Trust me, I get the same exact treatment! There aren't many genuine doms/subs, its very difficult to find someone who isn't just about sex or talking to many people/sleeping around. Genuine people who are into the lifestyle are difficult to find, you just have to comment on a lot of stuff and Read more… honestly if you find people in person just be open about your lifestyle. Some people arent on apps like these so you just have to be open about it

I do not want OF to promote my social media, I do not want to be famous on OF nor do I want be top 1%. Its literally just for extra money, thats all. I don't want it to be a professional contemt creator

I wouldn't even start playing with people if you are brand new, it is extremely dangerous and nobody should be starting off with play/sessions. Your main priority is to educate yourself not jump in head first

I agree with this! If you are brand new do not jump into finding a dominant. Ask others to be educated, google, etc. Before finding a dom, play partner, partner, etc you need to educate yourself first, figure out what you would like to try and most importantly learn about safe, sane and consensual. Read more… However, everybody is always gonna be new at some point so at some time in a newbies life they are gonna have to figure out what they like and advertise it. All newbies are gonna have to figure out what they want eventually and explore partners by themselves. So that being said, it depends on when you feel ready enough to go out there. I would say wait at least a year to figure everything out first and then venture out but don't jump deep into the ocean just dip your toes. If you find out that you do like it, put your feet in but never just jump in. Be careful in who you choose as a partner!! That is the most important part! I feel like as a newbie never be afraid to ask questions :)

I think whoever initiates the like on photos or whoever spanks first should message because you showed interest first. Now if its based off of profile and you see a persons profile that you would be interested in message first, the other person is obviously not gonna know if you are interested Read more… unless you say so

Honestly I feel like this is a difficult subject especially for women because women naturally can get urinary infections, yeast infections, etc and it cant be helped. Their bodies just contract them and men don't. Women can test positive on any sort of test like that but it doesn't necessarily mean Read more… they have an STD and I feel they kinda get judged on it quickly. So no matter how frequently you get tested most people will need an understanding partner or play partner when getting tested instead of just expecting someone to be clean. Testing also costs money and not everybody has that luxury so if you want someone to get tested then I feel like if they cant afford it you should definitely be willing to if you're trying to make the effort to play with them. If someone tests positive I also feel you should be willing to wait for them to be able to get clean because with antibiotics in most cases you will be clean within 7-14 days

I dont have any racial preferences so I enjoy all people

Don't feel like because you are in a Master/Slave you can no longer have limits or consent now. Also, it does not have to be 24/7, people always say that it has to be an all the time thing and that is incorrect. When leading a bdsm lifestyle its always gonna be different based on relationship Read more… types. If you wanna have a cnc master/slave relationship than that is your choice but it doesnt always have to be that way. You can still have a safe word, still have hard limits and still be treated like a person. Same with the master, you both can still be treated like people and have breaks from the dynamic :)

Everyone's qualities they seek will be different. No one person is gonna have the sane exact needs as the next. For example, I need a dom/me that has good listening and comfort skills, who will consider me as a person first before a sub at their feet and who will always take my emotions into Read more… accountability/ask for consent before everything even if we have already discussed it before. Its always good to double check before having a scene and color light throughout the scene

My least favorite quality in a dom/me is someone who keeps their Dom/me side and their real personality separate. What I mean by that is, is they keep their romantic or sweet side away from who they are as a dom/me. I dislike it when all a dom/me wants out of a session is play and not passion