Can't do anal

[L1****]

So i was purely sub for a good while and a femboy. As such i practiced anal on myself with all kinds of things from my fingers, to bottles, to toys. I always loved it when i did it and couldn't wait to find dom who would fuck/peg me. Then the day came i found a guy and when i tried i hated it. I let him fuck me and finish but i just laid there the whole time wishing it would be over already. Has anyone had this experience or anyone have any tips to over come it?

[Cheekysub247]

It might be because you control the movement doing it alone. When i have done it to myself its been ok, someone else doing it i just find it painful x x

[ge****]

Firstly a word of warning - avoid bottles well glass ones anyway - all it takes is a weakness in the glass or your muscles to clamp down...and I'll leave the rest to your imagination but that's life changing stuff right there.
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As for your question - could be any number of things, but without knowing more it's difficult to say - perhaps he didn't take it slowly, or hurt you somehow, perhaps the position wasn't quite right, or you weren't feeling it on the day or weren't relaxed enough, or as Cheeky suggests the whole control thing, or maybe a combination of some/all of those things.
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Whether you do it again is your call, but if you do talk to any partner and let them know the last time it didn't go well, and explain how/why so you can find other ways to both lead up to it and do it

[bi****]

fantasy beats reality in so many things. What you expected or thought you wanted wasn't what you really got. And that's normal. Relationships are not based on porn-style fantasies. Do the boring stuff with someone first and develop from there. Also bottles: never do this, open bottles can create a vacuum and cause suction issues.

[as****]

As a sub femboy myself, I never let a man finish if I'm not enjoying the sex anymore.have I

[as****]

2 minutes ago, asiansub4dom said:

As a sub femboy myself, I never let a man finish if I'm not enjoying the sex anymore.have I

I have learned that if I'm not getting pleasure out of it, it's not worth my time. Also I've learned I love a big thick member over a small thin one... it takes more patience or breathing through, but damn does it hit the spot.

[as****]

1 minute ago, asiansub4dom said:

I have learned that if I'm not getting pleasure out of it, it's not worth my time. Also I've learned I love a big thick member over a small thin one... it takes more patience or breathing through, but damn does it hit the spot.

But this is totally normal... especially if you don't find them physically appealing. At least with me. Anal does require a lot of patience and foreplay though.

[Bo****]

You might not be a bottom boy and more of a top.

[Deleted Member]

I love anal and what helped me is using plugs beforehand and keeping it in until I’m ready. Who I’m with also plays a part. If I’m really into the person I want to do anal more. If you’re not feeling it don’t do it because it will keep you from relaxing and it might hurt.

[Jimmmy]

Well this is a simple one to address. You’ve not been relaxed.

It was 31 years ago, I was in my early twenties and I had my first anal sex experience. I really wanted it and I thought I was ready for it. It was awful. So painful. I just wanted it over. I ached “down there” for over a week. I’d certainly been internally bruised .

I didn’t understand why I was able to take big toys inside me and be comfortable but this experience was so painful. I soon realised that I hadn’t been relaxed and “in the zone”.

The next time was completely different. I talked through my first experience with my playmate. I explained that it had been painful. I also expressed my genuine desire to have sex anally, but to enjoy it like I enjoyed toys. He was very gentle, went slowly and gave me time to get in the zone. I totally enjoyed it. No pain. No long term aches. Just pleasure and fun. Things just got better and better.

I’ve been playing for well over 30 years now. I’m able to take a 3.5” diameter toy in me. But I’m relaxed, not wrecked. I don’t need a nappy!

My advice: Plenty of lube. Plenty of time. More lube. No rush. Even more lube. Relaxing breathing exercises. Did I mention lube? And poppers. And lube. This will lead to serious fun and unbelievable pleasure. Enjoy…😀