Long distance D/s- do they work?

[Deleted Member]

I crave touch but feel this is impossible with a LD relationship. Thoughts?-

[Deleted Member]

With out commitment to meet as often as possible and follow through on it, a LD relationship might as well be online. However, those that crave mental stimulation, the online and LD does work well.

[Bblock383]

An LD is like any relationship in that it will work out as long as the 2 parties want it to and are committed to seeing it through even when things get rough. One of the greatest loves of my life was LD. I still to this day lament it. It does add an extra element of stress onto a relationship obviously and the 2 parties will have to decide if that added stress (not to mention expense) is feasible long term. The question for me is how far away are you talking?

[Ch****]

I crave touch and real face to face time. Long distance, digital thing is BS...

[CL****]

Currently in LD D/s. We make it work, we crave each other and the scenes. For now, we work with what we have. One the one hand it’s helpful as we both work full time and study. It allows us to compartmentalise the time. We allow for calls in the evening or the morning and the time we allow for each other is sacred. On the other hand It is ***ful at times. We crave touch, but the time apart makes the scenes more intense as we have to live in the moment. We try to plan about 3 months in advance and see each other 4-5 times for every 3 months. More if our schedule allows. It can work and work well if you both want it to.

[sw****]

Personally I don't believe in ld relationships. That's a penpal to me..

[ey****]

Long distance relationships can be challenging especially if you can't meet in person as often as you feel is needed to maintain

Some people do make distance relationships work, often making the time together extra special, but they're certainly not for everyone.  

[Deleted Member]

@eyemblacksheep " They're certainly not for everyone". Yes👍

[Ad****]

We’ve made it work. ***Y HARD and not for everyone. There should be a support group 😂

[ps****]

I think if the connection and understanding of each other is strong enough then it’s worth a try. The craving of the touch of another may cause other problems though. Speaking from similar experiences.

[im****]

Unless the two are 100% willing to share and talk bout everything with keep composure like “ sharing screen time and not missing a call and always keeping there partner at hand “ it doesn’t work at all. Trust me

[Deleted Member]

In my experience, no. It's unfortunate but (maybe because of covid on top?) physical touch and kink is just too important for me 😔

[Dr****]

Only digital/phone/online? I don’t believe that is workable for most people and too prone to fakes, scammers, catfish etc.

Mostly digital, but at least occasional visits (say several times a year to once a month or so) then it’s workable for a period of time (I did this before me and my partner moved in together).

Anything more than a few times a month shouldn’t be much of a issue in my experience.

[Li****]

It's been six months, amazing and fulfilling but I think it works because we know we'll move in together after another 9 months

[ch****]

If you'll move in together after another 9 months, then yes it'll work. Time flies when you're busy between work and just going through life. Enjoy each other's company and take the time now to learn as much about each other as you can. So when you move in you can build your relationship. Speaking from personal and anecdotal experience.

[st****]

Honestly I had a long distance relationship for 2 years and then I moved towards another country for that person stayed together 8 years but then she cheated on me .

That being said I don’t think it’s hard I believe it depends on a persons morals and love towards that person .

[Ra****]

My dom lives in salt lake city, Utah and I'm in CT. While the distance does hurt sometimes having the relationship is better than not

[be****]

If you need touch be touched and wait till your paths cross stay connected tho

[wh****]

Same

[IW****]

I’ve had a couple of LDR’s it hasn’t worked out well.