🔥 Let’s talk body types, attraction, and body confidence in BDSM.🔥

[ka****]

I like chubby girls but they should be active, going to the gym, and working out to be healthy both physically and mentally.

[Ju****]

I like small and petite because i move them with ease and dominated in a way i can't with bigger girls myself

[bi****]

I don’t think telling a woman she’s beautiful is going to make an impact if she doesn’t believe it! I have your beautiful on my mirror to remind me every day and most would never imagine I would have to do that!
It’s mental!

She has to like herself first so instead of beautiful try using words that describe her worth not physical features
Then once that foundation is laid where she feels smart competent all those things! It’s less ab weight and more on the inside I was a chunky kid and again most wouldn’t believe that!

Self esteem is a bitch!

Instead of your beautiful sometimes this works better

Damn!
What Sir?
I just had an image when you did this !
Damn that was sexy!
Usually if you keep saying specifics instead of generalized your so pretty
It’s more effective if your lady is inaecure this is proven to work!

Patience from the Dom overtime yields rewards oh and validation seems to go hand in hand with not feeling pretty or comfortable with curves!

I have been a makeup artist for 27 years so I know women’s mind frame! They speak their insecurities and we usually all have the same issues just handle it differently!

Anxiety fyi is the number one reason women can’t orgasm then their body image is number two reason

Bad girls bible
Email tell her to subscribe and do a report on what makes women not orgasm!

I went from 3 orgasms in my 25 year marriage to 7 at once with my finger!

So now I’m comfortable in my own skin and I do credit Bad Girls Bible! And I have had several friends subscribe but say they never did but they are vanilla!

[bi****]

If you have been reading my newsletters and the Bad Girls Bible website for a while, you'll know that there are 3 steps to regularly having enjoyable, orgasmic sex:
Step 1) Remove the things that prevent you from getting turned on and aroused in the first place. I call this "removing the brakes" to your sex drive.
Step 2) Focus more on the things that turn you, get you aroused and make you desire sex. I call this "hitting the accelerator" to your sex drive.
Step 3) Use the right physical techniques, positions and tips during sex and masturbation that bring you to orgasm.
Everything you've described sounds like you're really struggling with Step 1...
It sounds like you have all these things keeping you stressed out and tired (working, looking after your son, etc) which is putting the brakes on your ability to get turned on.
If you can find a way to remove some of these things from your plate, you'll start to notice that you're not as stressed as you once were and it will be a lot easier to get turned on....
Ilhich in teamn ill molen aare man aninahla
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This is one excerpt from bad girls bible!
He’s telling a woman who wrote in not feeling desirable or sexy and never is interested in sex since kids!

[bi****]

Well first off as a dom, I think there are so many things that are important. I only choose subs that I can connect with. This is more mental than anything physical. If I connect mental and I vet them and they are good communicators and sure about what they want, I think it means so much more than a lust over physical appearance. And let me say this all body types can be physically attractive. But self confidence is important also. Then there again it also depends on what you as a sub identify as. But I will say if a sub is willing to choose me as a dom and I choose her as a sub, she will know her attraction.

[do****]

Every woman is beautiful in someway or another. The comparison is between you and you. Be confident! Confidence is sexy no matter what a person's body type is. It's not a trainable skill. Practice loving yourself.
Wake up every day and hit the mirror. Hit on yourself. Blatantly "Them eyes tho", or "Damnnnnn," Have fun with it and Be persistent. Even if it doesn't feel true at first two weeks, three weeks in you'll see it. "Damn I really am a baddie." Condition yourself into a positive outlook. If I come across a possible partner out in the wild "do you even know how beautiful you are?" I've never really had a bad experience with this.

[TripleXHexxx]

Well first.. I'm a demisexual Domme. What a person looks like doesn't even translate to my brain when I meet them. F**k my mind first. Then we'll see about fucking my body.

People that I play with aren't necessarily people I f**k. I throw some toys.. floggers, cane's, crops, whips, paddles, these hands, etc. at anyone. Attraction doesn't matter. How much I trust them to tell me when they have had enough (or more than enough) matters.

[ge****]

Fitness is important to me and will also determine the extents of the practice. Almost nothing else matters to me as far as physical appearance. I find that any healthy girl can find ways to make herself pretty with makeup or outfits and it is all completely meaningful to me. The biological "prettiness" of her face is unimportant. Her ability to submit and connect, and look at me with her eyes in a way that I know that she is my submissive is everything...

[ph****]

I was totally into my wife, she started out at 19 as a voluptuous hourglass and I was getting it on the regular. When she got bigger nothing changed, when she got pregnant things really changed, if there was doubt in her mind that I didn't find her sexy big knocked up then she has a shoddy memory, 3 babies and I couldn't keep my hands off her. I can make a woman feel like im attracted to her, no problem, its the attention you pay. Its not rocket surgery.

[Fi****]

From the perspective of a disciplinarian, body type actually plays a large role for me. I generally turn away larger girls thay reach out to me simply because they tend to have larger *** tolerances and require harsher discipline than I am comfortable with administering. Admittedly, this may come down to experience and practice with such harsh discipline. Regardless, I will usually request a picture of their bottom ahead of time as I will know immediately if I am suited to the job. A lot of this is because I vastly prefer to spank by hand, and those larger asses will simply win the battle of attrition.

On the topic of body positivity, I doubt there is a Dom who has not had to deal with their partner having such issues, if not vice versa being true as well. My approach has always been focused on what makes the individual "you". Its important why theyre perfect or beautiful in YOUR eyes. Why every flaw is something you admire, cherish, or simply appreciate as part of a unique person you care for.

If every girl on the planet was Kim Kardashia then we'd have no uniqueness, too many sex tapes, and also no female lawyers. Be who you are.

[CL****]

I have a range of physical types. I love curvy with ample T&A but I also like more petite ladies too. There are limits. There are body types I don't like but i think my range is wide enough thst most of the time there's no issue. And if there's enough of an emotional connection then there can be exceptions even outside my normal 'type' In terms of acts without going into too much detail i enjoy both handling delicately and being able to manhandle. I don't think it's one or the other for me. I can just as easily get enjoyment from manhandling a petite woman as i can from being delicate with a bigger woman. I'm more on the soft Dom end (harder stuff is fun but it's optional for me). If my partner(s) were lacking in confidence I'd probably do the first few encounters pure vanilla just to reiterate to my partner(s)/sub(s) that I appreciate their body. Big believer in erotic worship of my partner's body. Dom or not happy to be a giver until my partner is comfortable and confident in their body before we break out the toys.

[po****]

Every body type is good I believe it always comes down to confidence, confidence is sexy in m opinion for me I appreciate qualities of each type but I’m also not most guys

[Lo****]

11 hours ago, BZBEE said:

As a BBW who for 22 years was told she was fat, ugly, disgusting, revolting… just to name a few!
It is important that you see yourself through the eyes of someone who appreciates your unique beauty (whatever the body type!!) and allow yourself to feel appreciated!!
Not being able to accept the compliment and admiration of someone is not a rejection… but the symptom of a trauma long lasting enough to have damaged someone.

I know therapy can help … but sometimes (and I say this cautiously..) allowing the person who sees your beauty to photograph you… and then see that image as how they look at you … can be transformational in a very good way!

The most powerful way to convey genuine desire to someone who feels insecure about their body is to make them feel that your attraction is not conditional on their learning to love themselves first. You see them, you want them, and you are not merely overlooking the parts of themselves they struggle to accept. You are attracted to the person they are, exactly as they are.

Instead of simply saying, “You have nothing to be insecure about,”
try: “I know you see things about yourself that you wish were different. But when I look at you, I see someone who genuinely attracts me. I notice the things you may try to hide, and they don't make me want you any less. I want you to know that my attraction to you is real, personal, and entirely my own.”

Here are some different ways to say things:

Reassurance says, “You're beautiful.”
Desire says, “Come closer. I want to kiss you.”
Reassurance says, “I don't mind your body.”
Desire says, “I love the way you feel in my arms.”

It’s all about how they (this body type person) makes you feel!!!

Tell them how you feel when you are around them… how they arouse you when the do certain things or wear certain clothes… how you cannot help yourself and your hands have to envelop this person …

Best of luck … be patient… be kind !
And I hope you both find joy ❤️💕

This!! A million times, this!!

[ch****]

The amount of men tip toeing around the fact you are not attracted to bigger or fat women is kinda crazy. You don’t have to find us sexually attractive but, This concept that some how women who are bigger are lazy or don’t take care of themselves. Or aren’t as disciplined as to a partner who is smaller. This notion that we can’t keep up with you is just ridiculous.

Have you ever considered that curvier women have a hard time with confidence because not only is media telling us that we aren’t attractive or less than. But you right here with your full chest literally saying that bigger women aren’t as attractive as thinner women.

You don’t have to want me but you will treat me with respect and my worth or attractiveness does not diminish because I weigh more or because you don’t find us attractive, because you don’t find them attractive no one else will.

Women don’t sit around picking apart men’s bodies like this. For the most part we don’t care that much. And if you think it isn’t true then men like Jack Black or Adam Sandler wouldn’t have hot as frick wives. There are more movie and tv show tropes of thin women being with bigger men than shows with the opposite.

There are people with feelings attached to those bigger bodies. Maybe think about that before you post about how I like curvy women but there is a weight limit like we are friggin roller coaster rides…..

[po****]

I don’t want to be a tip toeing person but I’ll go right on out to the edge and say I prefer at the end of the day a BBw girl I think they are sexy as f**k , ok back to your regular scheduled programming

[sy****]

Yayyyy

[bi****]

As someone who has struggled a lot with how my body looks because I have been a little bigger most of my life, and before my last pregnancy I was on the thinner side. I can say that once I accepted my body for how it is and believe that I am pretty despite my weight. It's easier for me to believe when someone else says it. And my Daddy I know desires me in every way possible. Not just because of the words he says but also in his actions and how he looks at me.
I know this doesn't necessarily answer the question you asked. But, I thought I'd just share how as someone who has insecurities has accepted that someone finds me attractive and how I believe them when they tell or show me that they do.

[Jo****]

13 hours ago, jaxnorth said:

I am I'm frustrated because as dating sites and social media have genuinely Twisted women's standards, it's become harder and harder to find women that I'm attracted to. I'm not even that picky but if I can find a woman that's under 170 lb it's a victory. And it's depressing

🤔 170? Do you make them get on a scale?

[oh****]

Short chubby that's my favorite

[Th****]

I myself struggle with my body but I love making my subs feel incredibly attractive. Personally I like curves, lots of em. And pretty feet.

But I also like skinny woman. Depends on the mood

[Sp****]

Mental health is something i put alot of effort into by giving my partner reassurance and ensuring they feel attractive and desired. Having been through past situations where i myself felt undesirable and unattractive by someone i thought enjoyed me and myself. I understand the feeling and weight that can put on ones self. I give compliments often, help or pick public and private outfits to take the pressure off themselves to always try and make themselves feel good about their looks or body and since im a master/owner first i give lots of physical affection to my partner also like pets, cuddles and words of affirmations and affection. I find a variety of different body shapes and sizes attractive and care more overall about whats inside then outside, but that doesnt take away from ensuring they have the support they need about their body.
Most if not all of my Dominance is through structure, leadership and gentle nurturing protective love so giving that kind of support comes naturally and easily from me 💚

[am****]

Following- sub. I’ve struggled all my life with body issues till I was 25 I was 130 or under 32DD size 6. But I still found it hard to let go relax . After 12 years in a toxic marriage- my ex cheated , made fun of my kinks / my body .I weigh more than I’m willing to say. I feel like I can’t date the men I’m attracted to because I’m not the size I want to be. I like taller guys well groomed muscular tattoos if there well done sharp mind understands a woman’s body and mind . For me having a good deal in common as far as beliefs / common goals is big for me. - I’m only interested in long term/ monogamous relationship with intent. So my goals are a bit different from many profiles I’ve read .
I struggle to even go on dates because I’m afraid of being rejected.Its something I work on daily the mental/ physical eating well getting exercise. But it’s a slow process.

[Mo****]

It’s more about how they carry there self and the energy they bring. How to bring that sexuality and confidence out is something I would love to learn.

[Ch****]

I don't know about others , but I enjoy both fit/petite body types and curves on a lady. I have different set of skills and FETs for each category. I do however lean in favor BBW. There is so much to make love to 🥰

[Ch****]

My love for my partner also rides on our emotional resonance. If we ever meet in person, I can show you