Go**** Posted 22 hours ago No offensive but it sounds like you’re dealing with a rebellious brat and not any kind of obedient sub. Maybe you’re mismatched to each other. Doesn’t sound much like you’re owning anything (except perhaps the reality of your situation which is commendable)
BlueGrace Posted 20 hours ago This sounds like a person that isn’t interested in having a genuine relationship with you. If someone doesn’t respect you or the rules that have been negotiated then the dynamic needs to end. I don’t view this as bratty behavior. This is just pure disrespect.
metronome Posted 20 hours ago 2 hours ago, MandMlooking said: She likely isn't into it. Probably a "sounded good whilst I thought and fantasised about it but I didn't like the reality" type of person.
ne**** Posted 18 hours ago Yeah either not interested or not working out. Actions have consequences, if they can’t respect your authority or are willing to submit then they don’t get the attention from you, that’s what the agreement was I presume (consensually of course) if they don’t want to play by the rules they don’t get to play at all
fl**** Posted 17 hours ago If your post was a question, not a complaint, than we schould hear "what" exactly you already tried? But I read you claim that you did "everything". So it seems you want a reflection on the why? This person agreeed to you, that you are ought to dominate her and your allowed tools dont work? Than you failed. The other person failed too, off course. You both wanted it, you did'nt make it...so that is that. Just one thought on responsability.... I have a little disturbance with the (pardon) "whinieness" you present this. In my world it is part of the stability that the Dom- person offers, not to fall apart, if something fails. Wipe the dust of and go on try something new, or admit to your self that youre outta ideas and leave. Maybe, just maybe, it's this attitude that the other person will respect. Just my 2ct...😉
Wa**** Posted 16 hours ago It sounds like either they don’t like the rules or they don’t care enough. Both sucks. It also sounds like you are hurting in ways that are emotional rather than sheer disappointment. If what they do hurts you and they don’t change anything about it, I feel like maybe you have a problem outside of the bedroom.
Mr**** Posted 12 hours ago 14 hours ago, prettyXpuppy said: In the beginning she was good yea we had sometimes its a playful not listen bc shes js a brat but blatant rules that i set that we both agreed upon and modified to work for us both she simple started just randomly saying "idc about that ill do what i want" and will simple just disregard them This is blatant disrespect. Leave. There's a difference between "bratting for tbe dynamic" and what may be (not a psychologist) a need for therapy or a potential ODD or PDA diagnosis. Besides, you actually sound hurt, not just "tamer-flustered", and the inability of your partner to recognize the difference or care after you have those chats with her makes that an emotionally damaging environment. I mean for crying out loud, you used the phrase "heavy weight of inadequacy" which is a massive red flag in your circumstances.
pr**** Posted 10 hours ago Author 7 hours ago, floscheman said: If your post was a question, not a complaint, than we schould hear "what" exactly you already tried? But I read you claim that you did "everything". So it seems you want a reflection on the why? This person agreeed to you, that you are ought to dominate her and your allowed tools dont work? Than you failed. The other person failed too, off course. You both wanted it, you did'nt make it...so that is that. Just one thought on responsability.... I have a little disturbance with the (pardon) "whinieness" you present this. In my world it is part of the stability that the Dom- person offers, not to fall apart, if something fails. Wipe the dust of and go on try something new, or admit to your self that youre outta ideas and leave. Maybe, just maybe, it's this attitude that the other person will respect. Just my 2ct...😉 I can agree with you that i do have a kinda of whiny tone in what im saying 😅 but generally speaking im js trying to get insight im naturally a "ok this didnt work lets find out what does" kind of like get back on the horse type of person so i am actively thinking of new things to do new ways i can maybe be better as it could be something im doing (or not doing) so i am looking at my flaws as well as the flaws in maybe our relationship and dynamic as a whole. BUT as i said i js wanted some insight from the more experienced
th**** Posted 14 minutes ago She wants to be with a man who can actually make her listen. Pretty simple
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