Duties and rewards

[we****]

It’s no news that a lifestyle Dom doesn’t dictate the minutia of their sub’s life or even that their role is more about holding their sub in the uncomfortable place until they can make a decision that is positive for them, rather than allowing them to re-run the unhealthy patterns that have hampered their happiness in the past.
But perhaps less talked about is the *** that a Dom can go through as they watch the struggle that their precious loved one takes on. They witness the emotional discomfort, sometimes to an extreme level, that their sub has to experience to break out of their dysfunctional behaviours. When every part of the Dom’s nurture is desperate to wrap their sub in the safety of their protection is exactly the moment they must allow their sub to live in the void of their own decision so they can learn their independent motivation for change. They do not do it for their Dom, because training that would still retain the power for the Dom, they learn to do it for themself, so they will always own that skill, that learning, to keep them safe for the rest of their life. Then they will return to their Dom of their own free will, and submission built of choice rather than restraint is intoxicating for both parties.

[ge****]

Can't really add anything of value or give a perspective even, but an interesting and thought provoking read all the same and can certainly relate to the concept

[Co****]

I like how you’ve described it

[pt****]

Beautifully articulated

[Ch****]

Well said....so very true