Du**** Posted December 23, 2025 How do you find local munches? I joined this app and tried paying for a month but it’s incredibly underwhelming. I’d prefer to go and meet people but am new and no idea where to start.
YegBiBtm721 Posted December 23, 2025 13 minutes ago, DungeonMasterIRL said: How do you find local munches? I joined this app and tried paying for a month but it’s incredibly underwhelming. I’d prefer to go and meet people but am new and no idea where to start. Try doing a search for bdsm munches on the web under your city. Also Fetlife dot Com usually has local groups by city.
kimutu72 Posted December 23, 2025 21 hours ago, YegBiBtm721 said: I find it hard, almost all woman posting or replying to posts on kink related sites want a daddy. The ones that are Dominant, are scammers or already have a partner in crime, married or looking for a female sub to join them or a bull or wrong age range. The other side is ones are interested but looking for . I know there are some female/trans subs that express interest in being a switch or trying out their dominant side. Come across others in different cities that could be interested but not local to me. there can be a number of reason why someone is not a match but it is even hard to find someone that at least is open to chatting and see perhaps we could be a match. I know where your coming from, I personally think with sites like this there are alot more men than women. Ive met a couple of nice guys in the past & they have been great subs & the connection we had was great. I find that alot of messages I get is they are from guys who have a partner ( their partners dnt understand them or just not interested) guys want to rush into everything. I prefer to take it slow & get to know someone & even meet up for a coffee. I will never be with someone who has a partner, I will never rush into anything either. I guess we all have our own rules. I hope you find your match tho
Du**** Posted December 23, 2025 1 hour ago, YegBiBtm721 said: Try doing a search for bdsm munches on the web under your city. Also Fetlife dot Com usually has local groups by city. Thank you I’ll give this a shot!
YegBiBtm721 Posted December 23, 2025 1 hour ago, kimutu72 said: I know where your coming from, I personally think with sites like this there are alot more men than women. Ive met a couple of nice guys in the past & they have been great subs & the connection we had was great. I find that alot of messages I get is they are from guys who have a partner ( their partners dnt understand them or just not interested) guys want to rush into everything. I prefer to take it slow & get to know someone & even meet up for a coffee. I will never be with someone who has a partner, I will never rush into anything either. I guess we all have our own rules. I hope you find your match tho Thank you - Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I wish I was on theother side of the pnd, seems a lot of interesting people into kink and bdsm on your side of the world.
MasterDwight Posted December 23, 2025 2 hours ago, DungeonMasterIRL said: How do you find local munches? I joined this app and tried paying for a month but it’s incredibly underwhelming. I’d prefer to go and meet people but am new and no idea where to start. It's not going to be easy. You will have to start searching in your city and surrounding cities for this. For me, in this area where I live, it's most definitely hard to find any kind of event dealing with the lifestyle It will depend on the area where you are and it is hard to find anybody right? I understand it, especially here, why I live. The women are rare and very hard to come by now if you're a gay man in my community. Hey, you'll have no problem finding somebody
kimutu72 Posted December 23, 2025 39 minutes ago, YegBiBtm721 said: Thank you - Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I wish I was on theother side of the pnd, seems a lot of interesting people into kink and bdsm on your side of the world. Merry Christmas to you aswel. I could say the same about yours most my matches are either in a totally different country or just not old enough. Im sure you will find the right person for you
kimutu72 Posted December 23, 2025 3 hours ago, DungeonMasterIRL said: How do you find local munches? I joined this app and tried paying for a month but it’s incredibly underwhelming. I’d prefer to go and meet people but am new and no idea where to start. strange as it might be but google it
ey**** Posted December 23, 2025 basically... google "find a munch" you'll probably find there's more options than folk give credit for (unless you live in a genuinely remote town, and, even then....)
Kr**** Posted 13 hours ago On 11/29/2025 at 2:25 PM, Steph_Kit8288 said: Thank you for your opinion, but what you described is not a dominant/sub dynamic. [...] So let me ask you this, if your best friend’s wife was a baker.. and you have twin eight-year-old boys, suddenly you need two birthday cakes by tomorrow afternoon for their birthday party, let’s just say the other baker that was booked was found on Google, or Craigslist, and weren’t exactly educated.. or had the skills to pull off something that daunting.. or maybe they just got overbooked right? For that service, that your best friend‘s wife is going to provide for you, for two birthday cakes in less than 24 hours for your twin sons, I mean we’re talking about your best friend‘s wife here. Do you think she’s gonna ask you to pay for that? For her time for her knowledge for her skills? Not only that, but are you the type of friend that always expects free items and discounts from your friends and family instead of supporting their small businesses or careers? I can tell you with my whole chest that lady would laugh in your face and tell you to go get you a Duncan Hines box mix…. And I know this because my other “job” is my own custom cake and wedding catering business that I’ve had for seven years. I work full-time sometimes six days a week during busy season. What you’re missing in all of this is, this isn’t a hobby for a lot of of us! I’m not really sure your experiences have been of a true Dom sub dynamic because I don’t think if you had that, and had it with someone truly experienced and wanting to tame you.. you’d know it’s a huge toll and responsibility. It takes skills and knowledge and education to even train your mistresses your Dom‘s your owners to keep their own emotions in check, on top of everything else that they’re responsible for, you do realize are 100% in that person‘s hands.. a true Dom in this lifestyle does not take that lightly and once you have that type of experience as a submissive or slave, or brat… that’s when it becomes a difference between a lifestyle decision for you or just a kink you do on occasion. I really do hope that you get to experience this and please again excuse my sassiness and run-on sentences lol. I don’t deal with bras as much anymore, but it’s always fun. 🤩 You're welcome : ) I am not sure, if you should estimate the nature of a relationship based on a few sentences.^^' Personally the labeling isn't that important to me, but for my understanding it fits the D/s-description very well. I would not. On the one hand because I can do it myself (i can just bake simple flat stuff, but it looks really cool with a sugar ***tjob on top), I plan in advance for such stuff and it is not important enough to have her spending the night working on it. On the other hand because I don't need to ask. In my friend group it is just normal to offer our strenghts without being asked. A buddy, who works in IT offers to build me a PC together for low budget. My best friend corrected my bachelor paper for content, my former girlfriend for spelling. As a teacher I helped the first with some math stuff he had to refresh for his job once for example... My best friend got invited to Legoland as a little "thank you" he did not expect at all. You could say it is a clan mentality, if you manage to get in. All for one, one for all. To be honest I don't need to be "tamed". I am just gratefull for being allowed to have a break from any leadership role every time I see her. I have few but clear limits, enjoy very, very many things and have a huge field in between I am willing/eager to do, because I have a quite big will to please (if I have feelings for someone. Never could have a dynamic without an emotional connection). It is a quite soft and caring D/s relationship, but the power dynamic is pretty clearly established.
MistressWhipplash Posted 33 minutes ago For munches, join Fetlife. Go to the top of the page and click events near you. Both munches and play parties will show. In terms of finding a submissive when I was looking, I went socialising at munches and amusements & BDSM play at fetish clubs. I am a Dominant Sadist Woman near London. I find a fair amount are play bottoms seeking play sensation who label thrmself submissive inaccurately. I have two slaves, one is live-in-property the other live out. I am not currently seeking, just chatting now.
ge**** Posted 22 minutes ago 11 minutes ago, MistressWhipplash said: For munches, join Fetlife. Go to the top of the page and click events near you. Both munches and play parties will show. In terms of finding a submissive when I was looking, I went socialising at munches and amusements & BDSM play at fetish clubs. I am a Dominant Sadist Woman near London. I find a fair amount are play bottoms seeking play sensation who label thrmself submissive inaccurately. I have two slaves, one is live-in-property the other live out. I am not currently seeking, just chatting now. Exactly this - think I said further up the thread that for years I was seeking on-line and not getting very far - about two years ago I joined my local Munch, and from there started going to events - and as a result my circle of kink friends has increased massively and I've had experiences I never would have had otherwise. . There are numerous FemDom events around the UK for anyone living here, and all I've been to have been excellent.
ey**** Posted 6 minutes ago I guess something I found as well from in person versus online A simple but that IRL experiences feed into online etc but also... being able to meet people in the flesh gives you both a sense of who you are and that you're real and even if the initial interactions are "we're here at the same event" it can evolve into friends, play, relationships, more What I else found a bit. Is folk who have online boundaries, may well relax with people they know. So, no, they aint gonna play with or "give an opportunity to" every tom dick or harry who contacts online, but if meeting in person and someone goes on to become a friend - then it can open other doorways.
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