On the one hand the whole of my erotic life revolves around spanking, restraining, verbal ***, role play,, etc etc etc.

But on the other I am looking for a real relationship built on trust, love and intimacy.

In fact my BDSM side can only flourish in trusting intimacy.

What else? I am not fixated on any specific kind of role play, but I do love DD/lg. My heart also races at the sight of a woman in a school uniform or dressed as a maid. For as long as I can remember I have loved the feel and smell of rubber.

I have a PhD, and am an academic.

There is no photo here, but if you request one I will send it.

No ***, knives or fire.