Domming/Subbing while aging

[br****]

30 minutes ago, MrsoverMr said:

My sub was mentioning how frustrating the bots are. I want him to have a fun experience but it's making things challenging

This is exactly why some of us end up giving up entirely.

[Mr****]

33 minutes ago, Karasu_Tegu said:

I directly asked someone I was exchanging messages with what we're doing here they ghosted. It's just sad.

Wtf 😭😭😭 I might just be a Soft Pisces Mama but I get separation anxiety if I don't hear from what's Mine. Can't imagine being ghosted like that I'm so sorry sweetie 💔💋

[Mr****]

5 minutes ago, bri0618 said:

This is exactly why some of us end up giving up entirely.

he's exploring other apps for that exact reason. makes more work for Mama to have to go back and forth to monitor but that's fucking life

[Mr****]

10 minutes ago, SmokeyJ said:

The only thing I'll add here is watch what you say. A lot of the people on here have some of the most tender feelings around and will report you for complete bullship. I used to report scammer profiles and participate in conversations but I'm done. The number of profiles on here that are scam profiles is 9 out of 10. This place can go to hell in a hand basket and I'm just going to sit back and watch it burn. The mods on here are the worst. Support follow up is pathetic. The whole place is a dumpster fire. Extremely low expectations is all you should have when interacting with anyone here.

I don't even open up messages that I can tell aren't written with My consideration in mind.

[Mr****]

24 minutes ago, LuckyRedJay said:

Omg the Ai bots are getting more realistic and flooding everywhere. Every app has them even on Xbox now. Things are getting out of hand with these cam bots

I told My hubby sub he can't use any secondary messaging apps to communicate since the apps contain it all. So many times he's been directed to OF from what he thought was a personal page. Not cool!

[Mr****]

27 minutes ago, bri0618 said:

Ultimately it is what causes real people to give up and quit.

I almost deleted My profile a couple of days ago but I can't abandon My puppy so I'm staying in hopes others find Me.

[Mr****]

41 minutes ago, Karasu_Tegu said:

You're not wrong. Even FL has changed. I doesn't feel like people want to meet or share experiences. They either want to direct to content on other platforms or try to get someone to go to a social.

I use that solely for the events page. I don't even bother with anything else

[Sm****]

10 minutes ago, bri0618 said:

This is exactly why some of us end up giving up entirely.

Indeed. My interaction on here is about zero now.

[br****]

3 minutes ago, MrsoverMr said:

I told My hubby sub he can't use any secondary messaging apps to communicate since the apps contain it all. So many times he's been directed to OF from what he thought was a personal page. Not cool!

Omg...dont get me started on those interactions on twitter/x!

[We****]

I've been on this site for about a week. So far all I've run into is either Dommes who want my phone number right away so we don't have to talk here, and younger ladies liking my profile for no apparent reason at all. I've been on other sites and find a few people that seem like they'd be fun, but they're never willing to take the final step to actually meet. Too many fantasizers and not enough doers. And let's be honest, things have gotten really weird since 2020. Before then, I had no problem finding what I was looking for.

[Karasu_Tegu]

13 minutes ago, MrsoverMr said:

I use that solely for the events page. I don't even bother with anything else

I think it has to do with main character syndrome. Everyone wants to be the star that all the NPCs want.

[Da****]

Everyday it's on shuffle at a time... Tiring but, when I'm less busy and just want to swipe left or right here seems to be a go to.. But I have had proper conversations with some distant persons and the conversations keep getting interesting... But those telegram 🆔 on pictures I simply avoid them cause they are either scammers or bots.

A hunter never gets tired of hunting

[Mr****]

1 hour ago, PoohBearDom said:

The thing I don’t get it is it feels like most of the people on here it’s either a cam girl or someone wanting *** for shit lol

It's frustrating when I can tell by the first sentence before opening a message that they're not here for the right reasons. Asking a Soft Mommy Dom to help you come cuz you're hard is the fast track to blocked.

[Mr****]

51 minutes ago, bri0618 said:

Omg...dont get me started on those interactions on twitter/x!

I'm on Pure as well but that platform is all over the place. They're trying to be edgy but is so confusing

[Ro****]

I was never in the scene and the boy really barely grazing the surface/dipping a toe in to see buut I do remember Tinder when it first came out and then after easily ten + years checking it out again noticing the same thing. I could not believe how bad they nickle and dime everything since gone are the days of the one time fees but the lack of genuine connection and effort on top of intense ghosting which has been so normalized (especially after the rare times I seem to finally feel like I do connect) is just so freakin exhausting. Not overly loving modern day anything.

[al****]

I’m 21, just moved to the city of Detroit and want to start getting in this lifestyle. What’s the first step?

[Mr****]

3 hours ago, PoohBearDom said:

Not to mention the amount of people that want you to send a sticker first like really you can’t just have a conversation with someone.

I have no idea what that means (the sticker part) but I can tell a lot of the Dommes are just broke girls looking for a quick buck. I mean I was the same way at their age, maybe not as mean but still. It takes experience to do it right.

[Mr****]

3 hours ago, PoohBearDom said:

When I see someone with a name and a bunch of numbers I know it’s a bot or a scammer. The amount of people that are like hey let’s talk offline like honestly come on.

That's literally what My hubby sub told Me, that's the tell of a fake profile

[Mr****]

3 hours ago, Dawgsdad said:

As an older dom I’m finding these and all sites have been overtaken with non serious intentions. More of a photo shoot and just talk with not a lot of follow thru hard to find a serious true submissive thru the games and scamming

I feel like Ive gotten so specific with My kink that it doesn't fly with most subs. I'm not interested in focusing on their inability to control themselves sexually. I want to be the Domme I needed as a youngster in those spaces that were overwhelming. Soft sweet mommy that talks thru stuff and gives support and maybe helps you edge if you're good and I like you yanno?

[Or****]

I have notice the shift. Like I need a real dom mommy

[ey****]

I've seen a lot of different iterations - and a lot comes with the commercialisation of the internet as well as anything else.

So, for example - I was initially on a lot of sites around 2000-2002 - had a break, returned 2013, and can compare 2013 to 2026 also

Anyway. Yeah, early 2000s - you'd get talking to someone on a site, and they'd offer to share pics or chat on cam and suddenly there was a site asking for card details "you don't have to pay, just verify your age with card" but even then I was somewhat savvy enough to know this failed the sniff test. 

Some of the online communities that existed were kinda small, but as they grew of course there was always the problem largely of guys who felt kink=easy women.   There was also of course the issue that websites cost *** to run, so there had to be some means of making revenue and when people are contributing cash they often expect something back 

The other thing of course, is I saw how the in person kink communities grew and changed, and is somewhat more accessible.  So that contributed to an online shift since many could get what they wanted by partaking in community.

Mind, the thing with shifts of course is they're always a reaction and product of time.  I don't subscribe to the whole "things were better then" thing, even if some elements seemed better.  They are just different