After Session Confessions - D/s dynamic & Aftercare.

[Deleted Member]

Hi I'm Angel, pleasure to meet you all!  🖤

I've been a submissive since I can remember and I have experienced a few really intense D/s dynamics.

Sub space is a feeling I'm sure a lot of you are familiar with but for those reading this that don't, I would describe it as a beautifully intense floaty/tingly sensation that travels around your body and into your mind. A huge wave of complex emotions and pure ecstasy washes over you. Your thoughts are taken far away allowing you to push through *** and endure suffering to lock yourself inward and replace words with pure, absolute surrender. 🔥

For a submissive this intensity can be extremely draining as you can imagine, not only to the mind, but to the body and spirit too.

So my question to you all is, "do you have any specific aftercare or 'sub drop preventions' you use to ground yourself back into reality?"

I deeply enjoy music as a tool for grounding, the beat and rhythm slowly breathing life back into my soul and the lyrics speaking words my voice hasn't the power to form. One of my favourite after session songs is Linkin Park - Lost in the Echo. The lyrics are beautiful and I relate them completely to the euphoric feeling of submission. Do you have any other song recommendations for after sessions? 

 

[Deleted Member]

Snuggles 🥰 and water/beverage of choice then just talking about our time together and how I can now support her.

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3 minutes ago, roughdom4420 said:

Snuggles 🥰 and water/beverage of choice then just talking about our time together and how I can now support her.

Absolutely beautiful!  🖤

[Su****]

Shower with booty rubs, music, candles and snacks!

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21 minutes ago, Subbysarah84 said:

Shower with booty rubs, music, candles and snacks!

Oooo! Booty rubs & snacks sounds like my ideal date! 🤭 x 

[Su****]

1 minute ago, LittleAngelSlave said:

Oooo! Booty rubs & snacks sounds like my ideal date! 🤭 x 

A great combo x

[Ki****]

Definitely snuggles. That physical connection and grounding is so important to me. Then lots of water and snacks. When I’m lost in sub space, I lose all track of my body’s needs so replenishing is essential. 

[Deleted Member]

An hour in hot tub talking relaxing with my legs entwined with my partner

[Gooner139]

Subspace is the most beautiful thing.i agree totally .to feel that combination of deep relaxation along with pleasure is so rare and exciting

[St****]

This is an excellent thread.

[Deleted Member]

Hair washing after care. Just tender enough.

[Si****]

There is a plethora of information on aftercare techniques within the forum but it never hurts to do a refresh every now and again.
 

Techniques to prevent sub drop don’t really exist as drop is a chemical change when the endorphins leave your ***stream. All you can do is manage the symptoms and this is certainly part of aftercare.

 

i’ve never heard of anyone having an aftercare “playlist” as such as aftercare can last hours or even days depending on the level of play but I suppose for the initial post scene ‘come down’ then the right music could help with creating a relaxing environment to chill out in. That said, my scenes are generally in the club so the music is whatever is being played at the time. 
 

Well done OP, this is a fab topic!

[ValleyDomMaster]

I like to bathe them after a session as aftercare. Gently washing her all over and hair.
Also a bit of conditioner aterwards so I can comb her hair as well. Then dry her off and help her into some comfy clothes or pj's.
Followed by some food, drinks, music and maybe a film to chill.

[gi****]

Hello Angel, and such an interesting addition to the discussion of aftercare. Being a nerd (I was going to say somewhat, but I know I'm a nerd, lol), I've studied the body's reaction to things like music. I agree with @4RCH, it is extremely challenging, if not impossible, to avoid sub drop (or Dom drop for those who experience that). But, music does affect our nervous system, and can enhance, or inhibit, neurohormones that are produced, bringing on sensations of calming, connection, and integration. More nerdy than probably desired, but I so appreciate the addition of this discussion to one around aftercare. Thank you again for bringing it up.

[Potur78]

dark chocolate always good for aftercare and nice hot shower or bath

[St****]

Is that available on vinyl?

[Mi****]

Massage and a light gourmet midnight supper is the aftercare I provide

[el****]

A glass of fine wine and a warm oil foot massage is very pleasing aftercare

[RoigEsteldeLlevant]

In my own experience: being skin-to-skin in bed and slowly and softly speaking about the experience, whilst gently moving the topic to more day-to-day needs of both or only the other person. It may provide a smooth transition from the ***less subspace, grounding the experience and retaining that self-confidence-by-surrender to a more empowerment "through-the-other".
I've noticed that introducing some little jokes to smooth the s***ch transition, if you know the other well, can be very useful to switch the subspace mindset.
Also, speaking out about the D's reality beyond the experience has been crucial to me.

Honest talk, exposure of our own vulnerability as a shared reality, all of that while being skin-to-skin, hugging, caressing just before turning to our material needs (e.g. taking a shower, eating something and drinking some water). If you know your D/s relation well enough, and in my own experience, this "method" has had the most pleasant results to prevent subdrop, release some Dom tension and transit to other non-bdsm activities and maintain a bit of that subspace joy. 😊

[el****]

Thanks for sharing that it’s very helpful

[Deleted Member]

Chocolate, warm drink, favourite soft toy. The list is endless but if you truly knkw your sub your aftercare will be adapted to her.

[bo****]

Wanted to like the like the post but didn’t want to be the one who brought it off 69 likes 🤣🤣🤣

[Bo****]

Damn I wanna experience this ! Love it

[LottieAngel]

Definitely non-sexual intimate contact :') Cuddles, taking a bath together, etc, just a chance for my mind to kind of come back to me without feeling the need to rush. Those times when I have to quickly go from sub/littlespace back to the real world are when I sub-drop the most. Almost feels like being yanked out of bed mid-dream.

[ms****]

I am still perfecting my aftercare. But, at first I followed the usual. But after much research, I worked out why wasn't working. As I am single, live alone I don't have day to day intimacy or closeness with someone. So the aftercare of cuddling, closeness was actually bringing my levels back up and then experiencing double sub drop. I am currently testing just having random chat and then leaving to own bed/saying goodnight after a short while.