd had. So your policy has quite some benefits to it, I'm sure. 

Tried to send a dm because this is off topic. I also highly recommend getting massages certified (you don't have to sit for the exam and get licensed for a career) it is one of the best experiences I have had, allowing me to intimately connection with so many people non-sexually and the doors it opens emotionally for those in your care makes you feel like you have unlocked some of your purpose even. It is a wonderful enhancement to a touch love language. I went through night school and it was difficult with long nights but so rewarding for my whole circle. As a giver this increases my capability to give and meet other givers.

[jinxed]

12 hours ago, anotherusername said:

 

Tried to send a dm because this is off topic. I also highly recommend getting massages certified (you don't have to sit for the exam and get licensed for a career) it is one of the best experiences I have had, allowing me to intimately connection with so many people non-sexually and the doors it opens emotionally for those in your care makes you feel like you have unlocked some of your purpose even. It is a wonderful enhancement to a touch love language. I went through night school and it was difficult with long nights but so rewarding for my whole circle. As a giver this increases my capability to give and meet other givers.

Mh, I can see that bringing a beautiful layer! I once had the pleasure of being in the hands of a partner who worked as a physio therapist. When he massaged me once, it was so different! He only massaged a small part of my lower back as I had told him that I was in PMS-related back ***. His movement was minimal, but I never ever had felt a muscular relief as through that massage! For me, he was a magician and my gratitude to him added a lot to all other parts of our interaction. 

Regarding DMs: The messages I received from men via this app were apart from possibly four exceptions (and this is NOT an exaggeration!) so atrociously boring / non-sensical / moronic / repetitive that I simply closed my mail box off to any and every man on here. I guess if I were to add you as a "favourite", that channel would open up in case you'd like to contact me in the future. 

[an****]

No worries, thank you, just trying to be considerate and topic appropriate. As it is your topic, I will reply here. Sorry about those 'boys' 😝.

Yes, that is a beautiful segway to tie it back in. I do believe you can get progress and value with this relationship and by what you have gathered while apart. By intentionally observing and delving into how things make you feel (in this lens, in the now) or how actions can create wanted results. You can have a really wonderful experience. The same way massage can map someone's physical past and the pressure and intensity of touch can release tension and grief in such nourishing and healing ways so can many other non-sexual (and sexual) skills!!! I so want feedback in 6-12+ months 🤣 now I'm invested, when does this story publish it's streaming series? I bet it's going to be spicy 🔥

[jinxed]

I hadn't even thought about somatic experiences, but of course you are right! The***utic massages could make emotional release possible in a very gentle and intimate and beautiful way! Thank you for this inspiration. 

As for spiciness, my approach is so very different this time. I'm serious about establishing an emotional connection before a physical one. Knowing that we are sexually very compatible makes this possible without worrying that we might actually connect emotionally just to find that we don't work in the bedroom. 
But I've underestimated what such a true emotional connection actually brings up. If there is somebody you truly trust and if you want to get to know each other as the people that you truly are, including all complexities, then that opens a door within and so I find myself wanting to tell him things I can't tell anyone else. But of course during a getting to know each other phase, you simply don't know how the other person will react, because there are all these firsts. So for now I *** there's a lot of headache to get through before there is even the possibility of any spice. So yes, 6 months from now might be a better moment for an update.