🔥 Let’s talk body types, attraction, and body confidence in BDSM.🔥

[Gr****]

Definitely personalty over body type. Mind and soul the body is only so much if someone's mind is lack of intrest

[Ka****]

I suffer from tremendous body confidence issues. Even when told I am desirable, I never believe it. My Master is very gentle with the way He handles me. He understands that it is hard for me to be naked from the moment we are together. So He allows me to wear a tshirt in the beginning. He knows through trial and error that by letting me ease into each session that eventually He gets me to a point that I forget my insecurities because I’m so invested in our time together. So that is our way of dealing with my issues. He shows me by His actions that I am desirable to Him and please Him. That trust is all that matters.
Thank you for this topic. It is really great reading everyone’s perspectives and thoughts.

[bi****]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder is probably a good analogy. What’s right for some is wrong for others. It’s all about preference I think. But other factors have an input as well. Like if you prefer athletic types but you have been alone for awhile so you settle for the curvy person who likes you.
And when you’re young you don’t worry so much about rejection because there’s plenty of time to catch another fish. Being old is a considerable factor to your standard level and you will settle for less when the alternative could be being alone. So there’s no definitive or correct answer. It is what it is…

[ja****]

17 hours ago, JosieinJax said:

🤔 170? Do you make them get on a scale?

Oh come on hun I'm just using that as an example.

[ja****]

19 hours ago, chubiebunie13 said:

The amount of men tip toeing around the fact you are not attracted to bigger or fat women is kinda crazy. You don’t have to find us sexually attractive but, This concept that some how women who are bigger are lazy or don’t take care of themselves. Or aren’t as disciplined as to a partner who is smaller. This notion that we can’t keep up with you is just ridiculous.

Have you ever considered that curvier women have a hard time with confidence because not only is media telling us that we aren’t attractive or less than. But you right here with your full chest literally saying that bigger women aren’t as attractive as thinner women.

You don’t have to want me but you will treat me with respect and my worth or attractiveness does not diminish because I weigh more or because you don’t find us attractive, because you don’t find them attractive no one else will.

Women don’t sit around picking apart men’s bodies like this. For the most part we don’t care that much. And if you think it isn’t true then men like Jack Black or Adam Sandler wouldn’t have hot as frick wives. There are more movie and tv show tropes of thin women being with bigger men than shows with the opposite.

There are people with feelings attached to those bigger bodies. Maybe think about that before you post about how I like curvy women but there is a weight limit like we are friggin roller coaster rides…..

I got to say and I'm probably going to get brigated for this but I find it very odd how many women say that they struggle with body issues and self-confidence and stuff like this and yet they all seem to have remarkably High standards. As a guy by the very nature of these websites I have to be much more open-minded and it's amazing how many women who probably weigh more than I do don't think I'm good enough to respond to. And you can't say it's all because of my profile. Because this isn't the only website I'm on

[Lu****]

I'm a lover of all body types from a tiny petite to BBWs.
My wife is plus sized and very insecure about her body and weight but recognises that I appreciate her no matter what. I pay attention to her curves and soft spots, making sure to lick, kiss and bite every inch. She's also mentioned to me that because I watch porn with plus sized women that aren't just fetishised for their weight and size she's become a bit more accepting of herself knowing that people do find bigger girls attractive without it being just a fetish.
She does still struggle with her body image but she knows that I love and cherish her no matter what size she is

[No****]

I like this transparency and now i feel like the utter ugliest option. Weird to see how men view us. I wonder if the guys who want no waist and fitness also have the same

[bi****]

The differences between men and women are many. Men stimulate visually and women stimulate mentally. So we have different standards. Women have the scale tipped in there favor by a thousand percent because of it. The majority of men are happy with just getting there needs met and most women expect to have there dreams fulfilled. Woman are hypergamous and will jump ship in a heartbeat if that ship has more to offer. They are always trying to be with there very best option and usually date a few numbers up from themselves. But they get that honestly from it being programmed into their genetics. Probably because they are the ones who carry child and they want the very best for that child. It’s been said that women are not designed to love a man. they are designed to love their offspring! This is why they are always psychologically testing a man and most don’t even realize it. They want to feel safe and protected while the man wants to feel desired and loved.

[Da****]

I'm down with the positivity and truly appreciate every form. However if I was making a mould it would be a 5 foot 2 inch bundle of tits and arse

[pa****]

Thanks to GLP1 meds, it's now much easier to lose weight than before, and with encouragements I loved seeing a partner come down to a healthy weight with BMI around 23

[ja****]

8 hours ago, Nonnahs said:

I like this transparency and now i feel like the utter ugliest option. Weird to see how men view us. I wonder if the guys who want no waist and fitness also have the same

Do you believe that women are not equally concerned with looks? I assure you as a man I've never felt uglier than when I started going on dating site

[ch****]

This isn’t build a b!tch. Also do you realize it doesn’t matter what you think your physical type is. Because when it comes down to it, it’s we who decide who has access to our bodies and time. And you’re upset we won’t choose you?

We don’t care if you have abs, we don’t not give actual friggin fulk. What do you bring to the table personality wise, what do you do to grow and learn. How do you treat the others around you. Or I don’t know don’t have a profile that tell women all the ways you are dissatisfied with women and think they are shallow. Also if it continues to be difficult to find a partner or someone to like you, the common denominator is you……

[TripleXHexxx]

9 hours ago, Nonnahs said:

I like this transparency and now i feel like the utter ugliest option. Weird to see how men view us. I wonder if the guys who want no waist and fitness also have the same

I personally believe that a lot of what has been said by the men here is exactly why so many are single and cannot build healthy relationships. I love that when they reveal their ableist and fatphobic side. It honestly deepens my dating pool with women.😂

[Si****]

Worship their body. Kiss every piece of open skin.

[House_Voluntas]

My story is not really about attraction it’s about a visual on discipline. My mistress would say there was no such thing as a Fat Dom in the house. A dom needed to be disciplined because if he could not control his vices he had no business trying to be an authority. Body, mind and spirit must be under his control.

When my son was dying and I got depression and began to gain weight (eventually reaching 165kg from a weight of 90kg) I let go of my subs because I was not in control. Until I ended my medication and begin the weight loss journey (I am now 138kg) I finally allowed myself to have a sub and now proudly have 3 as I create my own house based on my mistresses laws.

This rule does not apply to subs only to Doms.

I have had a few Doms approach me to learn as I do have a structured curriculum from y subs that are teachers and a RN, and I do have a BMI and physical requirements like pulls ups, shuttle runs etc before you can be considered for the position.

What I don’t understand is why people get upset, you can be a Dom, you don’t have to be a Dom with us, we want people concerned about fitness and longevity as our house Doms and like minded people will show up.

Why am I attracted to smaller subs, health and longevity and flexibility and the ability to endure long marches as my house is run very militaristically.

Before anyone comes at me with bigger people can be healthy etc, the first cigarette doesn’t give you cancer but over a long enough period of time you will get it.

I have never heard a doctor say in regard to any disease “You just eat more food and get obese and your health problems will disappear”

However to say that Fat people are not beautiful is wrong, well everyone is beautiful to someone but we are biologically hard wired to seek health markers.

[ja****]

20 hours ago, Nonnahs said:

I like this transparency and now i feel like the utter ugliest option. Weird to see how men view us. I wonder if the guys who want no waist and fitness also have the same

I genuinely don't believe you've ever had any problem meeting men, now that's not to say you haven't had problems meeting men that you think you deserve but that's really a whole other problem in the dating scene

[wa****]

I definitely want someone who is comfortable with themselves. I enjoy that connection and it opens up the experience for more pleasure.

[ol****]

When I scan the faces for new connections I look at the eyes and the facial expression more than anything else.

When I vet a new submissive my primary flags are emotional health and self awareness first.

In my house ...the act of submission requires that a person has some inherent form of strength available to themselves to submit. Hollywood beautiful people can be weak in every other aspect...any body type is free to own their own value and hone whatever potential they have into a strength.

All humans own their own sexy.... show me what you got ...I will see what you want me to see by the way you present it to me.

Every body has sexual organs and pleasure triggers.. dynamic are built around all the individual distinctions which is pretty much everything else connected to those extremely common base components