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My little identifies as both little/brat she is very submissive in little space, And very easy to control. We're 24/7 she thrives off of it however; I'm very much on the caregiving side and I know I'm to lenient when she snaps or barks at me for example when not in little space. She has told and Read more… asked on numerous occasions for me to be more strict her words "I like to be under your thumb"
And in the bedroom and when in little space, she is under my thumb. But with the behavioural modification, discipline, rules and rituals within the rest of the relationship I'm quite a softy.
Any advice
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Hello fellow Doms/Dommes and to their littles/slaves/property
I'm hoping an experienced Dom or sub would be able to help me out with a few questions.
I'll keep them as short as possible.
I'm a switch, I don't like to be; but it is what it is. I have recently gotten into an in the works 24/7 DDLG Read more…relationship. My submissive is also a switch, however is quite bratty and even bitchy at tones. Myself as a Daddy am a bit to lenient on her when she speaks to me with disrespect, and even when it comes to banter she's a bit hard-core. Now I'm not here to cry.
I'm asking how I can be more dominant without being domineering. E.g I tell her to do something and she refuses, I'll scold her and she carries on pushing boundaries either name calling or trying to get me to switch. I struggle because I care about her and I am a bit of a softy with discipline. Sometimes she acts out due to stress and things, at the same time I'm Daddy right? I make the rules I have the last say.
Really struggling to find a balance because I'm not my mentor who had an unflinching resolve, I still feel like I'm taking baby steps of being a good Dom.
Any help? Please and thank you.
Aaron Black
I'm hoping an experienced Dom or sub would be able to help me out with a few questions.
I'll keep them as short as possible.
I'm a switch, I don't like to be; but it is what it is. I have recently gotten into an in the works 24/7 DDLG Read more…relationship. My submissive is also a switch, however is quite bratty and even bitchy at tones. Myself as a Daddy am a bit to lenient on her when she speaks to me with disrespect, and even when it comes to banter she's a bit hard-core. Now I'm not here to cry.
I'm asking how I can be more dominant without being domineering. E.g I tell her to do something and she refuses, I'll scold her and she carries on pushing boundaries either name calling or trying to get me to switch. I struggle because I care about her and I am a bit of a softy with discipline. Sometimes she acts out due to stress and things, at the same time I'm Daddy right? I make the rules I have the last say.
Really struggling to find a balance because I'm not my mentor who had an unflinching resolve, I still feel like I'm taking baby steps of being a good Dom.
Any help? Please and thank you.
Aaron Black
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SugarCaine573 Sounds like you may need to have a talk with her bud. While you're the Dom, you're still partners. Once you talk and find out what she's needing etc etc. It sounds like you also may be more of a SoftDom, find out her behavior and maybe take a more mental route? I've also found brats that show out Read more… more when they're stressed can benefit from holding a coin to the wall with their nose. Like a "time out" thing but they have to focus on the coin and have time to calm down, or readjust their heads pace.
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· 25.03.2022 5:45:45
ringaroundtheRosey Communication is super important maybe she wants some rough discipline. I get that’s hard, as a brat myself I generally respond way better to like… Deprivation style punishments over anything else. Like orgasm denial or heavy teasing. Communication is super important maybe she wants some rough discipline. I get that’s hard, as a brat myself I generally respond way better to like… Deprivation style punishments over anything else. Like orgasm denial or heavy teasing.
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· 24.03.2022 6:40:53
BigTrav823 I would warn/talk to her to make her understand that she appears to be asking for savagery. I'd try to make sure that she understands that her actions appear to be a call for very harsh treatment, and I'd try to clarify whether she's simply "trying" you, or if she's expecting you to "lose it" on Read more… her. This may just be a hard push for you to step into your role in an intense but controlled way. You can't or shouldn't lose control or punish out of actual anger...but she may be asking, daring you to be more aggressive. But you NEED to confirm whether that's the case. If it isn't....if you warning her is met with more resistance or no information, excitement, or indication of stimulation, then it may not be a fruitful partnership. I find some brats problematic in that they're essentially trying to control the Dom into punishing them on demand, which runs counter to the dynamic in some ways. In those instances, I call it out...or, if it's too persistent or hard to manage, I disengage. This shouldn't be uncomfortable or challenging to the point that it's unpleasant. You guys should be complementary, not adverse.
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· 23.03.2022 16:25:44
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