cost

[kenrich]

dont know if being ripped off but how much should it cost have a first meet to find out if this is right for me 

[ey****]

I mean, it depends on context here.

If you're talking with someone and you're doing the whole "meet for a coffee, see where it goes" - then the cost of a coffee.

If you are talking to a Pro Domme about a session then their rates depend on region, area, expertise, etc.  Can be anywhere between £100-£300 per hour in the UK.   Some may do a cheaper rate for a social meet.

[***slut1988]

Absolutely nothing other than your regular date coast unless your hiring a escort/prostitute then it's really there call but IMO this is only something you should explore with someone who you trust and know wants the same thing out of it as you do

[Vi****]

Meet for a drink or two in a good bar. I'm old fashioned so I would anticipate paying. But either way you're probably looking at £100 (if it gets to 6 drinks!)? Depends where you are and where you go. But at least this way you can control when you're finished if you're not getting on.

[Je****]

Nothing??? What do you mean cost?
Do not part with any ***, at most offer to pay for her/his coffee.
Anything more being asked or expected is probably a scam. No one genuine would allow / demand you pay for things/everything.

[Je****]

And I agree, it's on context, but you've said "first meet" which I see more social, than professional. So my comment is based off that.

[Vi****]

I hadn't even considered a professional scenario so good advice.

[Ch****]

Never pay for a meet up, just coffee

[Sirfox38]

For a first meeting at a coffee shop maybe the price of lunch

[do****]

A meet is free for me. Need more context here. Like what kind of dynamic is the purpose of the meet?

[sh****]

Never pay.

[Da****]

I am more than happy to pay for drinks or a meal but that is all never pay for gas or venmo them some *** that's just a scam

[Da****]

Unless you're paying for an escort which is never just meet for coffee

[Ri****]

My first meetings with a potential sub are generally in public, over coffee or a light bite. At this point we have established compatibility, and likely not set limits or a safeword.

[Di****]

Do not pay for anything. She is scamming and bewitching you

[ro****]

Never pay. It's a scam. My first meetings are public for coffee or dessert or ice cream. To determine if the spark is there and compatibility etc. Then we can move forward to a 2nd meet

[Ta****]

If the person you’re talking to has brought up a monetary transaction before you’ve even met, you are 100% being scammed.

[Deleted Member]

I recommend trying to find someone who doesn't charge or charges after 3 consultations.

[Deleted Member]

I never charge to meet - I just treat it like any other date

[QXX666]

You are not very clear about your first meeting?
Is it a vanilla set up in a public place or test ride with an actual Dom/Domme or sub? Any action/play got involve ? Have you discuss any *** exchange prior to the meeting? If so does the profile have the € symbol meaning it’s a pro? If not report it to the site for breach of conduct /policy.
As a general rule as lot of peoples mentioned below, a first meeting is free, you can have a chat in a public park or museum etc… it doesn’t have to cost a thing. Sometime it’s kind of awkward to have a discussion related to bdsm/kink in a cafe…

[Th****]

It would be great if people gave the OP time/opportunity to clarify context or at least ask for clarification instead of making assumptions about the situation. So many people appear to just have a need to comment rather than give specific comments with all the necessary information. 

If going to a munch, cost of a drink or meal for you plus tip for your server (if you live in a tipping culture). Going to an event, club, or dungeon price of admission. A social meet with another lifestyler cost of a coffee or meal, a lot of people pay their own way but you should be able to discuss it ahead of time. You shouldn't be *required* to pay for anything more than your own though and if you want findom to be a part of it you still shouldn't be asked to pay anything until after at least a meet or two and nit until full negotiation and agreement between both parties. It's not "this is how it's going to be" 

There *are* legitimate circumstanses where a fee would be required becauae there are legitimate and ethical Pro Dom(me)s.

 

Why are escorts and prostitutes even being brought up? 

[Familyguysub]

On 8/3/2023 at 8:07 PM, kenrich said:

dont know if being ripped off but how much should it cost have a first meet to find out if this is right for me 

Iv got my very first meet next week with my first ever mistress we have never met before and we split the cost of a dungeon for hire it cost £300 for 3hrs a session and paid £150each

[ey****]

48 minutes ago, Familyguysub said:

Iv got my very first meet next week with my first ever mistress we have never met before and we split the cost of a dungeon for hire it cost £300 for 3hrs a session and paid £150each

that's very expensive

in Manchester I know most of the dungeons are £50 per hour - so that's double what it should be

Even in London 3 hours should be under £200