Personal details

Gender Man
Age 45
Status Not single
Height 194cm
Weight 98kg
Body shape Athletic
Eye colour Blue
Hair length Short
Beard 5 o'clock shadow
Orientation Straight
Ethnicity Caucasian white
Body hair Some hair
Zodiac signs Cancer
Tattoos
Piercings

About me

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Description

I sometimes feel I would have liked to be a Victorian governor with responsibility for my ward. Responsible for the care and development of a young lady, but also responsible for her discipline chastisement and deportment. Walking that line between beastly and benevolent, finding that sweet spot of cherishing a sub and yet keeping them in hand. A place of safety of sorts.

Fantasies

OK what I am really after is someone who will come out into the Welsh Forests with me or skulk around abandoned mine workings and get up to mischief.......... if I told you what mischief it would spoil the suspense

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BMBen
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  • 03.04.2018 20:10:35
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
BMBen
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  • 28.02.2018 22:14:25
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
BMBen
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  • 31.01.2018 22:31:20
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
OK what I am really after is someone who will come out into the Welsh Forests with me or skulk around abandoned mine workings and get up to mischief.......... if I told you what mischief it would spoil the suspense
BMBen
icon-wio BMBen created a topic in BDSM Forum
  • 30.01.2018 22:24:44
  • London
Urethral sounding
Has anyone tried urethral sounding? I was sent a video by a masochist friend suggesting that it might be a desirable M/f activity she’d like to indulge in but in the interest of sanity and safety I am keen to hear any do’s and dont’s. I can see it is quite an intimate act but seems to carry all manner of medical risks. All advice and opinion gratefully received.
John842
John842 ➦John842 quote Deleted profile:❝Hi hun Yes I tried it about 4 months ago. It gave me the worst urine infection of my life lol. I did clean them hygienically but unfortunately I still got one. Maybe to deep. Quite a strange feeling. Not for me but you never no! Xx❞
Hi, may be (at first) a daft Read more… question, did you wear surgical gloves? Sterilize by (say) placing sounds in a pressure cooker @ 15 p.p.s.i for about 10 mins. I allow to cool to room temperature naturally. Remove wearing said gloves. I too gave myself the mother of ALL infections, hence my strong advise. Life is a college of accidents and learning.
Like · 24.09.2018 23:02:57
MrToyMan
MrToyMan Yuuboy, your sick. Yuuboy, your sick.
Like · 11.07.2018 16:07:35
Yuuboy
Yuuboy I like to get a q-tip shove it up my ass, lick the shit off it, put toothpaste on the end and shove it down I like to get a q-tip shove it up my ass, lick the shit off it, put toothpaste on the end and shove it down
Like · 11.07.2018 13:11:44
BMBen
icon-wio BMBen wrote something in the forum
  • 30.01.2018 21:51:39
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
Are you curious..?

That made me giggle and I wouldn’t have said I am a giggled, thanks Firewitch!

BMBen
icon-wio BMBen completed their confessions
  • 30.01.2018 21:47:07
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
What types of kinksters are you hoping to meet here on Fetish.com?
I am hoping to meet adventurers, people to journey with from those keen for blind folds and fur mitts naughtiness to restarints butt plugs and sounds. I am keen to celebrate those pushing their boundaries and finding new expressions of themselves.
BMBen
icon-wio BMBen completed their confessions
  • 30.01.2018 21:47:07
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
When did you discover you were kinky? Tell us about your journey through kink and BDSM.
Was there a time before, I think climbing out of my bedroom window and cavorting naked in the garden was a tip off as a kid ....probably not helped by a stash of bdsm porn am found either.
BMBen
icon-wio BMBen completed their confessions
  • 30.01.2018 21:47:07
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
What qualities are most important for you in a relationship?( BDSM, kinky or vanilla)
Honesty, openness and fun, if we can keep these things alive then all is good.
BMBen
icon-wio BMBen completed their confessions
  • 30.01.2018 21:47:07
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
Tell us a bit about your kinky lifestyle. Do you go to fetish clubs and munches, are you in a 24/7 relationship...?
I have to say I had a short run on the club scene but that wasn’t me, it’s fun and all but I think it limits creativity a bit. I prefer to play that game that hides it all in the daylight, so that no one suspects my sub walking passed them in overalls has nothing but a foxtail butt plug underneath Read more… them, but her heart beats faster because she knows.
BMBen
icon-wio BMBen completed their confessions
  • 30.01.2018 21:47:07
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
D/s: Dom/me or sub? Top or bottom? Caregiver or little? Owner or slave? Do you switch or are you unsure?
Top but in a Victorian governor way, there is more subtlety and even a little romance to it all.
BMBen
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  • 29.01.2018 14:25:07
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
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  • 29.01.2018 14:23:06
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
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BMBen
icon-wio BMBen wrote something in the forum
  • 29.01.2018 11:22:14
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
Vanilla girl brand new to any and all kinks; where the hell do I start?

Here is where you start, make friends explore questions, share fantasies and find someone to help you grow. I have to say the chatrooms are the warmest I know of.
Another thought is finding your nearest "munch", a place to meet folk in a vanilla setting. It helps to filter the strange ones from Read more… the stranger ones.

BMBen
icon-wio BMBen has updated their profile description
  • 29.01.2018 10:32:59
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single
I sometimes feel I would have liked to be a Victorian governor with responsibility for my ward. Responsible for the care and development of a young lady, but also responsible for her discipline chastisement and deportment. Walking that line between beastly and benevolent, finding that sweet spot Read more… of cherishing a sub and yet keeping them in hand. A place of safety of sorts.
BMBen
icon-wio BMBen is no longer single
  • 25.01.2018 22:43:13
  • Male (45)
  • London
  • Not single