Hello, brand new to this, looking for advice!

[LaMaga]

Hello,  thanks in advance for your advice. I have met someone that I feel so attracted to, we have things in common. He opened up and trusted name with his sub fantasy and I felt turned on by it and realised I have been always dominant but not explicitly had a sub/Dom relationship. We have tried to arrange a couple of dates but he always changes his mind last minute, he says he gets freaked out. I don't know what to do. I'm really into him and now have fantasies of my own, with him. How can I help him trust me and just take the plunge?  

[ey****]

tell him you're interested and give him time.  that it's something you can explore together at your own paces - and that it's cool to be nervous,  but you'll have a lot of fun together.  

[Wo****]

Tell him it's okay to feel freaked out, it's *** of the unknown. It can be a big leap turning fantasy into reality.

Talk to each other, reassure him, be patient.

[LaMaga]

Thanks x I have said so. I guess all I can do is wait :(

[Wo****]

Waiting is hard but it's all you can do. Give him time to gather his thoughts and nerve. Keep talking about possible things you might like to do. Enjoy exploring ideas together, don't *** it. It'll happen organically. You're communicating and being honest, that's a really good foundation.

[Carnelian2]

You might already have done that - but things like video calls on Skype and other media may also help break down barriers. Just take it one step at a time, as long as you are on the journey together, it is cool

[LaMaga]

Yes, thanks..I guess I'm scared I'm not good enough and he'll find someone better. But, that is his choice anyways. All I can do is try my best :) 

[Wo****]

He trusted you enough to tell you how he feels so you need to trust him enough that you're good enough.

You'll have a ball x

[Carnelian2]

7 hours ago, LaMaga said:

Yes, thanks..I guess I'm scared I'm not good enough and he'll find someone better. But, that is his choice anyways. All I can do is try my best

This is true. You can only do what you do. People make choices all we can do is to try to make sure that we are honest, offer support and to be there