Back pains and the dom

[Do****]

As a dom that suffers from some severe back pains, due to a diagnosed issue, it becomes difficult to have sex, let alone confidently be what I want to be and do what I wish to do with a sub.

How do fellow doms get around this issue?
I have medication, however how does everyone get around the confidence issue this brings with it as a Dom

[Deleted Member]

I have chronic pain in my shoulders, neck and lower back from an 18 wheeler accident. My meds just makes it where I can function. That said I have found that after a good play session I feel very good, though the pain does catch up to me later or the next day. Since all injuries are different yours might be worse, or maybe I get better meds. My thought is if you enjoy it then make the effort to do it and live with the consequences.

[so****]

Take an Advil a swig a whiskey and just forget about your back pains. In short if you wanna be confident. Suck it up and dom your heart out

[PickyPrincess]

You can Dom without physical strength. Not all subs need or want physical pain and long play sessions. Your internal strength and kindness is what a sub will seek out.

[Er****]

I am a new Dom so feel free to ignore me if I'm speaking nonsense.

It depends on what you want from the encounter? I myself get more enjoyment from foreplay (teasing and edging) than sex itself. As for being confident as a Dom, it depends on your confidence as a individual, if some acticities make you unsure, maybe try to find a way around then or alternatives?
Hope you find a good answer.

[Deleted Member]

As a sub with lower back pain, I have told my partners, if I say neck or back, we have to switch positions. I have found things like foam wedges that lift and support hips helpful for my back. As a sub I have found wearing a pain patch under a corset to be helpful and sexy. One of my partners loved lacing me into a corset which was SO hot😉 I know they also have wrap around athletic support belts which to me look like bondage gear.

[Ch****]

If you sit on a sofa, in pain, while your sub makes you a whisky, strips in front of you, and then licks your feet, you have been domming over them fully without using your physical strength.
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Your sub can learn when you can and cannot do physical activities, and can submit to you in other ways when those times occur.
Theres plenty of mental submissions to play with!

[Ri****]

I am a Military Veteran and have a lot of muscle issues. I have full body arthritis and some days it hurts to walk. The best way to fullfill someone sexually is sensory play. The mind gives the body what to think and feel. If can tie them up, dnt have to use rope. Use restraints and quick release hardware there so many options that are faster then rope. Play on their senses, use a vibrator, a Hitachi wand, clamps, wax, fingers. Make them answer questions while overloading the senses and if do not answer correctly a quick smack, spank, or get them to edge of orgasm and stop. It take very minimal effort physically and more creativity on your part. The brain is biggest sexuak organ on the body beside the skin. I say that because if can stimulate someone with simple words then you can dominate then with very minimal effort.

[pe****]

My Dom has a spinal injury that flairs from time to time and when it's to painful for physical play , I learn , I do poses or practice service or we discuss headspace, I physically care for his needs to relieve his pain and he supports me emotionally during that time .

[Mi****]

I'm a sub that suffers chronic back pain. I take lots of meds, drink water and stretch. Communication with my Dom is everything. I will tell him if I need to move, change position etc. He watches me constantly and my reactions. Like others have said, prolonged sex is far from a sub's mind. It's all about stimulation - physically and mentally. So relax, change scenes to suit your needs. Take breaks, stand up, sit down. Your sub's duty is to care for you and will do anything for your comfort, pains and well-being.

[Mz****]

It doesn't make you weak as a Dom to admit to your sub you have chronic back pain. You have to communicate and most subs would love to help with the pain. Also you need to get creative when your having a bad day. Use toys on them instead of sex. So many possibilities there.

[GspotGuru]

Dominance at the root is 80-90% a mental dynamic state and does not always require physical strength , so it’s really about being confident in your Dominance, your mental intensity, your words and rules. Being a good DOM takes planning for every scene, play time and scenario, so be creative in maximizing your mental game on those times or days when you have physical challenges. When your mind set is confident and you Dominate strongly in your direction, command and Mastery of your sub, you have opened the door for their deeper physical stimulation, edging and opportunities to earn multiple orgasms or be denied orgasm until u have decided so. Feel and feed off thier need to be submissive and find your strength there in giving them what they need, as they share their gift of submission with you! 

[Ra****]

So, I had a parachute malfunction during an army airborne operation a few years ago. Broke my back in four places and lost my ability to speak for three months. Had to learn how to walk and talk again, so I couldn’t do anything physically sexual for about nine months. Coming out of that place with lots of physical and cognitive therapy, I realized something as a Dom. Mental and emotional are the most powerful and rewarding forms of dominance. I’m at about 85% of where I was now, and my pain is well managed thru NSAIDs, and yoga, but the experience forever changed the way I approach this lifestyle. Your body is telling you something. My advice is to listen to it, friend. Good luck and good health!