Good replies all, thank you!
Make sense, and we've discussed it she's on bored and giving it the good old college try. My big thing was to make sure she was getting something in return. I stepped up doing everything in the house. And I just asked her her to make me do things and it seems to be slowly working
Id say I'm average in size, but when flaccid It can get really small and I love when my wife makes fun of me for it.