Yes, exactly this. I was doing it wrong, exposing people to my bratting who had not consented to experience that. Fortunately with the guidance of more experienced kinksters I learned that calling myself a brat is not a free pass for being rude to people. Save it for the bedroom folks. Or if you're Read more… going to do it at an event make sure it's only your consenting partner who is on the receiving end.

I used to have the same problem. I'd brat to get a guy's attention but the attention always turned negative because they were irritated by the bratting. Even so called "brat-tamers".
So I spoke to friends in the community on both side of the D/s slash and discovered what they were irtitated about Read more… was the disregard for consent.
Bratting was considered a play style to be acted out between two consenting partners in a dynamic. After they had both negotiated that they both liked bratting and taming. So for me to brat on a guy at an event that I wasn't in a dynamic with was a *** of consent because I had not pre negotiated if I had permission to act out that kink or behaviour. Consent is key. Just as a stranger shouldn't spank you without permission so they shouldn't brat at you.