New here and to the scene

[Thebean]

Hello everyone.

 

Just a quick hi, and a question of two;  does anyone know of any clubs of munches in the Oxford or Bicester area?  Any details would be great.

Has anyone had issues with their job because they're on this site?

Thanks 

The Bean

[ey****]

although exceptions apply - most workplaces would neither find out nor care.

there are exclusions, as I say, but really only if you've a job with ***, or the police.

[Thebean]

Thank you; I raised a "hypothetical" with the boss, and she seemed to think it would be fine.  

Could be awkward if students find out though....

[Mi****]

There is a munch on the last Saturday of the month at the Jolly Farmers, Paradise St, Oxford from 5pm to 9pm. The next one is the 24th November. A quick search didnt come up with any events but if you attend the munch the people there would know better than me what is going on in the area

[Thebean]

Perfect, thank you.

I have heard good things about the Jolly Farmers.

[Deleted Member]

It’s a free country so no! Your private life doesn’t concerned anybody. As long of course you keep with in the law 

fetlife got all the groups you need to find on your area. 

[ey****]

On 11/21/2018 at 5:39 PM, FabSeverus said:

It’s a free country so no! Your private life doesn’t concerned anybody. As long of course you keep with in the law 

I can tell you a fair few stories of people who DID have problem with their employment due to activity within kink scene.... and of course, remember we have a party in power and an opposition who are both trying to strip away our rights when it comes to many forms of things we enjoy...

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, eyemblacksheep said:

I can tell you a fair few stories of people who DID have problem with their employment due to activity within kink scene.... and of course, remember we have a party in power and an opposition who are both trying to strip away our rights when it comes to many forms of things we enjoy...

well they would have a case with the Justice as its illegal to do it. 

[ey****]

well, one was a police officer.... and another was a primary school teacher... another worked in a hospital.

The hospital one in particular was slightly different as it was a guy who had done porn in the past.  He was recognised and the practice felt that any form of sexual lawsuit against him/them this would be used against him/them making it expensive and/or more likely for them to lose.

There are many other examples.   Sometimes, the thing is, just because something is "illegal" and just because you'd have a case - doesn't mean you want to go to court, at great expense, to argue about your sex life.

Many HAVE done this over the years.  Which is why we can probably enjoy a bit more these days.  But, some of these died penniless. 

But then, also consider as I say - in both the UK and US there are people both sides of the house who want to make more restrictions.  

[Thebean]

Thank you.

My bosses are aware that I may be on these sites, and don't seem to have a problem.  Its if the students (uni) find out.

As with all life, hope of the best, plan for the worst.

[ey****]

absolutely - consider contingency and keep things in mind.

One thing of note... chances are, if they do stumble upon you online (or at a munch etc) they're there for the same reason - it could be mutually awkward, but there's always solutions.

[Deleted Member]

3 hours ago, Thebean said:

Thank you.

My bosses are aware that I may be on these sites, and don't seem to have a problem.  Its if the students (uni) find out.

As with all life, hope of the best, plan for the worst.

Why your boss may know about it?

you are better off not showing your face on here then?

Edited November 25, 2018 by Deleted Member
missed a word

[Thebean]

For reasons, I "came out" to my boss.

It's a risk, but eyemblacksheep is right.  If they are there, it'll be awkward, but a solution will be found.