BDSM with disabilities

[Ac****]

Hey there everyone and thank you in advance for reading through what I fear might be a longer post. 

I have always identified as being part of the BDSM scene, and quickly found myself to be a Brat. I just love the tingles it gives when I'm talking back or being playfully disobedient. 

I am married to a wonderful woman whom I have been with for 12 years, and I only recently started talking with her for real, about my urges for a more experimental setting in the bedroom. I would love to expand it to other areas as well, but she is very strict on keeping it to the bedroom.

Now, the issue is: I get extremely aroused at the thought and fantasies of being punished to the point of tears, to be kept down and not have a say in it, for my wife to forcefully discipline me. She say that she would be able to do that, and I partly believe her on it. I am however worried that It will cross my limits even though I crave for it, and that I wont be able to actually deal with it, with my autism. 

Does anyone else have experience with /s that have sensory disabilities, and any advice on how to handle that part?

It's churning inside my mind and body more and more, and I feel like I am going to burst if I don't get an outlet for my desires..

Sincerly

Acatiera

 

[BigPolly]

Ok we are all very very different no matter who we are etc so I can only answer from personal experience. I have had 2 Doms who had Aspergers. One of them ‘talked’ a good game but in practice he struggled with confidence. The other was great when he was in the zone but he had to keep the focus on me & couldn’t have any sexual focus on him it was all about me. He could only get an erection if we were being sexual without play. Separately, my brother is High Functioning & there is also a question mark over myself but it’s not something I’ve followed up, I don’t have have any direct issues with BDSM as long as any play doesn’t involve ‘Cream/Moisturiser’ as I have sensory issues with that. It literally terrifies me. I find that because my mind zones into itself & fixates on certain situations my pain threshold becomes high which is quite unusual for me. I also have an idea of how play should be which can be quite frustrating. But all in all, it’s all good 😊

[Deleted Member]

I actually feel this problem a lot. It sounds dumb for I can never take my master cum in my mouth due to sense of taste and stuff being heightened by autism.

[Deleted Member]

There are different levels of aspergers and different causes but my bipolar disorder some times mimics it in sensory. It really is a challenge but the best piece of advice I can give is on the days you feel great THEN TRY IT but we have safewords for a reason. If it gets too much then use it and stop. Also your wife I'm sure knows how to tell when you've had enough.

[Ac****]

Thank you for the great answers. I think I'll try to pursuit "new things" or limits on good days. Silly that I didn't even consider it 

Hardest part is to be less bratty on days that are iffy 

[Deleted Member]

Thanks for your post as most of the time we forgot about différents type of elements! And I think your case must be challenging sometime. I will defo read docs about it!!