Submission

[Deleted Member]

Okay folks I’m genuinely curious about that.
This question goes for both subs and doms.
What does it do to you?

For subs/slaves;

Is that just a gesture of giving yourself in your partners hands, do you have any feelings involved?
Is it just a matter of trust for you?

I’ve been looking for more opinions on this topic and I’m getting some great answers.
(I know for myself but I can’t help myself and be curious what it does for others)

For dominants;

With your partner submitting to you, is it just a playtime, 24/7 , pleasure or comfort and dare I say “love”?

Are you looking after your partner any more or any less after they submit?

[an****]

It's turns me on like we basically looking for same kinda sex not being surprised. Being more open idk it's different

[Bi****]

It's just essentially, at least, how I understand it, a balancing of energy that's, usually within these reaches of life, at a high intensity, interactions created through a long list of contextual situations and requirements I don't feel like thinking through to list off and understand right now. That's my way of thinking of it.

[Yu****]

It depends. As a Dominant, I reflect alot of my general feelings into my 'role'. So I probably wouldn't classify it as any of these. It's a lifestyle. I'm myself when I'm in my 'role'.
In public, in private, it makes no difference. If you don't follow what I say, I take the time to discipline and teach you what you did wrong.
To me a submissives duty isn't just being a plaything. She should be willing ofcourse, but alot of your job is to be a softer image of myself. Untrained innocence that is molded to please, in all aspects not just sexual.

[un****]

it’s not 24/7 playtime as lovely as that sounds. To me its being more open and depending how deep the relationship is because there is a difference between a submissive fwb and a gf, fiance etc there can be love. Extremely deep love at that and i do find myself looking after them more regardless of relationship because they’re putting their submission in my hands and its my job to look after them and make sure they’re ok and that extends outside of the bedroom

[Barney_CM]

This depends on the woman in question (I'm straight so I'll use that word), as all girls are kinky in different ways.

I haven't yet experienced 24/7, but kinky submission in general allows me to pour my love into someone.

If we go by 1 worders like 'playtime, love, pleasure, comfort etc.' then my word would be 'relief'. I'm a service top, I MUST give love, that is more important to me than even sex itself. If I finally manage to make my submissive happy that's like...a sense of calm and peace, like this is where I was meant to be and I'm finally in my place. In charge, using her trust for the benefit of us both.

I also feel an immense sense of pride if I can get her to have a REALLY good time. In my experience, the male body is simply incapable of producing as much pleasure as the female one, and watching its reactions is...intoxicating; like my limited masculine nervous system can absorb some of that pleasure of hers through empathy.

Not sure if I answered your question correctly, but this is how I experience my role as a dominant.

Edited May 19 by Barney_CM

[Do****]

For me it’s a 24/7 thing. At first it was to exhibit control in all aspects of my life, but that feeling of having someone dependent on you, the level of trust both in and outside of the bedroom, knowing they view you as their protector, their safe space to embrace everything without judgement, it’s an inexplicable and incomparable feeling in my opinion. Someone is putting their entire being, body, soul, and future, in my hands with complete faith

[Cheekysub247]

Ive had friendship play partners and ive been romantically involved, just depended in that time, but all need trust, connection, compatibility. When i have all three of those i can truely let go and be me 😊

[Deleted Member]

Gets me a nut. Mostly that.

[Pl****]

You're going to get a variety of answers here, because dynamics are extremely varied. Personally, I don't really do any D/s stuff outside the bedroom. I tend to go for strong, confident, capable, independent women because they're high quality people and because I think it means more when they want to be with me. They could be with anyone, and are content on their own, but they chose me. Then their submission is a whole other level. It shows me how special I am to them, how much they trust me, and it inspires me to find new ways to show them how special they are to me and to reward that trust. I don't think it's technically love, but it goes hand in hand with my ideal loving relationship.

[mo****]

As a Dom it’s just play to. I show feelings in other ways. But I know for some subs , the stronger the feelings the further they let you push.

[as****]

For me, I enjoy being submissive because I like to be in touch with my feminine energy. I like to feel feminine, small, and taken care of. I spent a lot of my life always having to be in control and not having to make decisions and being subservient is therapeutic in a way. I also genuinely enjoy caring for an individuals needs and providing satisfaction, it’s fulfilling to me.

[Sc****]

It gives me a sense of control of the woman and the entire situation . I love the fact I am trusted 100%like a male sub would put all his trust in his dominatrix as a lover and his higher up . It's definently a trust bond

[Da****]

First off the dom doesn't have the true power cause without the sub feely comfy enough to submit then the dom is powerless... However mine is in bedroom or designated playtime and just like most comments it depends on if your emotions are involved because for me I have experienced both sub/gf and just a sub aspects and being the Dom with my gf it way more intense than a regular sub

[he****]

Well said @yumshot

[fe****]

Quick question how do I go about finding a non fin dom?

[Gw****]

Good grammar and use of language correctly..

[sh****]

To me it’s about understanding the power dynamics, and why the power exchange is necessary in the first place as a Dom I make sure my subs understand that it’s more than a sexual experience, there are things I do that are always in their best interest, and that’s why them understanding they’re role is important. It’s kinda like Yin, and Yang you need both energies in perfect balance to keep things in motion for things to function properly.

[Le****]

For me the sub role is a chance to step away from expectations of my career and daily life where everyone expects me to be the alpha in the room.

[Ra****]

This maybe a bit sadistic but with my submissive side it gives me an inner piece of feeling extremely safe and secure. Of course it also offers the hand of trust, love and power to a partner or someone I'm very close too, but in my anxiety ridden head it offers me the previously mentioned rewards.

[do****]

I agree with some of what was previously said. It's a balance and one is incomplete without the other. But I'm going to be real here For myself, for a woman to submit, that's one of the greatest joys in the world to me. That means we have "communicated" to a "consensual" level of "trust". That's turns me into jump in front of the bullet to save the president mode. It gets real after submission. You know how hard it is to trust someone these days? With the things we got going on? For a woman? Yet she's trusting "me" to guide, protect, mode, and love on her in "bondage". Trust that I'm not going to harm, hurt or abuse her. Trust that I'm going to please and release her. Stop if she says the "safe word". I cannot even put a word to describe how much that "gift" feels to me. That power of trust a woman submits to you is way better than gold, diamonds, or pearls. Especially to someone that "knows" women. Clay Davis voice, "Shiiiiit". 🤣

[do****]

1 minute ago, doubletrouble129 said:

I agree with some of what was previously said. It's a balance and one is incomplete without the other. But I'm going to be real here For myself, for a woman to submit, that's one of the greatest joys in the world to me. That means we have "communicated" to a "consensual" level of "trust". That's turns me into jump in front of the bullet to save the president mode. It gets real after submission. You know how hard it is to trust someone these days? With the things we got going on? For a woman? Yet she's trusting "me" to guide, protect, mode, and love on her in "bondage". Trust that I'm not going to harm, hurt or abuse her. Trust that I'm going to please and release her. Stop if she says the "safe word". I cannot even put a word to describe how much that "gift" feels to me. That power of trust a woman submits to you is way better than gold, diamonds, or pearls. Especially to someone that "knows" women. Clay Davis voice, "Shiiiiit". 🤣

*not harm

[un****]

26 minutes ago, doubletrouble129 said:

I agree with some of what was previously said. It's a balance and one is incomplete without the other. But I'm going to be real here For myself, for a woman to submit, that's one of the greatest joys in the world to me. That means we have "communicated" to a "consensual" level of "trust". That's turns me into jump in front of the bullet to save the president mode. It gets real after submission. You know how hard it is to trust someone these days? With the things we got going on? For a woman? Yet she's trusting "me" to guide, protect, mode, and love on her in "bondage". Trust that I'm not going to harm, hurt or abuse her. Trust that I'm going to please and release her. Stop if she says the "safe word". I cannot even put a word to describe how much that "gift" feels to me. That power of trust a woman submits to you is way better than gold, diamonds, or pearls. Especially to someone that "knows" women. Clay Davis voice, "Shiiiiit". 🤣

much better put than i ever could express it

[do****]

15 minutes ago, undeaddom said:

much better put than i ever could express it

Thank you. Respect

[se****]

As a sub yes there are feelings involved but also at the same time it’s an escape for me. Me and my dom are taking things somewhat slow but at the same time giving me what I need at the same time i.e. helping me get on a routine. One of the biggest things I am working on is trust. My dom has helped me in so many ways that he just doesn’t know.