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Giving orders
That may actually work really well for me, honestly. I never really considered it.
LikeRochaMocha, ItsBeeXox ·
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Giving orders
I do this a bit time to time. I know she's ok with anything I want. We dabble in cnc sometimes too, but only barely. I can definitely objectify her in my head. When I try to enact those things in person I kinda freeze, or talk myself out of it. Maybe it's a confidence issue? Sometimes I'm scared Read more… ill do something she doesn't like and she'll be upset. Though rationally I know she won't, she'll just safe word me if it's too much, but I think past experiences are keeping me back, too.
LikeLARopeTop, s_kay ·
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I'm a soft dom with a desire to be much harsher. I have a hard time giving orders and doing what I want to my sub. We have had many conversations about it. We're both from relationships that lacked intimacy so we're both still adjusting to having a sex life again, too.
I have ideas of things to do Read more…to my sub but I can't make myself do them. I also have trouble coming onto her sometimes. She really wants me to be more dominate when it's my turn to get off. I don't know how to do that though exactly? Like I don't know what to tell her to do to me, or how to to tell her to do it anyway.
Any advice?
Were both female, if that makes a difference.
I have ideas of things to do Read more…to my sub but I can't make myself do them. I also have trouble coming onto her sometimes. She really wants me to be more dominate when it's my turn to get off. I don't know how to do that though exactly? Like I don't know what to tell her to do to me, or how to to tell her to do it anyway.
Any advice?
Were both female, if that makes a difference.
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Tempetommy As a sub I really enjoy it when my master or mistress orders me around I love being ordered to do things or punished for not doing them this is a cool topic thank you for reading my bet
As a sub I really enjoy it when my master or mistress orders me around I love being ordered to do things or punished for not doing them this is a cool topic thank you for reading my bet
As a sub I really enjoy it when my master or mistress orders me around I love being ordered to do things or punished for not doing them this is a cool topic thank you for reading my bet
LikeVivianM77
· 20.02.2024 7:01:56
dook Maybe start simple like sending her a text about how you want her to be dressed and posed when you get home. Or, get her to beg you . Maybe start simple like sending her a text about how you want her to be dressed and posed when you get home. Or, get her to beg you .
LikeStrange-Candy
· 15.01.2024 13:11:01
earthyangel I have no experience with women to be honest, yet I'm sure what you see as issue is something that many Doms might think between themselves. often people in a way "pretend" to be something for their partners sake. and sometimes people just don't know how to take the thing they have in their mind Read more… and turn it to reality.
I would suggest you few things. first.. if you imagine the session you wish to do.. imagine it as vivid as you can first. imagine all the small details of what you wish to do to her. its known now that imagination is like a muscle. you need to know what you will do in specific and in small details. and then, when you wish to act, made her prepare the "set" if you need something. just say "I want you to......" activating her will start the excitement for both of you. and when you start the session imagine yourself, if you need the help to start, that you are an actress on a set, and you are acting your part. you know the saying "fake it you make it? " it work like magic.
if she want you to be tough to make her come, you can always pull her hair, stuck fingers into her mouth in less delicate way.. or hold her neck (even though, with that I would be careful), you can pinch or pull her nipples.. and such things. yet, and that is answer to your question, if its not how you want it for yourself, you need to explain to her what turn you on in order for you to cum. part of being able to arrive to an orgasm, is the mental thing. you need to figure out what is your thing. not what she "wants" for you, in order to cum. even if its not fitting the image she hold in her mind, about how you arrive to an orgasm, if you are the Dominant, you should in that thing, do as you want.
it might be, that you have the wish to orgasm at the same time. if both of you need different things, mentally to arrive your climax, maybe better to arrive to that, one after the other.
you can talk to me if you wish for more advices.
I would suggest you few things. first.. if you imagine the session you wish to do.. imagine it as vivid as you can first. imagine all the small details of what you wish to do to her. its known now that imagination is like a muscle. you need to know what you will do in specific and in small details. and then, when you wish to act, made her prepare the "set" if you need something. just say "I want you to......" activating her will start the excitement for both of you. and when you start the session imagine yourself, if you need the help to start, that you are an actress on a set, and you are acting your part. you know the saying "fake it you make it? " it work like magic.
if she want you to be tough to make her come, you can always pull her hair, stuck fingers into her mouth in less delicate way.. or hold her neck (even though, with that I would be careful), you can pinch or pull her nipples.. and such things. yet, and that is answer to your question, if its not how you want it for yourself, you need to explain to her what turn you on in order for you to cum. part of being able to arrive to an orgasm, is the mental thing. you need to figure out what is your thing. not what she "wants" for you, in order to cum. even if its not fitting the image she hold in her mind, about how you arrive to an orgasm, if you are the Dominant, you should in that thing, do as you want.
it might be, that you have the wish to orgasm at the same time. if both of you need different things, mentally to arrive your climax, maybe better to arrive to that, one after the other.
you can talk to me if you wish for more advices.
LikeEDY7, Strange-Candy
· 13.01.2024 7:33:48
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