The best person to speak to is your partner. Discuss everything with then in as much detail as possible, they are the only person who can truly tell you what will and won't work for them. The lobby Chat room is also a good place to get advice and ideas.

Id say you should speak to your wife about it. It could be the start of something you never expected. Doing anything behind her back will inevitably cause guilt and detract from any pleasure you do experience. Any relationship or dynamic built on a foundation of lies will always fail and crumble. Read more… Honesty is always the best policy.

How can you think that a connection can be made after in your own words a few days. You make out that you're serious about this lifestyle yet if this was true you would know it isn't a quick process. I think the issue lies with you. Jumping straight into the deep end when you should he taking your Read more… time. I also know that turning nasty with subs and sending abusive and bad tasted messages when they don't reply quick enough isn't going to help your position. I personally think you need to take a step back and look at yourself before placing the blame on anyone else's shoulders.

Techno why do I get the feeling you're only trying to play devils advocate to get a reaction? MissHeels as always is talking perfect sense, you cannot willingly or safely enter into a D/s dynamic without first establishing a trusting relationship where information has been shared and rules and Read more… limits set. Saul is wisely asking for advice and knowledge from anyone with a greater knowledge of a deep and varied subject, before he jumps in feet first. It shows wisdom to ask for advice, wisdom beyond his years. To be the Dominant he desires to be the gaining of knowledge should and obviously is his number 1 priority. Something i fully commend him for. Good luck in your Quest Saul.

Well said tilly, very eloquently put and entirely truthful! Couldn't agree more! xx