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Humans of Fetish.com Meet at the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar

Fetish.com is the place to meet kinky people online, right? But what happens when a bunch of our online kinksters in the UK meet up in real life? We sent Victoria Blisse to the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar to find out!


Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar (BBB) is a long-standing market and after-party event that kinky people from across the UK (and sometimes further afield) travel to every 2nd Sunday of the month to buy new, beautiful and intriguing kink kit and meet up with other BDSM and fetish enthusiasts. In May 2019, a group of around 30 Fetish.com regulars took the trip to the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar, too.

Why? Well, I believe ElleFire a member from Minnesota, USA was the catalyst. She only signed up to Fetish.com late last year but has jumped into fetish with both feet and great enthusiasm. Talking to another member, Jinx about the BBB, she decided to come on over to the UK to experience it.  From there, Fetish.com member BeardedSi took the reins and made the whole get together happen.

Of course, I had to get in on the fun. Turning up to the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar with a huge bag of Fetish.com merch and a smile, I soon tracked down the gang, and I can confirm we are real — funny, sexy, vibrant people brought together by Fetish.com.
 

Meet the Fetish.com Kink Community   

I asked a few of these amazing humans from our kink community to tell me more about them, their relationships, and what they think of Fetish.com. Here's what they had to say...

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What a lovely bunch of... kinksters! Fetish.com members hit the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar. 

ElleFire

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Signed up: October 2018.
Kinky connections made: Lots of friends who I’m going to visit and stay with while in the UK.
Likes about Fetish.com: I knew for ages I was kinky but only started to explore it more when I started at Fetish.com. I’m able to use the chat room to ask questions and get lots of answers from lots of different people. I can be all the way me.


Jinx and MrT75

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Met on Fetish.com: One year ago.
Kinky connections made: We met via PM and clicked then we met in real life for a pub lunch about four weeks later. There’s a bit of distance between us, so it’s hard to arrange to meet in real life, so Fetish.com provides a way to connect between times.
Likes about Fetish.com: It’s where I communicate with my community.


Liam52 and Lilmonster

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Met on Fetish.com: Three months ago.
Met in real life: One month ago.
Likes about Fetish.com: Fetish.com brought us together, we’ve met lots of fantastic people, it’s very important to us.


BerryBrighton

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Kinky connections made: I’ve made loads of really good friends from all over the world. Including Ellefire who I’ve had staying with me.
Likes about Fetish.com: I love it! I love the social aspect, especially the chat rooms - it’s like my extended family.


Roietrobert

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Likes about Fetish.com: It’s moderated, so I feel safe and secure. Other dating sites are full of scams and no genuine users. Here I feel like part of a family.


Cum4meslowly

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Signed up: Six months ago.
Likes about Fetish.com: It’s a place to chat about intimate things.


Firewitch, Mrchristopher70 and Lillyth

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Signed up: October 2017 and December 2018 (for Lillyth).
Kinky connections made: Met in the chat room and formed a Poly triad with the first date being this BBB meet up.
Likes about Fetish.com: We love the BDSM chat, forum and the treasure hunts!


Only one person from the people I asked had been to Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar before, but everyone had a blast browsing the stalls filled with everything from erotic books to paddles, latex to kinky jewellery, wax play candles to floggers.

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The demo of the day was erotic impact play, and we got a mention in the introduction, the assembled group of Fetish.com members whooped and hollered with great enthusiasm at that! Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar has its aftermath after party where you can play with your new kit and try out new things to you, but what goes on at the BBB party stays at the BBB. :smiling_imp: 

It was a fantastic day, proving that you can take friendships and relationships formed online into the real world. I’m sure there will be another meet up soon, maybe YOU could be part of it? 
 

Victoria Blisse was an erotic author and sex-positive Reverend. She helped shape fetish.com and FET from the very beginning and we're eternally grateful for her passion and creativity. Sadly, she passed away in January 2024. We hope that whenever her articles are read, she'll be honored.

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Join our kink community and make connections in our chat rooms and forums. Don't forget to check out our events listings to find and meet kinky people in real life. :D  
 

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